Can Science Explain Our Desire for Perfection?
What does it mean to be perfect?
Biology suggests that the perfect human is one that proposes a threat, but not quite enough to invoke fear. They are a generally relaxed personality with more fight reflexes than flight. Why is this type of person the one we feel the most comfortable around?
The impulse for your peers to be safe people is a quality that we are naturally born with. Your ancestors spent decades, even centuries piecing together who is appropriate to have stick around and who isn't based on their survival instincts.
In the earliest eras the hominid most likely had anxieties about being protected from the outside world, or not having enough sustenance to feed themselves/their families. They sought out those around them that could ease the worries and bring happiness back into their lives. Not only were we reaching for others to fulfill and enrich our community, but we aspired to be the one that our companion's found a fundamental key in.
Humans giving off the idea of comfort send endorphins to our locus cereleus, the part of the brain responsible for the desire of courtship. This specific area of our noggin is important because without it, we would not have been able to carry on the species or form any sort of human relation at all.
Is Frontal Lobe 'Withdrawal' the cause of social crashing?
Social acceptance has become paramount to the 20th century individual. It is a curious subject to pursue, while in our 'golden age' we face hardly any serious threat, yet we still feel it necessary to be loved by those around us. Why?
As mentioned earlier, we form personal bonds through our locus coereleus, which sends millions of sparks through our mentality and in turn makes us very happy people. A manifold of recent scholars have hinted the possibility that we are merely addicts to happiness, that we crave the feeling of acquiescence for no apparent reason other than we cannot get enough affirmation.
How the idea of perfection in evolution developed reminds us that while we react to rejection aggressively, we are victims to nothing but an illusion of being important.
The hardest lesson to learn is that pain is a simple compromise we endure so that we can get whatever it is we need from in life. My concluding message to those reading this article is to not let the clouds of false guidance steer you in the wrong direction. Someone, somewhere considers you significant. We are lucky enough to live a long expedition composed of experiences that force us to understand ourselves better. No one knows when we will reach the end of our travels, so take time to enjoy it for the reasons you deem mandatory.