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How to Consciously Make Yourself Happy

Updated on April 8, 2014
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Happiness is a sense or feeling of pleasure, contentment, joy and enthusiasm about an event.

Happiness is in most cases introduced by an event and when our present event calls for the opposite, we can make conscious efforts to switch the sadness to happiness.

A well-known hit single by Bobby McFerrin says ‘Don’t Worry, Be happy’.

This song over the years have been an appreciated way of conveying a message that everybody must or should be happy no matter the problem or changes they may be having in their lives.

For anyone to live his desired, fulfilled and optimistic life, he or she must feel wonderful about his/her self, as it also boosts your immunity against diseases and stress.

Stress is responsible for most, if not all the sicknesses in humanity such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

A popular Quote says ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’. One truth about us humans is that we cannot change others but we can change ourselves.

Even if we find ourselves in an unendurable circumstance we can be rest assured that it will never be permanent.

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Relationships and social networking are vital tools to happiness.

We must learn to accept others for whom and what they are, avoid argument, resentment and clashes that can lead to violence.

If argument seems to be inevitable then we must try to understand the other person and let go. Socializing with loved ones and friends can be wonderful and can also help in stabilizing one’s health.

A former American President, Abraham Lincoln once said most times people can choose to be happy or stressed, to berelaxed or troubled, and to be bright or dull.

These choices are ours to make.

Have you ever try to make your self happy when sad?

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Ways of Been Consciously Happy


Make a conscious effort to be grateful for the very big and small things that have happened in your life and in the lives of those around you. Such as - thank God you woke up this morning; thank the taxi driver that drove you to your school or office; thank your mum/maid for the delicious meal cooked; thank your cleaner at the office for cleaning it even though you are their employer; saying thank you for everything and to everybody.


News these days are always negative. Listening to news is not bad but the news that markets today is the bad news. If you can reduce the news you listen to which are negative, then you can reduce those negative injections into your being and you can have more reason to be happy and less reason to be sad.


Join an active religion that you are convinced to join, not by force, such as Christianity.The songs of psalms and hymn can bring a sense of calmness or peace to one heart.


Time is very valuable to be lost for any reason. If we can manage our time we can achieve the greatest desire which will bring a sense of fulfillment and this will definitely make us happy. Time management includes the following.

  1. Setting desired goal(s) to achieve
  2. Planning ways to achieving our desired goal(s)
  3. Scheduling our daily goal getting event
  4. Getting a TO DO LIST and
  5. Setting priorities

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Laughter is also a medicine to a sick body. Watch funny movies (comedies) that will make you laugh; tell jokes to people around you if you have and can. Laughter is just like a motivational speaker to the body System; it motivates your body to work at its peak in resolving and bringing the body to perfect health.


It is very important that you express yourself freely emotionally, passionately, with your family, friends, with those around you and also express whatever you are passionate about.Don’t hide any of the above; it will only make you sad if you do. Remember that your feelings should be express in such a way that it will not hurt others.

© 2014 Abba Elijah aka elijagod


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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    you are welcome always exploring !

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    Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

    I came back to listen to Whitney. I miss her. Beautiful!

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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    Thanks teaches12345 !

    I'm glad it is useful and you enjoy it.

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    Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

    Happiness is woth pursuing and you have presented some wonderful suggestions on how to achieve this virtue. I agree, faith can provide a great avenue to happiness.

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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    Yea ! denise.w.anderson .

    The expression of sadness or happiness comes from within, though it is initiated by our exterior (what we hear,see,or feel ) but we can consciously take steps to eject it from our heart(within).

    Thanks for the comment !

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    Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

    It sounds like our thought processes determine our happiness, that if we choose to focus on the good things in life, and express gratitude for them, we can turn things around. I needed to hear that. Our family experienced a death recently, and I am really dragging my feet.

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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    Sure! why not !

    I'm glad find it valid and useful.

    Thanks for reading and commenting SomeEldarGuy!

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    Alex 3 years ago

    good hub, varied and valid points, I might have to make use of these sometime :)

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    Alexander Thandi Ubani 3 years ago from Lagos

    the points you outlined are too good not to be true. I have learnt over the years that happiness comes from the inside. When one is contented with oneself, happiness is not far. Be happy with yourself and do not envy others. Manage the little you have...

    this is a very useful hub.

    keep writing.

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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    humm !

    I'm glad you love the hub.

    Thanks Kj force for the comment.

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    kjforce 3 years ago from Florida

    abbaelijah...Loved the article...My world is a Positive world...if I am traveling down the road and a driver is weaving I say he/she is positively the worst driver. I laugh at the stupidity of society, listening to people complain, I always seem to find the humor . I don't let the negative affect me, I just keep my journal close so I can jot everything down, for future use as a poem/article/story/quote.... "Many Positives come from Negatives... -- ...just separate it with a down stroke "....

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    Abba Elijah aka elijagod 3 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

    Happiness depends upon ourselves.

    Thanks Always Exploring for the comment !

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    Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

    Very interesting with helpful suggestions. I love to laugh and learn new things.