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My Life with My Valentine

Updated on June 30, 2013

How I Met My Valentine

When you are young choices are made for strange reasons. When I was sixteen I went to dances every week with my friends that were held at houses of worship. You paid a small fee and stood around waiting for someone to ask you to dance. Mostly the girls would be on one side of the room and the boys on the other.

The girls would gather together and laugh a lot and the boys would act like big men and peer at the girls, sizing them up. Most of the time no one asked you to dance or you managed to get the only boy in the room who would step on your toes.

I was lucky that night. Someone asked me to dance and he was rather nice and could dance pretty well. It was a slow dance and it seemed like things were going pretty well. Then two boys came in out of nowhere and one of them asked me to dance. I asked him the absolute silliest question that a girl could ever ask, "What grade are you in?" At that time we had A and B grades, A was lower, therefore younger, and B was higher therefore older - or so it seemed. I was in 11A and so was the boy I had been dancing with, but the boy who asked me to dance the next dance was in 11B and so was at least six months to a year older than me, or so I thought.

Ray and his Chevy Impala
Ray and his Chevy Impala

The Story Behind the Beginning

How Did He Get Into the Dance and How Old Was He?

As we were dancing I learned that my partner and his boyfriend snuck into the dance through the back door which was behind the curtain on the dance floor. He spotted me dancing with someone and decided he would take a chance and ask me for the next dance. How old was this sneaky charmer? As it turns out he skipped a grade, and was, therefore, less than two months older than me. Well, at least he was older.

What could I say the guy was tall, dark and handsome, so who was I to say no thank you for the rest of the night's dances. In those days we had less fear of going home with someone we met at a dance, especially at these type of dances. So when this great looking guy asked if he could drive me home in his new pink Chevy Impala, I barely drooled out a yes.

Prom Night
Prom Night

And so It Goes

What Happened Next

After he dropped me off at my house, gave me a peck on my cheek and asked me for my phone number, he left in his new Chevy Impala pink car, waved goodbye and said he would call. One week went by, then two and no calls. I was disappointed, but I was also young and way too busy to fret over one lost opportunity.

Just as I thought there would be others, the phone rang and my dance partner asked me for a date. The first of many. Then he gave me a ring we purchased together in a store near where I lived and we went steady. I met his parents, talked on the phone, went out at least twice a week. I went to his senior prom and was runner up for Miss 213. He was in the class of 213 at his High School. I only lost, he said, because the winner's boyfriend was a judge. Well, at least it made me feel better.

My Car
My Car

Life Takes Some Stage Turns

Detour

Life was good. I was a senior in high school, had a gorgeous steady boyfriend on his way to college to study physics. But alas the relationship took a detour. But first I must get to the part where I learned how to drive my father's car which was a stick shift.

The very first time I took it out, my boyfriend, who by the way was named Ray, was sitting beside me as I drove into a parking lot and hit the car coming out. It was only a fender bender, but I was devastated. We told my father who took it very well. He would have it fixed and I could drive it again.

I tell this story because if I did not drive it again Ray and I would not have had our argument. It was not my father's car that caused the argument but the car I eventually purchased. I don't know why and if I ask him he doesn't seem to remember why this made him angry, so angry that we broke up over the fact that I bought this car. It was a used car and not nearly as nice as the one he had, but still he was upset. Thus we ended our close to three year steady relationship over my new,used car.

What Did I Do After He Left

Something I Should Never Have Done

I was eighteen when we broke up. Still young and just out of high school. I didn't go to college, at least not then, I went straight to work and straight to the dating scene. I had blind dates, on and off dates, and lots of phone calls from Ray who wanted to see me again. I was too upset to see him again, and so I continued to date until one fateful day at another event put on by my house of worship I met this young man. He was very nice, and we had a great time. He asked me out and we started dating.

I was then twenty, pushing the age when my friends were getting married. By twenty-one I was also married. Big mistake. It took me a year to realize I was not in an "until death do us part" relationship. So one day I packed up my bags, put them in my very small car and headed back to my parents' house. I was devastated. It was not like divorce was really an option in my family. Most of my family didn't know the meaning of the word. But my parents never said a thing when I arranged for a mover to take the rest of what was mine out of the apartment into storage. I moved back home, got a divorce.

Eventually, not right away, I wrote a letter to the person I should have married in the first place. Fortunately, he called me the day he received my letter and we met at my workplace for lunch and began dating again. There are no pictures in this module because the past is better left in the past.

Wedding Bells Again

This Time For Real

We dated for two years, and I finally married the man I should have married, but was too young to know any better. Actually, it was all for the best. Marriage is not for the very young. Time and a little experience can go a long way to keep you from making big mistakes. I had a chance, after my divorce, to gain some idea of what I really wanted.

I did not write that letter the minute I got a divorce, but waited almost a year. I wanted to be sure that I was not jumping into something just because I had a bad experience. I also did not write the letter without first knowing that Ray was free. I was not going to break up anyone's romance. My girlfriend had seen him and asked him how things were and he said he was still dating around. So he and I were free, no strings, nothing to stop us, but first I had to make sure. It did not really take me long to realize exactly what I wanted and so I wrote the letter and he responded and we got married.

Randy at Four Days Old
Randy at Four Days Old

And Baby Makes Three

It was all Worth it

It took five years. It seemed like forever. We were so sure it would be easy. All my friends were having babies. I thought that day would never come for us. But it did and I don't think there was ever a happier couple in this world than the day we brought our son home. I thought he was the cutest baby I ever saw and he was all ours.

I still pinch myself whenever I think about it and am so thankful for my son. Ray and I are only children. No brothers no sisters. My son is an only child, no aunts no uncles and only distant cousins. That is the way it goes, but it has been great and I would not trade it for the world. I have the best husband, the best son and the best life anyone could ever hope for. My husband is my special Valentine, and I am thankful for everything we share. I hope all your Valentines will make you as happy as mine does.

Photo Album Book - Beige
Photo Album Book - Beige

When I decided to get my photos organized, I had about 200 and thought the task was mind boggling. I purchased a photo album set similar to this one that would treat my photos with care and make them easily accessible. This set or something like it is a must if you are serious about caring for precious photos.

 

My Valentine - The Love of My Life

Some books to read to help make marriage a happy road through life. Make your marriage the best it can be. Live, love, laugh and be happy.

Lens of the Day February 2012

Lens of the Day February 2012
Lens of the Day February 2012

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      rockingretro2 4 years ago

      Beautiful story.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Lovely story (I've just wipeed a tiny tear in my eye). I wish you all the best.

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      thememorybooksh1 5 years ago

      Heart Touching Story,, i really like it.

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      dancerene 5 years ago

      Really like this lens, it makes me happy to read lovely real life love story like yours. Thanks for sharing.

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      jinggaberseri 5 years ago

      nice lens

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      jinggaberseri 5 years ago

      nice lens

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      A wonderful story, thank you for sharing with us.

      Blessed by a Squidoo Angel

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      Pam Irie 5 years ago from Land of Aloha

      ohhhh! I loved reading this page! What a handsome couple you two make (and I LOVE your fancy dress in the lead photo.) :)

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      TTMall 5 years ago

      Very informative lens. Well done!

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      Jethro 5 years ago from Philippines

      @anonymous: I agree with you, everything happens for a reason. I love reading someone else love story because I don't have a love story yet. :)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Wonderful story...seems like it is true what people say that everything happens for a reason :) Thanke you for sharing this story.

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      TeacherSerenia 5 years ago

      Congrats on the LOTD for a newbie - that is so awesome!!!!

      This is a very nice lens.

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      theeoriginal1 5 years ago

      Wonderful story here....thanks for sharing.

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      Calmgirl 5 years ago

      I'm glad you got a second chance with your valentine, so did I, and 2nd time around we really appreciate each other.

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      erinskitchen 5 years ago

      It was a nice story...Thank you for sharing it with us here at squidoo... valentines will not be complete without reading something like this and I'm glad eventhough I read it after valentines I had the chance to see check this lens here...again thank you...I enjoyed reading it ...

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      Delia 5 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! very sweet story.

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      Vicki Green 5 years ago from Wandering the Pacific Northwest USA

      What a wonderful story - Congrats on LoTD.

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      KimGiancaterino 5 years ago

      Beautiful story ... congratulations on LOTD!

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      Amyrandall 5 years ago

      thanks for sharing those sweet words. you are so sweet.

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      Amyrandall 5 years ago

      thanks for sharing those sweet words. you are so sweet.

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      Harriet 5 years ago from Indiana

      @HealingOil: Believe me I cried myself just reliving it. Thanks for reading my story.

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      HealingOil 5 years ago

      aww! this is so sweet. Please add a text module at the top asking people to get their tissues out.

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      DebMartin 5 years ago

      Beautiful story. Good for you!

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      Christine Hulme 5 years ago from SE Kent, England

      Thank you for sharing so well and so glad it all turned out well for you! I enjoyed reading.

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      Gail47 5 years ago

      What a beautiful story! I got married too early to the wrong guy - didn't last five years and I never married again. Wonder how things would have turned out if I had waited.

      Also, enjoyed the pictures. You are a great story teller in both word and pictures. Great lens.

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      bobby150 5 years ago

      thanks for sharing this lovely story!

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      miaponzo 5 years ago

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! Blessed!

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      laporter79 lm 5 years ago

      Lovely story, thank you

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      Itaya Lightbourne 5 years ago from Topeka, KS

      I loved your story! So glad it all worked out in the end so that you could be with your Valentine. Congrats on making LOTD!! :)

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      wheresthekarma 5 years ago

      THank you for sharing your story!! Glad in the end you ended up with the right man <3

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      SteveKaye 5 years ago

      What a beautiful love story. Thank you for making this lens. It lifts one's spirits.

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      lasertek lm 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing your story. I'm happy that you ended up with the man you truly love.

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      MsDolly 5 years ago

      Nothing like a good love story..nice work

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      Rhidawn 5 years ago

      Real life love story!

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      John Norman Stewart 5 years ago from Cottonwood, CA

      Congrats on a very special lens.......:)

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      Blonde Blythe 5 years ago

      Wonderful love story! Great pics, too! A big congrats on LOTD!!! :)

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      agoofyidea 5 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! A loving story.

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      AJ 5 years ago from Australia

      Very special. Congratulations on a special life.

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      MadeByTammy 5 years ago

      Beautiful Story! Congrats on LOTD!!

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      Lynne Modranski 5 years ago from Ohio

      Beautiful story and congrats on LOTD!

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      DollarTycoon 5 years ago

      Congrats on the LOTD!

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      mumsgather 5 years ago

      Your story and pictures are so sweet. A well deserved LOTD. Congrats.

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      Anahid LM 5 years ago

      hi very nice story Happy Valentine's and congratulations. All the best. Anna

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      MelonyVaughan 5 years ago

      What a sweet story! Love your pictures. Thank you for sharing this personal account from a very different and less forgiving time. God bless!

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      CutAtHome 5 years ago

      Very Inspirational! Thanks for sharing the story. Love is definitely not a fantasy. It is REALITY and very REAL at that. The battle is keeping the LOVE alive. My advice is to keep courting,don't cheat (should go w/out saying) be faithful, and do the little things that money does not buy.

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      BestMensSkinCar1 5 years ago

      It is always inspirational to read about love stories. Make them last forever!

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      nightbear lm 5 years ago

      Isn't it amazing how foolish we can be sometimes, and so not understandable... a used car... You have a wonderful gift of writing, your story was interesting and easy to read. congratulations on LOTD and being a RocketSquid. Blessed.

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      dellgirl 5 years ago

      What a wonderful story, thanks for sharing it. Congratulations on making Lens of the Day, !Awesome!

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      getmoreinfo 5 years ago

      What a lovely story and a inspiration, Thanks for sharing.

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      jakethesnakeinalake 5 years ago

      Great Story and some cool pictures!

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      Jake

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      cajkovska lm 5 years ago

      Great story and congrats on LOTD

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      LynetteBell 5 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      Congrats on LOTD! So glad you have your Valentine and sharing your story.

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      Guided Abundance 5 years ago from Mobile, AL

      A great personal story.

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      JennySui 5 years ago

      What a beautiful story, Congrats on LOTD!

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      Eileen 5 years ago from Western Cape , South Africa

      Beautiful story . Congrats on LOTD

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      Bill 5 years ago from Gold Coast, Australia

      What a great story. Congrats on LOTD :-)

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      RazzbarryBreeze 5 years ago

      What a wonderful story! Congratulations on LOTD Truly blessed ..I loved your lens.

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      bluefire1020 5 years ago

      Congrats, LotD! Thanks for sharing your love story. =)

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      MariaMontgomery 5 years ago from Central Florida, USA

      A sweet story. Liked.

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      Heather Burns 5 years ago from Wexford, Ireland

      Beautiful LOTD! Congrats!

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      TNThompson 5 years ago

      congrats on LOTD and I really enjoyed reading your story. Thank you for sharing.

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      curious0927 5 years ago

      Very good lesson in your story! Congrat's on LOTD and of course, Blessed!

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      Renaissance Woman 5 years ago from Colorado

      I meant to say congrats for your LotD honor. Very nicely done.

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      Renaissance Woman 5 years ago from Colorado

      I love happy endings (and middles). We live and we learn. It is perhaps the heartaches that transform our capacity to make the most out of second chances. I'm thankful you made your dreams come true. Wishing you all the very best.

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      BunnyFabulous 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Great story and congrats on LOTD!

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      MrWidemouth 5 years ago

      What a great story. So happy for you! Happy Valentines

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      beadsme 5 years ago

      What a lovely story.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very cool story. Congratulations on getting LOTD!

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      River_Rose 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing. Very sweet story.

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      AraceliP 5 years ago

      Awww! What a great story, thanks for sharing this with us! You two are a very lovely couple by the way!

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      Michey LM 5 years ago

      Great story Thanks for sharing

      Regards

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      Mistl 5 years ago

      Beautiful and heartwarming little story! :) Grats on LOTD

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      girlfriendfactory 5 years ago

      What a sweet and unpretentious love story that is so worthy of LoTD and a Flyby Winging, which can be found among the other blessed lenses for today at Have Wings Will Bless! They may call me an aimless wanderer, but not all who wander are aimless and I'm glad my aim was good when I wandered upon this. ~Ren

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      etravelvn 5 years ago

      Sweet!!!

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      etravelvn 5 years ago

      Sweet!!!

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      greenlungsofpoland 5 years ago

      What a beautiful well written story nicely done

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      MarkAldrich 5 years ago

      That's so sweet! May you and your husband live a long, prosperous life with your son! Belated Happy Valentine's!

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      karMALZEKE 5 years ago

      That's a sweet love story.

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      hirephp lm 5 years ago

      a very lovely story thanks for sharing and congratulation for the lens of the day

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      Burningwoodarts 5 years ago

      A very beautiful story. Thanks for sharing :)

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      MummyDearest 5 years ago

      What a lovely story..Thank you for sharing..

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      Sunshine38 LM 5 years ago

      Aww such a cute story!!

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      Susan Deppner 5 years ago from Arkansas USA

      What a sweet story and a lovely Lens of the Day!

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      Tamara Kajari 5 years ago from Zagreb, Croatia, Europe

      There's something good in every bad and yours was really good. Life surprises us all in most unexpected ways. Nice to see this lens on LOTD throne :)

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      Jules Corriere 5 years ago from Jonesborough TN

      What a lovely, sweet story. Congratulations on Lens of the Day. It's wonderful to hear a happy ending.

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      Angela F 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

      What a sweet and inspiring story. Congrats on LotD!

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      Matthew 5 years ago from Silicon Valley

      An extremely touching and heartfelt story. One never knows where life will take us, but somehow it leads to a happy, better place. Thank you for sharing and may you have many years of love in your future.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Love will find a way, congratulations on this LotD sweetness!

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      Titia Geertman 5 years ago from Waterlandkerkje - The Netherlands

      Congrats on the LOTD, hope you will happily live forever. Great story.

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      MAlves1009 5 years ago

      Very sweet!!!

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      writerkath 5 years ago

      Congratulations on your LOTD! What a lovely story! I always love happy endings like this! :) Great photos, too... :) Blessed.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Love the pictures! Heart warming story. Thanks for sharing with us.

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      DimitriPreacher 5 years ago

      Congrats on the LOTD!!

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      faye durham 5 years ago

      Great story! Congrats on getting LOTD.

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      LornsA178 5 years ago

      What a nice Valentine's story. Thanks for sharing. God bless.

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      Harriet 5 years ago from Indiana

      Thank you all. I am so excited my Valentine story was chosen lens of the day. My husband thinks he is a star.

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      Very nice story! Congratulations on Lens of the Day!

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      katiecolette 5 years ago

      It really is amazing how things sometimes work out. Beautiful story and photos!

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      happynutritionist 5 years ago

      That's quite a story...congrats on getting LOTD today:-)