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Dream Killers

Updated on May 28, 2012

I bet you didn’t know that there are people out there who will do anything to see you fail. Has anyone ever told you that you were wasting your time after you told them of a great idea that you dreamed up? People who lack vision are often envious of those who do, and they will go out of their way to destroy another's dream.

Dream killers are common and people ascribe many different names to them. To some people a dream killer is simply a jealous person, to others, they are known as haters, but there is a common name for people that go out of their way to destroy your dream… they are “Dream Killers”. Dream killers have been around since the beginning of time, but before we talk about others who might destroy your dreams let’s talk about the number one silent dream killer: procrastination.

Almost everyone has at one time or another, procrastinated about something, whether it was changing a diet, giving up smoking, starting an exercise program or saving money, procrastination is a self-inflicted, self-destructive measure that will destroy your dreams and become your own suicidal dream killer.

Procrastination is when you continually put off an action until a later time or date. Procastination will prevent you from pursuing your dreams altogether. I once procrastinated about writing a book. Every time I thought about writing I would start to think about things that had nothing to do with writing the book. I thought about things like finding a publisher, signing a once in a lifetime book deal, and other things like book promotion, all of which had nothing to do with the actual writing of the book. Not long after such thoughts flooded my mind I would become discouraged. Ultimately, I would doubt my own ability and begin speaking negatively to myself about my own dream, asking myself questions like "Who would publish my book?" and "Am I author material?"

This went on for years, until one day I forgot about the negativity and I just opened my lap top and began writing, and once I did, I became electrified and motivated. “THE FACE OF A DEMON”, the book that I procrastinated about writing for so long became my first published eBook, and finally my first published book. Procrastination is probably the first dream killer that you will encounter, but it is also the easiest to overcome. All you have to do is stop thinking about it and be about it and in little or no time you will become motivated build upon your dream.

It is easy to spot a dream killer because they rarely have anything good to say. If you say good morning, they will answer, “What’s so good about it?” Ask a dream killer simple questions like, “How are you feeling today?” and “Isn’t this a beautiful morning?” they will give you this long list of negative complaints that almost never ends.

When you tell a dream killer about your dream most often they will say, “You have to be realistic.” The reality of a dream is there is nothing realistic about it. Dreams do not have to be realistic, but they can become a reality. Every great accomplishment and contribution to mankind was once someone’s dream. The computer you are viewing this article on was at one time nothing more than a dream. Your dream is your personal view of what you would like your world to be like and you should never allow someone to rob you of such a valuable asset.

Dream killers are capable of destroying your dream, but they can succeed only if you let them. So how do you cope with dream killers?

Begin with yourself; learn to weed out the voices in your head. All successful people have had to deal with their own thoughts that sometimes sound like voices in your head. When your thoughts are positive consider and research them, but when they become negative you must immediately stop. Negative thoughts can lead to procrastination and procrastination can cause you to become content with where you are in live and you will never start to build your dream.

Never allow anyone to confiscate your dream. Don’t allow your dreams to become the object of your friends and associates comments and criticism. Make your dreams your biggest secret. When seeking advice find someone who has been where you are trying to go. Although your friends may mean well, they are more than likely misinformed and will only misguide you. Don’t ask a mechanic how to bake a turkey; you will probably end up with a greasy mess.

Dream killers will always tell you that you cannot succeed; don’t listen to them. When external criticism becomes personal it gives birth to fear. Fear will then eat away at your courage, and courage is the one thing that you cannot forfeit when building your dream. Never share your dreams with these predictors of doom. Just remember that misery likes company.

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    • ericdunbar profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dunbar 

      5 years ago from New Orleans

      Dream killers are often the ones we trust and love the most. The people we confide in are the most capable dream killers because they are the ones that can most affect us. Dont allow anyone to kill your dream Missing Link and thanks for your comment.

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      Missing Link 

      5 years ago from Oregon

      It is a real bummer for a person if their parent is a dream killer. I have heard people who smoke marijuana refer to buzz kill meaning something happens or someone intervenes or says something to diminish the high. I've heard of the crab mentality too---like if you have an opportunity---others try to pull you back from it. I have heard crabs do this if one crab is about to escape from a bucket or something like that?

    • Eunice Stuhlhofer profile image

      Eunice Stuhlhofer 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for this insightful hub. I just saw it as it was linked next a related hub that I wrote on the same subject.

      You mentioned procrastination and that's so true...when we put off doing something...we might lose it in the end.

      Congrats on your ebook!

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