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Tired Of Being Lied To and Cheated On: Find out the Truth!

Updated on May 15, 2012

Become a Human Lie Detector

You ever get a gut feeling that some dishonesty is going on? You may have a strange feeling that your teenager is doing drugs, or your husband or wife may be cheating on you or a good friend is being dishonest. We all hate being lied to, especially by husbands, wives, children relatives and co-workers. When we have a suspicion of being lied to, as human beings we do three things: We choice to ignore the situation, we confront the person, or we tend to try to gather more information. Well we don't have to be left in the dark anymore, driving ourselves crazy, snooping around trying to find answers. There are many techniques that can be used on a daily basis to figure out if your being lied to. Technique 1. Verbalizing The way we verbalize things can make all the difference in how to tell if someone is lying. For example, you want to ask a question that does not accuse the person. If you do accuse the person, it will put them in complete defensive mode and you may never find out the truth. This is how you would ask your child if there doing drugs: "Hi billy, can I talk to you for a second, My friend Abby believes her daughter is doing drugs, since your a teenage I was wondering if you could give us some idea's on how to approach the situation"? If the the teenager is guilty of doing drugs, he will immediately become very uncomfortable and try to change the subject, if he isn't doing drugs,then he will be pleased you asked for his input and advise you happily. Another example, in the workplace: A manager suspects an employee is steeling from the work place, "Mrs Woods, Id like your advice on something, an employee here at 2nd National Bank is steeling money, do you have any suggestions on how I can deal with this issue"? Remember look for uneasiness and quick to change the subject, you will result in a liar ever time.

Couples, you may have questions in the back of your mind about a husband or wife or significant other. The number one questions couples like to ask is "Are you happy in your marriage or relationship"? Or is she still happy or is he still happy. People who are in a happy marriage are grateful for there spouse, and tend not to take advantage of them. So the question that should be asked is "Do you think taking advantage of your spouse is simply a part of being married"? If he or she responds "YES, this is a red flag that he or she may not be happy in the marriage or relationship, and may have thought about cheating or already is cheating. There are some Physical ways to tell if a person is lying: The eyes the eyes can say a lot when a person is lying or about to lie, darting eyes for example is a sign of hiding something. Blinks, When people get nervous, there blink rate increases. Voice, the persons voice may crack or become pitchy, the sound may become higher, when people become nervous or stressed there vocal cord muscles tighten. Difficulty swallowing, When people become nervous they have difficulty swallowing and swallows become harder. Respiration's also when people become stressed they try to control there breathing to stay calm, inhaling and exhaling.

How to tell If Your date is interested or just after some sideline bedroom action. Once again lets begin with the eyes, Pupil dilation can be very effective in trying to find out if your date is really interested or not. When a person has true interest, there pupils dilate, when a person is less interested there pupils constrict and get smaller. so no matter what's coming out of that persons mouth about how much they really adore you, just check the eyes first, it may all be a bunch of bullshit! Curiosity is a great thing, you want your date to be curious, a person interested in you will want to know more about you and ask questions. If a person is not curious and your date just sits and babbles about him or her self or other things and not inquire anything about you, not only is this person selfish, but trust me they have no interest in you. So your probably wondering, "well why did they ask me out on a date"? If your a women with an uninterested man, most likely its for sexual purposes, if your a man with an uninterested female, it may be your money she is after.

Red Flags you may be dating a beater Well with this topic we have to add a bit of some psychology here, but its not hard. Listening is a very good way to determine if your dating a beater. Does he or she talk about there childhood, parents or siblings in a very violent or negative tone? Studies have shown a whopping 100 percent of rapist and serial killers have been abused as a child. Not suggesting that someone who has been abused will partake in this kind of behavior, these are just the stats. Watch how the person chooses to resolve problems, does he use force or violence to get the things he or she wants? Does he become angered over little things, for example, lets say your dating a guy and he's over to your house and your child spills kool aid on his sneakers accidental, does he become enraged and overreacts yelling and screaming and knocking things over. Is he or she cruel to animals, take him or her to pet shop just to look around, see how he or she interacts, some people just don't like animals this doesn't make them a bad person, but harsh cold obscene things should not be said. Jealously a little playful jealously in a relationship is normal, high levels of jealously is dangerous, and shows your mate has some deep rooted insecurities. Do you feel scared of this person? If you fear the person your dating, then honestly you should not be dating them at all. Another good way to tell if your dating a beater is to bring them around friends or family. Friends and family can pick up on things we tend to turn a blind eye to because we are actually interested in the person. If your friends or family make statements like "There's just something about this guy, I cant put my finger on it, but it just doesn't set well with me". Statements like this one should be a RED FLAG that something may be wrong. The tips in this blog are used by FBI agents and can be used in your everyday life, why be lied to and cheated on if you don't have to be, or potentially may be entering an abusive relationship.Use these techniques on lovers, friends and family and your children and the get the truth you deserve.


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      kafsoa 6 years ago

      Very nice helpful hub. Rated up and useful :)

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      January Moon 6 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @kafsoa thanks a lot, im glad you enjoyed the up :)

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      Dexter Yarbrough 6 years ago from United States

      Hi Cherrycrime26. Very informative hub, as usual. I will be sure to pass it along.

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      January Moon 6 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @Dexter Thanks Dex, your always so supportive.

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      Thomas Silvia 6 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi cherrycrime26, a very informative and well written hub .

      useful and vote up !!!

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      January Moon 6 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @kashmir56 Thank you so much :)

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      Tammy 6 years ago from USA

      This was a very helpful hub...thanks!

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      January Moon 6 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @tlpoague Your so welcome.

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      SpiffyD 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      I like the points made in this hub. Most persons give subtle signs about their character. The reason some persons are effective with deceptive is that we either overlook the signs or do not perceive them at all. Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      January Moon 5 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @SniffyD Thank you so much :)

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      Elizabeth 4 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Great hub, and valid points. Sometimes all it takes is to fine tune your observation skills to pick up a persons vibe.

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      January Moon 4 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      @rainpurplewine Yes these are great tips and they work!

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