ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

How to Continue Living after a Loved One has Passed Away

Updated on May 21, 2013

Life can be so difficult to get by especially when your loved one passed away, whether he/she is your spouse, a close relative or a best friend. It is so normal to get so lonely but keep in mind that if enormous loneliness sinks in then depression will inevitably inflict harm on you mentally, emotionally and physically. This is can be a tough time for you but you need to keep on living since there are more brighter side in life that is about to unfold in the coming days. Keep on being cheerful although this can be very hard to do and keep on pouncing through for there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Here are some tips on how to cope up after a loved one has passed away:

  • Cry (as much as you can), this will give you comfort and it's normal. This will also help you release the pain you felt inside.
  • Find comfort from your family, friends and relatives. Tell them about your heartaches and the difficulties you are going through right now. This will surely give you sigh of relief and it is advisable to do this often.
  • It is okay to be very lonely, but see to it that this stage will only last from three to six months, because too much loneliness for a longer period of time will allow depression to sink in. If you are depressed this will have harmful effects to you mentally, emotionally and physically and worst you will not able to tend to the needs of your kids if you have some.
  • Minimize or remove things that will remind the memorable time that you have with your deceased loved one. Slowly minimize or remove these things from your home that brings back the pain of losing someone you love. But it is okay to remember him/her once in a while but don't do this often.
  • In the first three months you may visit his/her grave, go to beach and any place that is lonely to find solace, to reminisce the good ole days and to have a sort of soul-searching. This will also allow you think of the things that you need to do in the coming days and how to adjust with your present condition.
  • Always think that humans are like time bombs and all of us will eventually die, it is just a matter of who comes first. Accepting deaths especially on the part of your loved one will help in alleviating angst and pain.
  • Keep yourself busy and don’t let hurt and pain topple you. Find a new hobby or engage in a new sport. Being so busy will keep you going and at the same time makes you physically and mentally fit.

Parting words:

It is normal to be lonely at first. Keep in mind that time heal all wounds. You will feel better at the end just don’t let depression sink in to your system. There are a lot of things to cheer about in life and there are other people around you to share your love, passion and laughter with.

Keep on cheering though this can be so difficult to do. There are a lot of skills left to master, so many new friends to get acquainted with, many great and astonishing places to discover and get excited with and so many activities and experiences to lift your heart and spirits.

My 8th hub in the HubChallenge.


Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • emilgen2011 profile imageAUTHOR

      Gener and Emily Geminiano 

      5 years ago from The Land Where Salt is Abundant

      Sorry to hear that from you Denise and I hope that you are fully recovered with what you'd been through...

      Thanks a lot for dropping by... and take care...

    • Denise Handlon profile image

      Denise Handlon 

      5 years ago from North Carolina

      This is always a delicate subject. It is difficult to have someone you love die and then to know someone who is going through this is also hard.

      I lost my husband in 2005 from cancer and there probably isn't a day that goes by in which I don't think of him in some way, especially if there is a certain song that comes on the radio.

      Thanks for the tips. They are good ones. I cried continuously when he first died and was basically out of function for six months! I had moved in with my youngest daughter and her family and took care of my little grandson. It was all I could do.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)