Some people will do anything to see you fail. Has anyone ever told you that you were wasting your time after telling them of a great idea you dreamed up? People who lack vision are often envious of those who have inventive imagination. They will go out of their way to destroy your dream.
Dream killers are common, and people ascribe many different names to them. To some people, a dream killer is simply a jealous person. To others, they are known as haters. But there is a common name for people that go out of their way to destroy your dream: they are “Dream Killers.” Dream killers have been around since the beginning of time, but before we talk about others who might destroy your dreams, let’s talk about the number one silent dream killer: procrastination.
Procrastination Will Kill Your Dreams
Almost everyone has procrastinated about something, such as changing a diet, giving up smoking, starting an exercise program, or saving money procrastination is a self-inflicted, self-destructive measure that will destroy your dreams and become your suicidal dream killer.
Procrastination is when you continually put off action until a later time or date. Procrastination will prevent you from pursuing your dreams altogether. I once procrastinated about writing a book. Whenever I thought about writing an article or a book, I would think about things that had nothing to do with writing. I thought about things like finding a publisher, signing a once-in-a-lifetime book deal, and other things like book promotion, all of which had nothing to do with the actual writing of the book. Not long after such thoughts flooded my mind, I would become discouraged. Ultimately, I would doubt my ability and begin speaking negatively about my dream, asking myself questions like "Who would publish my book?" and "Am I author material?"
These negative thoughts ranged on for years until one day, I forgot about the negativity, opened my laptop, and began writing. Once I did, I became electrified and motivated. “THE FACE OF A DEMON,” the book that I procrastinated about writing for so long, became my first published eBook and finally became my first published book. I went on to publish my first book "Believing Faith Speaks."
Procrastination is probably the first dream killer that you will encounter, but it is also the easiest to overcome. All you have to do is stop thinking about it and be about it, and in little or no time, you will become motivated to build upon your dream.
How to Spot a Dream Killer
It is easy to spot a dream killer because they rarely have anything good to say. If you say good morning, they will answer, “What’s so good about it?” Ask a dream killer simple questions like, “How are you feeling today?” and “Isn’t this a beautiful morning?” they will give you this long list of negative complaints that rarely ends.
When you tell a dream killer about your dream, they will often say, “You have to be realistic.” But the reality of a dream is there is nothing realistic about it. Dreams do not have to be practical to become a reality. Every great accomplishment and contribution to humanity was once someone’s dream. The computer you are viewing this article on was once nothing more than a dream. Your dream is your personal view of what you would like your world to be like, and you should never allow someone to rob you of such a valuable asset.
Weed Out Unwanted Voices
Begin with yourself; learn to weed out the voices in your head. All successful people have had to deal with their own thoughts that sometimes sound like voices in your head. When your thoughts are positive consider and research them, but when they become negative you must immediately stop. Negative thoughts can lead to procrastination and procrastination can cause you to become content with where you are in live and you will never start to build your dream.
Never allow anyone to confiscate your dream. Don’t allow your dreams to become the object of your friends and associates comments and criticism. Make your dreams your biggest secret. When seeking advice find someone who has been where you are trying to go. Although your friends may mean well, they are more than likely misinformed and will only misguide you. Don’t ask a mechanic how to bake a turkey; you will probably end up with a greasy mess.
Dream killers will always tell you that you cannot succeed; don’t listen to them. When external criticism becomes personal it gives birth to fear. Fear will then eat away at your courage, and courage is the one thing that you cannot forfeit when building your dream. Never share your dreams with these predictors of doom. Just remember that misery likes company.
Dream killers are capable of destroying your dream, but they can only succeed if you let them. So how do you cope with dream killers?
© 2010 Eric Dunbar