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How to Be Smarter Than Your Pride is Big

Updated on September 17, 2013
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Don't Let Pride Sabotage You!

We all would probably say that we highly value intelligence and wisdom. Yet in the everyday actions we choose in our life might not reflect that high value. In fact, if people were left to just observing us, would they even know we value wisdom and knowledge if just left to what our actions say about us?

I am speaking to myself first before anyone else here, but have observed pride taking control of people's lives to a strange degree sometimes. I see it also from the top to the bottom. I mean from very powerful positions to the lowest members of society. Sometimes, it is the unlikely ones, even children sometimes that seem to be wiser than their years would suggest. So what is going on exactly?

Life is Precious and Short

Well, I have come to the conclusion that life is precious and short. Even the longest lived life really goes relatively quickly. This isn't to be negative, just practical. It is meant to encourage at least myself to really think things through and make the most of the precious little time we have. I personally believe this is one part of an eternal life but that is something for another time. I am speaking now of this precious life, and I think we can all agree that we have at least that! It is a gift, and we are sometimes wasting it.

Ideas Shape Our Life

So ideas matter. Pride is something that comes natural to humans. We all have a level of pride that we have had to struggle with or deal with since we were children. If you think about it, you know that is true! We see others in the mean time taking more humble courses in life, and sometimes we might wonder at that.

However, the humble person is sometimes I think the wiser person, not necessarily weak. In fact, it could be the humble person is immensely wise and in that sense is very confident which all translates into power. We need to not miss these kinds of ironies in life. They are there for the observing, and to be teaching tools I think.

Everyone of us has some core beliefs, and ideas that we work from in life. This is our philosophy. Everyone has one whether or not they recognize it.

Not Letting Our Pride Rule and Ruin Our Lives

The point about not letting our pride override what we know is right or true is something I think that is very important. I don't say this lightly and I recognize that it is easier said than done. I have seen people lose everything for what really turned out to be pride when all was said and done. We are all wrong about something at some point or other. It takes a very strong person to admit and recognize this.

It is very possible that we can make a bad situation even worse for the ignoring of it. This seems crazy at first glance, but it is exactly what some people are truly tempted to do when things get tough. Rather than admit they were wrong and draw up a new course or set of ideas, they tend to dig in their heels. I mean that we don't budge, and we don't want to be wrong, as if that can make that wrong choice go away. What do we do this for? It hurts us!

It is the stronger and wiser person that admits this. Wise and strong and respectable people also know and recognize this. Regardless of whether or not you have that one friend or relative or two that will rub your nose in a mistake or not, it is better to do the right thing than not, just to not have to admit or seem to acknowledge a mistake.

Our Children and Others are Watching Us

Whether or not you admit it, others watch how we deal with the tough things in life. Do it for those you love, if not for yourself. Let the naysayers say what they will. Who cares, especially long term?

In regards to our lives, I sometimes think of this question. "Who is driving that bus?" Who is driving the bus of your life? Are we really in control or is something else? If we let pride rule our decision making processes, then we are letting pride drive that bus. We need to think better to enjoy this precious life.

We need to encourage ourselves to be more like this, and those around us and our leaders. I truly believe will have personally happier and better lives, and also societies. That sounds like a winning idea to me!

Think Winning Thoughts While Saying No To Pride

I know that I am learning as I go, and this is something that just jumped out to me. I want to be able to say I was wrong if and when I am. It is so much easier to think about it in advance than when we need to face our pride head on later. It may not be pride exactly, but you get the idea.

I may be wrong in some of my own ideas, and would love to hear your feedback. One more thing to consider however. That is that by looking throughout history, you can see people and rulers that had to learn this very lesson the hard way. We see this idea playing out as well in our favorite books, shows and movies. It is a part of human nature and a fact of life. We can enjoy more all along the way I think if we live smarter and appreciate the little joys and beauty of life.

My hope here is simple. It is that I and hopefully others might think more about the greater good, over the long haul, over what may or may not hurt our pride. We need to not fear a little bit of hurt pride for a time. I think morality and good ideas can make our world a better place. That and a genuine search for what is true. The topic here falls into that. Let use rule our pride rather than letting it rule us!

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      Paula 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

      Hi Beth, thank you! So glad you think it is an important topic. I agree, it isn't talked about too often.

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      Beth37 4 years ago

      I love that you wrote about this. It's a very important topic, one seldom talked about.

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      puella 4 years ago

      Humility, in some societies, is formally misinterpreted; it is usually paired with a weakness of character when it really is the opposite. The problem of this mis-interpretation is more rooted in some cultural beliefs associated with low level or high level of social level (which might, as well/in turn,be related to originally a low-level of society too). Yes, on both status, humility is seen as a weakness, although it can be more inflictuous at lower-level social realm...and then what we see is a false pride (not the right one for doing as much we ought all the times to fulfill our roles) or a steely pride at higher levels of society, which projects almost as a heartless pride; both, false humility, false pride, can be related is most cases to a cruel lack of love in younger years within an already struggling family circle (if at all in a family circle)...Supposedly, with the years and life's usual stony roads, pride can be outdone and so false humility if we become a "know-thyself' person; otherwise, it will be a life of what any falsity can collect: more of the same...

      To be true to oneself brings the best of us forward; it speaks us out of integrity and truthworthiness...which is a magical door-opener to relationships and success, whatever we are considering a true success and not the 'general' concept which is or can be another falsity...and source of more sources of unhappiness.

      Your hub is enlightening and make us think over our life and clear some why's and some how's and some goals too. TY and voted up.

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      Paula 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

      Hello HeadlyvonNoggin, I totally hear what you are saying. That is part of what I am talking about, and how great that you are enjoying life after letting go of fear of looking one way or another. Who really cares anyway? When we care too much about what others think, usually nothing good comes from that anyway. It is great to hear that you know what I am talking about and experienced the cause and effect difference. Humility, honesty and reality are a much better way to go and you are right, frees up other people to not stress either if they should mess up. Very encouraging. Thanks for your comment!

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      Jeremy Christian 4 years ago from Texas

      Good hub. You are exactly right. I spent way too much of my life worried about making a fool of myself in sight of others that I basically wouldn't take the risk and would end up not doing anything. The best years of my life have been the years after I finally let go of my fear of looking like a fool and embraced the idea of "dancing like no one is looking". Nobody's perfect, so letting your faults and your mistakes show only make you more endearing and relateable to others, and handling them with grace and humility show others that messing up isn't the end of the world and that you will not be one to ridicule them if they were to mess up.