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LAW OF ATTRACTION - Getting it right this time...

Updated on August 17, 2011


Simply defined, the law of attraction is the modern definition for magnetizing the same energy we emanate. Loosely marketed, it is how to attract what we want in life. Some find it difficult to believe because if it were true, we would all be independently wealthy and/or have that loving, intimate, special other in our lives, with little or no pain and sorrow – right?

So how do we get in touch with, or understand what energy we emanate and thus foretell what we are sure to attract? Is there any way to assure the fruition of our underlying purchase orders to the universe or prayers? Can we determine any blind spots that may instantaneously negate the hopes we hold so dear to our hearts?

In a word, yes.

Conservatively speaking, there are millions of books available to help us understand the how and why of what destiny we will create. Bearing this in mind, this mini article is a summation of decades of study, written with the hope of either intriguing you for further exploration, or to somehow express simply enough, a mere 3 concepts. If digested, these three will make a difference in alleviating the shock of life’s curve balls and help you more easily create what you want; at least they have for me.

At the very least, you may be able to more fully understand and appreciation the manifestations that do unfold before your eyes. These three concepts are:

1) Contradictions

2) Re-creations

3) Getting what we need, rather than what we think we want


Have you ever heard the expression, “Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear a word you’re saying”? This aptly expresses the reality that although someone may think what they are saying is believed, their opposite actions and behaviors are a more appropriate way to discern who they truly are. We all have contradictions because the world is not perfect. Yet looking out for and recognizing them is the first key to being aware of how we may negate our heart’s desire. Being able to get out of the way quickly when someone slings a powerful curve ball with intentions of hurting us can be of paramount usefulness too.

In the last few decades as a salesperson, studying body language was an enormous advantage. Our bodies and subconscious minds will subtly reveal disbelief. All of us know an obvious example of this when someone has their arms and legs crossed while telling you how open they are to your idea. Another Is our intuitive clarity when we ask, “How are you?” with the recipient spitting out “FINE@! [Damn it!]” vehemently.

To get in touch with contradictions, simply have a piece of paper handy and start jotting down the mind chatter that plays constantly in your mind. Or, start writing with the hand you don't normally use. Take a few blank, unlined, pieces of paper and just start writing until your conscious mind gets bored with trying to make it "pretty". All sorts of underlying thoughts will scroll out - it's amazing :)

Often, we do not want to admit these contradictions to ourselves. We will even see them blatantly in others, yet maintain a blind eye hoping we can trust them not to intentionally hurt us.

As an example, there was a recent interview conducted with someone who claimed they fully understand compassion. Any mere five minute conversation with them however, easily reveals how disgusted and judgmental they are with everyone in real life. To their credit, they often admit they do not believe what they talk about, and only write concerning things they want to understand. Most of us however, are not that honest about our ignorance or as blatantly ‘see through’ when we speak.

(Compassion>n. deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it.)

How to make it happen

To comprehend and eliminate our own, it is important to bear in mind that our subconscious minds work in pictures - and literally. If we want to lose 20 pounds for example, we cannot say to ourselves that we will lose 20 pounds with a picture of ourselves as overweight. If we do, we will remain overweight with our goal literally remaining as an elusive future accomplishment.

We have to express a positive affirmation – WITHOUT CONTRACTIONS – to help our subconscious and conscious come into alignment

i.e. It is __(desired date)__ and I am happy healthy and gorgeous at _(ideal weight)__. Your subconscious mind will not believe you at first. When you maintain the affirmation with 100% intention and belief of fruition (don't even concern yourself with the "how to"/mechanism. Providence will move mountains for you), expressing it in the present (preferably with gratitude); you will find yourself slowly but surely behaving in a way that will accomplish your goal.


It has been said that we attract someone either similar to our parents, or seemingly the opposite to them. One Brain facilitating and many other resources, show us that we will actually choose a partner that in some way helps us re-create the same feelings and behaviors as our parents did. Someone who will treat us the same way, or we will overcompensate in the opposite direction, yet the result will be exactly the same.

For example, if we were raised with abuse and blame, no matter how kind our potential partner seems, they will inevitably be abusive and play the “blame and shame” game repeatedly. They may not even realize they are doing it, but we will inevitably feel the same as we did when little. Maybe their own family dynamic will be to put each other down in jest. We, however, will feel the same about that jesting as when we were actually verbally abused as children.

This re-creation of our family dynamic can often be so subtle we do not recognize it. It is one of our blind spots, tempting "accidents". The people look so different; the circumstances are very different, aren’t they? Yet within short order we find ourselves reacting to something they said, as if what they said could actually hurt us that deeply so quickly.

A friend of mine’s mother was more than 30 years younger than his father. The father was very ill for years. How strange that his first wife was also ill and he became a widower at the about the same age as his mother had become a widow? Coincidence many say – just coincidence… Is it?

My own mother complained for years that she stuck out a marriage for the children but hated it. She felt trapped. I overcompensated by raising my child by myself. There was no way I was going to suffer a similar bad marriage. It took almost 17 years to realize I could not have re-created “trapped” as completely and effectively in a bad marriage, as I did as an only parent. Different circumstances, same feeling…


There is a simple test you can conduct yourself to help flush out your subconscious beliefs. It is called the sway test. A terrific explanation of this can be found in “The Emotion Code” by Bradley Nelson.

With a little practice to be able to distinguish between what we hope the answer will be and what it really is, we can save the outside assistance of a kineseology facilitator.


How does being aware of the above help foretell what we will actually attract? Aside from thoroughly understanding what I wrote in You Are Perfect and the inherent emotions or programs that run our lives (without conscious effort to change them), a fundamental key we have to understand is that it is not them.

We are not in this life as victims with people arbitrarily doing things to us. What they do and how they behave is not up to us. When we change the beliefs that are not working for us, or that we are truly tired of repeating, others will get with the program, or circumstances will magically change and they will be out of our lives.

I know, sometimes it does not feel magical as we attempt to extricate the like, or ourselves from abusive narcissists but it is worth it and will happen. In our often fervent desire to remain blind to what might be healthier, they may even initiate the situation that demands we release them from our lives. This is OK too! As a friend of mine so aptly stated, “Whichever road you take, destiny catches up with you.” Perhaps you no longer need to be continually abused. Maybe, you are more aware than you give yourself credit for and the universe is forcing you to take the path with heightened success, true love, and greater enjoyment.

Once on this path to understand and change our automatic or inherent beliefs, we will indeed, get closer and closer to being able to create the positive purchase orders we desire. Gone will be the automatic and continual re-creations of circumstances that were all wrong the first time around, and trying to fix them. We will also see both the contradictions and patterns more easily and stop wasting, creating what we really want faster.

Gallup Pole interviews over 2 million for results

The bottom-line is that the law of attraction is always in full force, with or without awareness. Just as the Gallup Poll’s “Strength Finder” helps us realize, the idea is not to believe we can simply let go of what is not working for us. We need to focus on our strengths, and study what it takes to have what we want. Are we the type of person who deserves such a reward?

If we want a good relationship for example, we need to learn what a good relationship requires. If we did not have a good example to emulate, what are we lacking? Are we hoping for a great relationship without being honest within ourselves or with our potential partner? Are we asking the universe to grant us a casual relationship, yet deep down hope it will include the depths of intimacy that can only be found with commitment?

Some think they can ask the universe for a lot of money because the world owes it to them. That my friend, is unrealistic and you can put out all the purchase orders you want, to no avail. Until you realize no one owes you anything, you will not overcome the inherent injustice you emanate and learn what you need to do to be of service to humanity, thus being paid in direct proportion to that contribution.

Simply stated, all we have to do is realize any contradictions and consciously eliminate them.

Become aware of what past failures you may be re-creating in an unrealistic attempt to fix them this time around. (Feeling our e-motions fully will transform the energy, but it helps to use imaginative tools such as seeing a different, desired picture every time you're in a situation you don't like. Eventually, that will convince your subconscious mind to truly create a different scenario.)

And last but not least, know that we do attract exactly what we need to become aware of our patterns. Then, it is natural to feel grateful for the law of attraction because our destiny will indeed catch up to us. And it is well worth looking forward to!!!



Your future is a gift - why not make it what you really want?!

Seasonal floating email for New Year - worth posting:



1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.


11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...


25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.


32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least

40. God Bless You Always!!


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    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      So glad to see you here too lxxy! I totally agree - none of us can afford to be around the Spiritual leaches/psychic vampires anymore. It is up to us to climb as high as we can positively, re-connect with Source, and return to the balanced state of calm that is our birthright. Very much appreciate the compliment - - - and above that, you :)

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      8 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

      "assure the fruition of our underlying purchase orders to the universe or prayers?" gorgeous lines.

      "...or that we are truly tired of repeating, others will get with the program, or circumstances will magically change and they will be out of our lives."

      I totally agree there! Most often anymore it's usually the latter. I have no room left in life for psychic vampires.

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Honoured to have you visit and comment Beata :) Yes, we can at least make our own world more wonderful with awareness because it's the curve balls that can flatten our spirit. As someone who's spirit clearly soars, I look forward to reading more of your pearls of wisdom as well. Our connection is a testimony to what glory there can be in the law of attraction :)

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      Beata Stasak 

      8 years ago from Western Australia

      So useful Sylvia and so true, love it and learn heaps from your article about personal growth...if all of us took some time and effort to work on ourselves according to your advice, the world would be such a wonderful place to live in, don't you think?

      Thank you so much for leaving so beautiful and warm words on my hub and wishing you all the best with your future writing to enlighted us from BEata

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Thank you loua, for stopping by and adding your insight. It's wonderful to see you again! I knew you'd understand :)

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      8 years ago from Elsewhere, visiting Earth ~ the segregated community planet

      SEM Pro, thanks for sharing... I believe you covered all the bases quite well...

      Expressing our duty is a task challenge for ones ego; when we forget we are responsible for everyone else and hid from some obligation our subconscious being stores the conscience oversight till we deal with it as we experience the existence universe...

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Aloha Feline Prophet! So glad to see you again :) We all have our purpose/forte. Thinking can be a good thing but not always welcomed. Hope it helps make life a little better - that's what I'd like to get good at :)

      Appreciate you dear lady. Hope your holidays are awesome! Are the next few days holidays for you? Hmmmm, now I'm thinking - ought to do a little research before commenting lol

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      Feline Prophet 

      8 years ago

      SEM Pro, you always succeed in making me think! :)

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Aloha poetlorraine! Pleasure to meet you and thank you for becoming a follower. One of the milestone numbers as a fan - I'll be sure to head your way as soon as time allows!

      Happy New Year! :) Sincerely, Sylvia

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Thank you so much I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s! I've missed you too and look forward to reading all your new treasures! Until you head back then - Hi :)

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      8 years ago

      lovely hub, i am going to take on board lots of this for the new year,

    • I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s profile image


      8 years ago

      SEM Pro ~ I wanted to say I have so missed you here! :) I will be back with a proper comment...yet, just wanted to say Hi, for now!!

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Glad you agree Raven King. Appreciate you visiting and your addition. Oh that we could all see it can be that simple. With a pure heart, it can be :)

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      Raven King 

      8 years ago from Cabin Fever

      So true. I couldn't agree more! I would also add that God is listening and feels sad when you are sad so why not try to be happy. God is listening so you can talk to God. Have something to say, just say it or write it down. Even though there is a lot of information going through the universe you will be heard. So go ahead and talk to God. :)

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Namita, don't kid yourself Girlfriend - you are great with words because they always seem to convey a deeper, inner joy of life. Cannot communicate with a greater positive force than that my dear. I feel your warmth - thanks :)

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Hi Larry - thoroughly enjoy your philosophy, logic and comparisons. Brings to mind the awareness that there are no new thoughts. In contrast however, thoughts create reality and although we cannot be so arrogant as to believe we can change the entire universe, we certainly can change our own environment.

      Interesting studies in quantum physics show the power of thought on matter - cause and effect proven scientifically. Of course, as a metaphysician, I believe proof of the power of our thoughts has been around for centuries, people seemed simply unwilling to accept total responsibility for that which they didn't comprehend - still don't or not a single person would take a detrimental pill before choosing to change the thoughts that effect their health.

      Along with Peale is James Allen's "As a Man Thinketh", and hundreds more who've made their living saying the same thing using different words. "The Secret" was a great marketing tool - as so many believed the concepts to be complicated and thus, unworthy of their time and research. If I am chagrined at all, it is only by virtue of many not sharing how we have to get out of our own way to let the here and now be all it can be. They seem to be marketing from the perspective that understanding is all that's required. Then so many doubt the universal laws or wonder why these things don't work.

      LOA goes beyond this I believe, and thus I agree with you. Once we realize how powerful our thoughts are (by their static nature of imprisonment), or that they can indeed change our "looking glass", we begin to realize that without entering the space between our thoughts on occasion, confusion reigns. In other words, without spending moments without stress, without constantly thinking, we cannot even recognize stress for what it is, or that our thoughts taint the reality of not being able to step into the same river twice.

      Merry Christmas to you too dear Sir. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. You are always appreciated :) May 2010 be your best year yet. Do you think it could be? lol

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      8 years ago from Northern Arizona

      I think the true strength of any belief system lies within the believer not within the system. The system is just a lens to focus the inner strengths of each individual. That's why the outcomes from each system are so inconsistent.

      the Universe (as LOA theorists put it) does not recognize human thought. Human thought does not matter. It's inconsequential. If it did matter, then you would have to argue that humanity is the center of the universe since we can manipulate the universe as we see fit.

      A very thought-provoking and interesting take on the LOA as perceived in New Age circles...The film " The Secret " , pushed by Oprah and others, gave rise to the New Age twist on an old maxim and book " The Power of Positive Thinking "... written by Norman Vincent Peale in 1952...

      Merry Christmas and a Happy and safe New Year to you and yours...Larry

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      8 years ago

      oh boy!!honored r we???beleive u me am not sure bout that...but our paths crossed means a lot to me tooo...who\never wud 'v thot\known u existed till fb happened :)

      thru yr mind i realise my true potential lol i used to think why r not most people like me lol haaa haaa just bugging u....'v never been good with words

      luv luv

      hugs n bear hugs for the chilll dear

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Thank you so much Namita! I consider myself filled with luck and honor that our destinies crossed paths :) You are living proof that with a GREAT attitude and kind heart, it does all return to us, giving us more and more reasons to look forward to our future and be grateful. Your light shines through-out the globe my dear friend!

      Love and return hugs to you!!!

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      8 years ago

      omg!! syl u mentioned my existence ....and its effect on for having u in my life and sharing stuff life iz made of...luv...hugs...muaah

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      8 years ago

      wow...syl..what a way to go on with life full of optimism and zeal...cheerz to this wonderful life...and like one of my dear friend spite of everything life is still beautiful\ so glad to be alive and with friends i'v and will 'v in the future,and yaaa the ones that i fell out with ;but they soo enriched my life....cheeerz alll

    • SEM Pro profile imageAUTHOR

      SEM Pro 

      8 years ago from North America

      Thank you so much for visiting and your touching comment Sanju. It was the conversation on fb with our friend Namita that pulled it all together. Thank you for introducing her to me. I love you both!!!

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      8 years ago

      so touching..especially the lines......

      "My own mother complained for years that she stuck out a marriage for the children but hated it. She felt trapped. I overcompensated by raising my child by myself. There was no way I was going to suffer a similar bad marriage. It took almost 17 years to realize I could not have re-created “trapped” as completely and effectively in a bad marriage, as I did as only parent. Different circumstances, same feeling…"


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