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How To Make Yourself Happy

Updated on July 10, 2012
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There is no secret formula to happiness that can apply for everyone. Each of us is a unique individual and the path to being happy is different for every single one of us. If we want to be truly happy, we must take charge of our own happiness and find out what makes us happy.

But the following pointers are simple common sense guidelines as to the directions that you may want to explore. They work very well for me, and I'm sure that they are relevant and useful for many of you reading this. But do remember that happiness does take a little work, but if you keep at it, you will find that being happy becomes the norm rather than the exception.


Happiness Is A State Of Mind
Volumes can be written about happiness being a state of mind and how to achieve it. But I think, for most people, it can be simply an act of will. It is simply a decision to be happy, pure and simple. From this moment on, make the decision that you will be happy, despite whatever unhappy events that might happen in the future.

There will be temporary setbacks and there will be times in which you feel unhappy, but remember that happiness is not an all or nothing game. Everybody is unhappy sometimes, the trick is to make sure that you are happy more than you are unhappy.


The Glass Is Half Full And Not Half Empty
There is always a silver lining to every cloud. You just have to consciously choose to see the positive side of things rather than the negative. If you have always tended to see the negative, this might take some serious unlearning on your part. But remember, it is your happiness that is at stake.

If you are fired from your job, you can choose to look at it as a sign of your incompetence, or you can look at it as an opportunity to work for an employer more appreciative of your skills. But being realistic of your talents is also a factor here, but that is the subject of another hub.

Or if you have just broken up with your boyfriend, be happy that you get to watch your soap operas and love stories uninterrupted, without him telling you that he wants to watch something called sports, which, basically, involves a couple of grown-up men throwing balls at each other.


Stay Healthy
Of course you may have conditions that are not in your control but there are simple things you can do to stay as healthy as possible. Make sure you eat properly, don't overeat and have enough exercise. Don't work too late at the office and do find some time to socialize and relax.

The trick to being able to do all these consistently is not to force yourself but to find ways to incorporate them seamlessly into your lifestyle. For example, if you don't like to jog, then don't jog. But do find an activity which you enjoy, which can give you the exercise that you need.

Or if you find that you are eating a little too much and are getting a little chubby, don't just go on a diet. A diet is a short term solution and the problem will return when you stop the diet. It would be better to find a way to get rid of your excess fat that you can maintain over the long run. For example, if you like to snack in between meals, rather than just stop, a better way might be to find a less fattening and healthy snack.


Surround Yourself With Happy And Positive People
People who are happy and have a positive outlook in life are infectious. They will infect you with their mood, their can-do attitude and the way they never let anything get them down. These people practically never have a bad day, never get up on the wrong side of the bed and they always have a smile and a kind word for everybody.

Go seek out these happy, positive people in your office, your social circle or even in your family and spend more time with them. After a while, you would probably find that happiness is a natural state of things and you would find it difficult to be sad, even if you wanted to.


Get Out There And Help People
There is something about helping that helps the person helping. Maybe it is the realization that you have managed to make a difference in someone's life, whether it is just for a moment or for a lifetime. Or maybe when confronted with the obstacles that others face, your own problems seem petty and insignificant in comparison.

Or maybe it is simply the fact that when you make somebody else happy, some of their happiness rubs off. It could be something like when somebody yawns, we feel to urge to yawn as well.

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    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks for visiting, Benson. :)

    • Benson Yeung profile image

      Benson Yeung 

      8 years ago from Hong Kong

      thanks for the great tips.

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Hi sunnybatra, I couldn't have said it better myself. :)

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      sunnybatra 

      8 years ago from India

      Hi wandererh its nice to read.I think conclusion is you can keep yourself happy if you want to be happy.

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks withyouamalive. In many ways, happiness is actually common sense. :)

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Hi anglnwu, I think a choice to stay happy is the most important of all. Once you have decided to be happy, you will naturally do things to be happy, and seek out ways to be happy.

      Seems that I missed out on one crucial point there, quicksand. And you know what? Reading my articles make me happy too. :)

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      withyouamalive 

      8 years ago from Lagos

      This hub makes perfect sense... I love it

    • quicksand profile image

      quicksand 

      8 years ago

      Reading some of your articles make people happy!

    • anglnwu profile image

      anglnwu 

      8 years ago

      Good tips and well-tested. Frame of mind and a choice to stay happy and healthy help. Thanks for sharing.

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Yep! I like happy people. They do not allow you to be unhappy. :)

    • lilian_sg profile image

      lilian_sg 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      These are really useful tips! I totally agree with placing yourself among happy people...

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      My pleasure, Trsmd. :)

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      Trsmd 

      8 years ago from India

      thanks for publishing this for my request..

    • wandererh profile imageAUTHOR

      David Lim 

      8 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks shanshane2. Such simple advice, yet so very true. :)

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      shanshane2 

      8 years ago from Rochester, WA

      I think the recepie is fairly easy- Don't spend your life doing what you don't want to do! Sometimes duty to your country or job or family can put you in moments where you have to labor through things that aren't ingredients for happiness, but life is full of choices. If your past choices have move you to where you are now and you aren't happy, it's time to start making different choices.

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