How to Be a Great Man
Michael Miu 苗僑偉
Be her soul mate-He has to be your best friend. You can talk to him about the good, the bad, and whatever comes to you. Communication is very important. He has to be able to express himself and not bottle things inside.
Share the chores-If he is the great man, he would be helping around the house. On the other hand, mow the lawn and help your man.
Be appreciative-He has to appreciate the woman in his life whether you are his girlfriend or his wife. He has to appreciate everything you do for him.
Be affectionate-He has to be able show his affection whether in public or in private. I remember seeing an elderly couple in their 80's, holding hands. That is something she would appreciate.
Focus on her-Treat her like she is the only woman in the world. Don’t look around the room when you are out in the public, instead, put all the focus on her. Just remember, grass is not greener on the other side.
Never put her down-There might be time that you get disappointed when she didn’t meet your expectations. Instead of telling her how bad dinner was, let her know how much you appreciate her time for preparing the meal.
Be spontaneous-Come home on a Friday night and head to the airport with her, to have a mini vacation. Get away for a couple day without planning.
Exercise together-Find time to walk, jog, ride a bike. It is not only a health benefit but a very good bonding time together.
Sense of humor-He has to have a sense of humor! Life would be so boring without it.
Pick your battle-Disagreement can be healthy but be careful. Respect each other’s opinion and go on. Give only constructive feedback.
Respect who she is-She might not be your kid’s mom. If she chose to stay with you, remember she loves you. She is there to be with you and try her best to deal with other issues.
Give her some space-Even though you are together, you need some time apart. Let her get together with her girl friends once in awhile. It is healthy to hang out with other friends.
Share your financial status-What is wrong with married couples who have separate bank accounts? That is not a marriage. You are as one. Stop hiding the money, guys.
Get involved with the kids-Nurture the kids together. It is important to share the responsibilities being a parent besides paying the bills. How about getting up in the middle of the night and feed the baby. After all, it takes two to make a baby.
Be on time-Having a man who is on time would be a big deal. I hate to say this but a majority of women are not on time people. I am not one of them although I have seen enough to know that it is true. If both of you are not on time, nothing gets done. At least one has to lead sometimes.
Be a happy person- I don’t mean that you have to laugh your head off all the time. Just be a happy person in general. Don’t gripe about things day in and day out. Trust me it will get old pretty fast. Oh, he has to have a great smile:)
Don't be a bad breaker-That is one of the most important parts of the relationship. If it does not work out, don't be bitter! If the love is gone, let it be. Move on and let it go. Don't make the last impression unpleasant. After all, things happen for a reason. It was not meant to be.
Now that if any of you out there find this great man, let me know. I think the definition of a great man is different in every woman’s mind. So don’t let anyone tell you who that great man is. Go find yours!