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Why Forgiving Others Gives Us Happiness

Updated on November 24, 2013

Let go of anger and fear and bring peace to your heart

At some point in our lives we have been or will be angry with somebody else. A lot of times we have a right to be upset with somebody for the way they have treated us. It could be as small as words they used against us or as big as mental or physical abuse. No matter what somebody else has done to you, I am going to explain why it is essential to yourself that you forgive this person or these people. Carrying around hate and anger is not only unhealthy it can change the whole outcome of your life.

First, think of all the stress it brings into your life. When you are bitter against somebody you are constantly thinking about it. Your mood changes and you spend all of your precious and valuable time and energy on being mad or on holding a grudge. Its like you are placing bricks on your heart. The more time you spend on being mad, the more bricks you place on your heart and the heavier it gets. After a while you will not be able to stand anymore because the bricks will weight you down.

As long as you are mad at the other person they are in control of you. That’s right. You are still being victimized if you have not forgiven the other person for what they have done. Now granted, people might not like it if you are upset with them, but who do you think is having a harder time, the victim or the victimizer? That would be you, the victim.

So this is why it is so important to just let go of what anybody has done to you. Remember that it is not for their sake it’s for yours. Forgiving a person does not mean that you have to invite this person back into your life. In fact, you do not have to have anything to do with them ever again. The reason you are forgiving them is to bring peace to your mind and soul. If you are not at peace with yourself, you are not in control of your life, which might cause you to miss a lot of opportunities that you might have otherwise had.

Don't Let Others Bring You Down

We will start with a small scenario. Say there is somebody at the office that has said bad things about you behind your back. They said that you are stupid and that you will never get promoted because you have no idea of what you are doing. This rumor made its way around the office and now it has come back to you. I bet you are furious and angry with the person who made those remarks. You know that you are good at what you do. While it is ok to feel anger, it is what you do with that anger once the initial emotion has passed. Do you think the person who said these things about you really cares if you are mad? If they are the type of person to start spreading rumors the answer is probably, no they do not care one bit. In fact, it might be that they are insecure about themselves and find it necessary to talk down about other people in order to feel better about themselves. Now are you going to let these words bring you down? If you are holding in anger and if you have not forgiven them, then it will constantly be on your mind. Every time there is room for promotion or a new project is given to you, the evil words that this person spoke will be in the back of your mind. It might even ruin the chances of you trying fearing that you might fail, or fearing that they are right. Do not let this person be in control of you. That is exactly what they want. If you let it bother you, then they have won and you have lost. What was once a made-up rumor has now turned into reality. Stop being the victim and become victorious. Show others that what they say or do to you has no affect on your life. Show them that you are stronger than their words. That is the way you will find peace in your heart.

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Being the victim in a more serious situation as in being abused in some way can be harder to forgive. You of course need a lot of support to get you through hard times. But the same principle applies. The longer you let the abuse get you down and the longer you hold the grudge in your heart, the deeper the pain will get. As long as you keep that anger inside is as long as the person who hurt you will remain a part of your life. Constantly thinking about it or asking why or how it happened is not going to change the fact that this person wronged you. It will not change, ever. What happened in the past is permanent. But what happens in the future is your choice. What has happened to you is not your fault. There is nothing wrong with you and you did not deserve what has happened to you. But what you do deserve is a fair chance at life. A chance to be the best you can be. A chance to prove to yourself and to the world that you are not a victim. You are strong and brave and that you can overcome all the wrong that has happened in your life. Once you let it go and have peace with the situation or situations that have occurred, the sooner you will be able to start rebuilding your life. Get the person and the situation out of your life forever. The only way you will be able to do that is to forgive. Stop being the victim today and start on your road to victory!

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      VeronicaInspires 4 years ago

      Thanks Jenn! I voted AWESOME!!

      I didn't see anything in your hub, however, about pummeling them??? :-)


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      Jenn 6 years ago from Florida

      Thanks funmontrealgirl for your comment!

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      funmontrealgirl 6 years ago from Montreal

      An insightful hub.

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      Jenn 7 years ago from Florida

      Thank you LivingFood for your comments. I agree.

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      LivingFood 7 years ago

      "If you are not at peace with yourself, you are not in control of your life," This is very true. I also find that when I am not at peace, then I cannot be alone.

      Great Hub!

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      Shil1978 7 years ago

      Great hub Jenn!! Yes, the act of forgiving can make you feel a lot better. However, most people can't let go of the revenge mindset. They hold onto their grudges and can't bring themselves to forgive.

      As you say, holding onto grudges can only deepen the pain you feel, so it makes sense to let go and forgive the person. It does bring a sense of closure and peace!!

      Thanks for a useful hub :)

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      jj200 7 years ago from My Bedroom

      Nice inspirational hub, we would all do well to adhere to these words, as you've addressed a common occurrence amongst people these days. I used to volunteer as a sexual assault support advocate for four years, and it was important to help survivors regain their sense of control over their lives. Empowerment is a hard and long road after a trauma or difficult incident. It's important to have support while you make your way back to mental and/or physical health. Be it a professional, a friend, family member or significant other, someone being there for you can make a world of difference.


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      Jenn 7 years ago from Florida

      Good point Apostle Jack. Thank you.