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One Irrefutable Killer of Success-Excuse
Why do others seems to have all the luck and not me? This is a common question many ask but never get to really dig deeper for answers. There are many reasons why others become successful in doing what they do and others just don’t tend to pull the plug. One irrefutable reason is excuse. Alexander Pope said an excuse is worse than a lie, for an excuse is a lie, guarded. If we put it in other words, an excuse is a half baked lie. As a freelance writer and business writing coach for over a decade, I meet hundred and thousands of people every year with excuses. Some of them genuine and most of them not genuine at all.
“We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible.
” François de la Rochefoucauld
Excuses prevents you from realizing your true potential
Excuse is one thing that keeps a person from realizing his true potential. True potential in a person is exposed or rather discovered in the Doing. Not just Talking. Many excuses are well structured for the reason that those very excused have been used for over many years. Practice makes perfect right! So it becomes. The use of same excuses over many years eventually makes the person to be a clever excuse maker.
“We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible"
~François de la Rochefoucauld
Excuses are Made, not Born
Excuses are what our upbringing or environment conditions us to be. Maybe be fast failures or accidents or just imaginary stories may cause us not to take action in pursuing our dreams. Because of this, others come to believe that, what they are is what they are born with. This is the biggest excuses in the whole world and is the greatest lie ever told.
François de la Rochefoucauld, the greatest maxim writer of France, one of the best memoir writers, and perhaps the most complete and accomplished representative of her ancient nobility, and author of Maxims, said “We have more ability than will power, and it is often an excuse to ourselves that we imagine that things are impossible.”
Excuse Create in you a Negative Belief System
Our thoughts determine our words and our words determine actions. What happens is, the more you think you can’t and keep giving excuses, which of course is a half baked lie, you unconscious mind gathers those thoughts and assemble them together to form a negative image about you. That then, becomes what you believe yourself to be. In short, your belief system. A negative belief system discourages you to take action, breeds fear that lowers your personal confidence and motivation. When you confidence and motivation is crushed, please take an oath and pledge a good by toy our dream life. It is as simple as that.
Excuse Root from Deeply Embedded Fears
I have a lady friend who is a wannabe writer. She is a natural born thinker and talker. My dear lady friend carries a book around her head. Every time she talks to me, she talks about her dream of writing as a freelance writer. “Oh, Ian, I want to be w freelance writer like you” and then she will go on and on. When I ask her few days later “hey champion, did you started writing already? She would say “Oh Ian, because of this and I did that and that and I did this “and on and on.
When I meet certain people like that, I already know there are underlying problems. Even many deny the fact that there is a problem. Sadly, they live in under self-denial and pretense.
Examples of some well structured excuses
This list contains few of the many excuses I have encountered over the years. Do you relate to one or few? Does is sound like you? Huh! Time for soul searching. Find out your excuse, crush it and see what life has in stock for you.
- I want to start my own business BUT I just don’t have enough money
- I can’t get that job that promotion because I don’t have a college degree
- I just don’t have time
- I’m too busy
- I’m too old to get rich
- I am too young to be wise
- I am not smart enough
- My dad and mum never thought me to be rich
- My kids take up all my time
- She or he is too good for me
- She or she is too dumb for me to work with
- Life is simple, why bother
And on and on and on……………..
“Journey of million life start with a single step"
Let me finish this
Hey, guys! I am outer breath.Such a long list huh! You can find your own excuses and add to my list. Let me sum this hub up before you run away. Before you do anything, ask yourself this simple questions “What is my dream in life? What have I done last year, last month, last week, and today to achieve this dream?
If you haven’t done anything, you need to take stock of your life. Excuse is one thing that is slowing your personal growth. Crush its head. How you ask? I say “Go out and do the very thing you say you are not able to do”. The old Chinese proverbs go like “Journey of million life start with a single step”. Take that single step and rest would be history.