Are you perfectionist?
Someone become perfectionist because the demands of the environment. There are many reason become a perfectionist. Avoid the anger of parents, can not be a champion, or the threat of being fired if you make a mistake in working environment. Perfectionist can also arise as an attempt to avoid bad feelings( emotional Pain). To cover the bad feelings they try to reach anything with the hope they get better result and they feel happy after that.
One thing make a trouble from the plan even though a small part of plan the reaction could be very negative for perfectionist. Perfectionist usually bury anxiety and they felt not good enough than anything else. This situation like a vicious circle. Not all perfectionist express their feeling. Consequently they have bad mentally.
The perfectionist usually........
- Sometimes they hard to accept the opinion objectively
- They have high curiosity
- Very carefully, could be a small stain on the shoe make them feel bad.
- They must always be right, anti-error.
- Too demanding. they want everyone agree with their opinion.
- Obsessive,they will not stop until the plans will come true.
- Keep watching. Ready the umbrella before the rain falling.
- When they think something, although it was not important at all, they can't sleep well.
- Too well-organized, all must be in the right place.The world would be upside down if there is a little mistake.
- They don't want equated with other people. if the same is not special.
This Flower is perfect, how about you?
The positive from the perfectionist
- They think there must be a solution or the way when they find the problem. They always think positively.They also doing the best.
- Always farsighted, continue to uphold the principle, keep stable and disciplined.
- Tried with maximum effort.
- Leading with the right rule and high quality.
- Doing the complete task with the right procedure.
- The appearance is usually neat, clean and good looking.
- Working with plan and have good commitment.
- carefully, accurate, trying to avoid a fatal error.
- Innovative, try to find the alternative or the possibility to reach something.
Perfectionist is acceptable
Actually perfectionist is difficult categorized as a bad character. Because they have big responsibility, have high standard and hard worker. There are two categories from perfectionist. positive perfectionist and negative perfectionist.
Positive perfectionist they wouldn't satisfied when their aim not achieve. They push their self with hard work until the plan reached. They like to give spirit to their self like a reward when they reach something. They always keep high and positive motivation. The challenge is kind of opportunity to test their ability.
The opposite is Negative perfectionist. They always find the weakness of their self. Always critical their self. Satisfied is forbidden for them. They are easily depressed and frustrated. They spent a lot of energy and the effect is easy getting sick.
Saw you in the mirror, are you perfect?
or like her......
How to make it better
- Appreciate your self. There is a sensitive person when they judge by other people. And they felt the critical is as a punishment. They just need self introspection. Don't worry when other people laughing you. When we think that it is good for us, all the frightened will disappear.
- Try to keep "healthy". Avoid kind of stress by exercise, massage, meditation, or talk the problem with friend or family.
- Better seeking the improvement than chasing the perfection. When we chasing the perfection we have to ready accept the frustrated and disappointment. While, improvement better easier done than chasing the perfection which we actually don't know the end. Try to fix something in life little by little. Achieve somethings requires a process, change, improvement, growth and efforts to move forward. Nobody is perfect !
Perfect is good
Perfect means completely, not defective, finished with the best result, The fact is difficult to find the perfectness. The Two of the most perfect diamond in the world will not be exactly the same. Shakespeare said, " There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so" It back to us. It depend our thinking .