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One Irrefutable Killer of Success-Excuse

Updated on October 20, 2012

Why do others seems to have all the luck and not me? This is a common question many ask but never get to really dig deeper for answers. There are many reasons why others become successful in doing what they do and others just don’t tend to pull the plug. One irrefutable reason is excuse. Alexander Pope said an excuse is worse than a lie, for an excuse is a lie, guarded. If we put it in other words, an excuse is a half baked lie. As a freelance writer and business writing coach for over a decade, I meet hundred and thousands of people every year with excuses. Some of them genuine and most of them not genuine at all.



“We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible.

” François de la Rochefoucauld

Excuses prevents you from realizing your true potential

Excuse is one thing that keeps a person from realizing his true potential. True potential in a person is exposed or rather discovered in the Doing. Not just Talking. Many excuses are well structured for the reason that those very excused have been used for over many years. Practice makes perfect right! So it becomes. The use of same excuses over many years eventually makes the person to be a clever excuse maker.


“We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible"

~François de la Rochefoucauld

Excuses are Made, not Born

Excuses are what our upbringing or environment conditions us to be. Maybe be fast failures or accidents or just imaginary stories may cause us not to take action in pursuing our dreams. Because of this, others come to believe that, what they are is what they are born with. This is the biggest excuses in the whole world and is the greatest lie ever told.

François de la Rochefoucauld, the greatest maxim writer of France, one of the best memoir writers, and perhaps the most complete and accomplished representative of her ancient nobility, and author of Maxims, said “We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible.”


Excuse are made, not born
Excuse are made, not born

Excuse Create in you a Negative Belief System

Our thoughts determine our words and our words determine actions. What happens is, the more you think you can’t and keep giving excuses, which of course is a half baked lie, you unconscious mind gathers those thoughts and assemble them together to form a negative image about you. That then, becomes what you believe yourself to be. In short, your belief system. A negative belief system discourages you to take action, breeds fear that lowers your personal confidence and motivation. When you confidence and motivation is crushed, please take an oath and pledge a good by toy our dream life. It is as simple as that.


Excuse Root from Deeply Embedded Fears

I have a lady friend who is a wannabe writer. She is a natural born thinker and talker. My dear lady friend carries a book around her head. Every time she talks to me, she talks about her dream of writing as a freelance writer. “Oh, Ian, I want to be w freelance writer like you” and then she will go on and on. When I ask her few days later “hey champion, did you started writing already? She would say “Oh Ian, because of this and I did that and that and I did this “and on and on.

When I meet certain people like that, I already know there are underlying problems. Even many deny the fact that there is a problem. Sadly, they live in under self-denial and pretense.


Examples of some well structured excuses

This list contains few of the many excuses I have encountered over the years. Do you relate to one or few? Does is sound like you? Huh! Time for soul searching. Find out your excuse, crush it and see what life has in stock for you.

  • I want to start my own business BUT I just don’t have enough money
  • I can’t get that job that promotion because I don’t have a college degree
  • I just don’t have time
  • I’m too busy
  • I’m too old to get rich
  • I am too young to be wise
  • I am not smart enough
  • My dad and mum never thought me to be rich
  • My kids take up all my time
  • She or he is too good for me
  • She or she is too dumb for me to work with
  • Life is simple, why bother

And on and on and on……………..


Journey of million life start with a single step"

Chinese Proverb

Let me finish this

Hey, guys! I am outer breath.Such a long list huh! You can find your own excuses and add to my list. Let me sum this hub up before you run away. Before you do anything, ask yourself this simple questions “What is my dream in life? What have I done last year, last month, last week, and today to achieve this dream?

If you haven’t done anything, you need to take stock of your life. Excuse is one thing that is slowing your personal growth. Crush its head. How you ask? I say “Go out and do the very thing you say you are not able to do”. The old Chinese proverbs go like “Journey of million life start with a single step”. Take that single step and rest would be history.


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      Melissa A Smith 4 years ago from New York

      Your logic is pretty misguided. It's most apparent in your claim that 'being 43 is no excuse' to be a skimpy little make-up clad, photo-shopped model. They are called genes. They have enormous effects on human physiology, behavior, memory, and personality. Excuses have nothing to do with anything. That is an illusion you've created to sort people into categories so you can easily criticize them. But life happens not to be that simple. You cannot compare one exceptional person to another.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      First of all, your interpretation is misguided just as you stated my logic is misguided. Secondly, let me welcome you to to 21st century. The word gene is well researched, defined and widely use by the wider science community and general public. Not to forget Ihold BSc. Ag, with hons, to understand that term, and its usage in proper context.

      Thirdly, unless you deal with people who are struggling to be successful in life, by building a positive mindset and raising them up, then you will understand what I mean when I say, "crush your excuses if you want to be successful in life"

      Life is simple for those that believe it to be. As a trainer, I deal with many people that don't realize one excuse leads to another and before the day is over, ten excuse are created. I have no intention to criticize as you, as you miss interpreted my writing. As I writer, I understand that is it always possible for readers to miss interpret.

      That is my view on your comment.

      Ian

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      flashmakeit 4 years ago from usa

      Motivating article that could help someone come close to reaching their dreams or goals.

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      Russ Moran 4 years ago from Long Island, New York

      Awesome and inspirational Ian. Excuses are those little messages our mind sends us all the time. Your hub reminds us that we can control our own lives. With all due respect to Melissa Smith, unless we believe that we are ONLY a function of our genetic makeup, we have no freedom at all. I'm with you my friend. Great job. Voted up useful and awesome. Also, excellent use of pictures and callouts.

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      Melissa A Smith 4 years ago from New York

      Rfmoran, I have freedom in common sense. The objective is to have a healthy balance of both. My comments were directed toward certain photos that have been removed in this hub.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks Melisa for dropping by and commenting. In terms of traffic, it's worth your visit and time spend on my site. The photo that caused confusion has been removed for your information. You said my logic was misguided. In actual fact, it was the photo you should directly tell me to remove and I would have patiently do so.. You simply went on and made a hasty generalization, uncalled for high caliber writers like you and me. That implies you never read through the hub but only saw the photos and drew conclusion that my logic was misguided. Let this be something you learn from. Read, understand the "said" and "unsaid" (intangible) interpretations before you make assumptions, conclusions or recommendations. Technical writers should look at arguments or issues discussed in all angles and not just one restricted angle.

      Cheers.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      rfmoran

      How you doing? Hope you hubbing just fine. Thanks for dropping by and enforcing my thoughts on this subject matter.

      You see, I have yet to meet a person who doesn't dream of something in life. Or I have yet to meet a person who wish for NOTHING in life...Million wish for SOMETHING, but very few make it happen. I am one of those people that preach "Lets make it happen". "Lets go get em"...Life is simple as Melisa said. That's right. But even to get some very simple things in life, you need to work without excuse. You have no excuse, so you write here in Hub Pages. I have friends who can have greater impact here of earn pretty good dollars in here can't do so because, Why? Excuses. Saying life is simple is Just another EXCUSE, added to my list given in the hub. By the way, I'll add it to my list. Thanks to Melisa.

      The satisfaction I get is when my clients a call me at odd times to tell me "Ian, guess what! i just saved $100 dollars" or "Ian, I completed first manuscript of my book". Or "Ian, I got a job interview call"....It may be that small, but to give them the will-power, determination and a purpose in life to life for, is something I find personally satisfying.

      Thanks again my friend for the comment and much needed vote.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      flashmakeit

      You said it all. The least we can do is encourage other fellow human beings to reach their true potentials in life. Be it becoming a millionaire or or just being e best mum, dad, brother or sister. Dr. Myles Munroe said "Cemetery is the richest place on earth"..You know why? Because of unused potentials, values, skills, resources. Let's find our purpose in live it to the fullest.

      I am glad you found this hub motivational.

      Kind regards

      Ian

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      Melissa A Smith 4 years ago from New York

      I just want you to know that I skimmed your hub before. I just had issues understanding some of it, some of the sentence structures are a little off. But I think I got the main gist of it.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      I appreciate your view Mel. Good luck in your writing.

      Ian

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Well structured or not well structure isn't my problem. My concern is to show a personal what he or she is made of so that he or she can bring out the best in her.

      Thanks all for your contributions.

      Cheers.

      Ian

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      Christopher Antony Meade 4 years ago from Gillingham Kent. United Kingdom

      Very inspirational article. Now I just need to get up of my lazy butt and put some of your fine advice into action.

      See you at the top.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Hey Chris.Its a dull afternoon here in Papua New Guinea. Hope you doing great in your your part of the world...

      Thanks for dropping by.

      It's afternoon here and I'm packing up to go home. See you guys tomorrow.

      Bye bye.

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      A.E. Williams 4 years ago from Hampton, GA

      Nice work Ian. Thanks for sharing this! :)

      -Aubrey

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