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LAW OF ATTRACTION - Getting it right this time...
Simply defined, the law of attraction is the modern definition for magnetizing the same energy we emanate. Loosely marketed, it is how to attract what we want in life. Some find it difficult to believe because if it were true, we would all be independently wealthy and/or have that loving, intimate, special other in our lives, with little or no pain and sorrow – right?
So how do we get in touch with, or understand what energy we emanate and thus foretell what we are sure to attract? Is there any way to assure the fruition of our underlying purchase orders to the universe or prayers? Can we determine any blind spots that may instantaneously negate the hopes we hold so dear to our hearts?
In a word, yes.
Conservatively speaking, there are millions of books available to help us understand the how and why of what destiny we will create. Bearing this in mind, this mini article is a summation of decades of study, written with the hope of either intriguing you for further exploration, or to somehow express simply enough, a mere 3 concepts. If digested, these three will make a difference in alleviating the shock of life’s curve balls and help you more easily create what you want; at least they have for me.
At the very least, you may be able to more fully understand and appreciation the manifestations that do unfold before your eyes. These three concepts are:
3) Getting what we need, rather than what we think we want
Have you ever heard the expression, “Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear a word you’re saying”? This aptly expresses the reality that although someone may think what they are saying is believed, their opposite actions and behaviors are a more appropriate way to discern who they truly are. We all have contradictions because the world is not perfect. Yet looking out for and recognizing them is the first key to being aware of how we may negate our heart’s desire. Being able to get out of the way quickly when someone slings a powerful curve ball with intentions of hurting us can be of paramount usefulness too.
In the last few decades as a salesperson, studying body language was an enormous advantage. Our bodies and subconscious minds will subtly reveal disbelief. All of us know an obvious example of this when someone has their arms and legs crossed while telling you how open they are to your idea. Another Is our intuitive clarity when we ask, “How are you?” with the recipient spitting out “FINE@! [Damn it!]” vehemently.
To get in touch with contradictions, simply have a piece of paper handy and start jotting down the mind chatter that plays constantly in your mind. Or, start writing with the hand you don't normally use. Take a few blank, unlined, pieces of paper and just start writing until your conscious mind gets bored with trying to make it "pretty". All sorts of underlying thoughts will scroll out - it's amazing :)
Often, we do not want to admit these contradictions to ourselves. We will even see them blatantly in others, yet maintain a blind eye hoping we can trust them not to intentionally hurt us.
As an example, there was a recent interview conducted with someone who claimed they fully understand compassion. Any mere five minute conversation with them however, easily reveals how disgusted and judgmental they are with everyone in real life. To their credit, they often admit they do not believe what they talk about, and only write concerning things they want to understand. Most of us however, are not that honest about our ignorance or as blatantly ‘see through’ when we speak.
(Compassion>n. deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it.)
How to make it happen
To comprehend and eliminate our own, it is important to bear in mind that our subconscious minds work in pictures - and literally. If we want to lose 20 pounds for example, we cannot say to ourselves that we will lose 20 pounds with a picture of ourselves as overweight. If we do, we will remain overweight with our goal literally remaining as an elusive future accomplishment.
We have to express a positive affirmation – WITHOUT CONTRACTIONS – to help our subconscious and conscious come into alignment
i.e. It is __(desired date)__ and I am happy healthy and gorgeous at _(ideal weight)__. Your subconscious mind will not believe you at first. When you maintain the affirmation with 100% intention and belief of fruition (don't even concern yourself with the "how to"/mechanism. Providence will move mountains for you), expressing it in the present (preferably with gratitude); you will find yourself slowly but surely behaving in a way that will accomplish your goal.
Understanding exactly what we are re-creating
It has been said that we attract someone either similar to our parents, or seemingly the opposite to them. One Brain facilitating and many other resources, show us that we will actually choose a partner that in some way helps us re-create the same feelings and behaviors as our parents did. Someone who will treat us the same way, or we will overcompensate in the opposite direction, yet the result will be exactly the same.
For example, if we were raised with abuse and blame, no matter how kind our potential partner seems, they will inevitably be abusive and play the “blame and shame” game repeatedly. They may not even realize they are doing it, but we will inevitably feel the same as we did when little. Maybe their own family dynamic will be to put each other down in jest. We, however, will feel the same about that jesting as when we were actually verbally abused as children.
This re-creation of our family dynamic can often be so subtle we do not recognize it. It is one of our blind spots, tempting "accidents". The people look so different; the circumstances are very different, aren’t they? Yet within short order we find ourselves reacting to something they said, as if what they said could actually hurt us that deeply so quickly.
A friend of mine’s mother was more than 30 years younger than his father. The father was very ill for years. How strange that his first wife was also ill and he became a widower at the about the same age as his mother had become a widow? Coincidence many say – just coincidence… Is it?
My own mother complained for years that she stuck out a marriage for the children but hated it. She felt trapped. I overcompensated by raising my child by myself. There was no way I was going to suffer a similar bad marriage. It took almost 17 years to realize I could not have re-created “trapped” as completely and effectively in a bad marriage, as I did as an only parent. Different circumstances, same feeling…
There is a simple test you can conduct yourself to help flush out your subconscious beliefs. It is called the sway test. A terrific explanation of this can be found in “The Emotion Code” by Bradley Nelson.
With a little practice to be able to distinguish between what we hope the answer will be and what it really is, we can save the outside assistance of a kineseology facilitator.
More than just getting out of victim
- Carole Bennett: Al-Anon 12-Step Recovery Program: Love It Or Leave It
As a professional family substance abuse counselor, I encourage my clients to attend Al-anon and find out if it is something they wish to incorporate in their recovery. Some swear by it, others are shunned.
GETTING WHAT WE NEED, RATHER THAN WHAT WE THINK WE WANT:
How does being aware of the above help foretell what we will actually attract? Aside from thoroughly understanding what I wrote in You Are Perfect and the inherent emotions or programs that run our lives (without conscious effort to change them), a fundamental key we have to understand is that it is not them.
We are not in this life as victims with people arbitrarily doing things to us. What they do and how they behave is not up to us. When we change the beliefs that are not working for us, or that we are truly tired of repeating, others will get with the program, or circumstances will magically change and they will be out of our lives.
I know, sometimes it does not feel magical as we attempt to extricate the like, or ourselves from abusive narcissists but it is worth it and will happen. In our often fervent desire to remain blind to what might be healthier, they may even initiate the situation that demands we release them from our lives. This is OK too! As a friend of mine so aptly stated, “Whichever road you take, destiny catches up with you.” Perhaps you no longer need to be continually abused. Maybe, you are more aware than you give yourself credit for and the universe is forcing you to take the path with heightened success, true love, and greater enjoyment.
Once on this path to understand and change our automatic or inherent beliefs, we will indeed, get closer and closer to being able to create the positive purchase orders we desire. Gone will be the automatic and continual re-creations of circumstances that were all wrong the first time around, and trying to fix them. We will also see both the contradictions and patterns more easily and stop wasting, creating what we really want faster.
Gallup Pole interviews over 2 million for results
The bottom-line is that the law of attraction is always in full force, with or without awareness. Just as the Gallup Poll’s “Strength Finder” helps us realize, the idea is not to believe we can simply let go of what is not working for us. We need to focus on our strengths, and study what it takes to have what we want. Are we the type of person who deserves such a reward?
If we want a good relationship for example, we need to learn what a good relationship requires. If we did not have a good example to emulate, what are we lacking? Are we hoping for a great relationship without being honest within ourselves or with our potential partner? Are we asking the universe to grant us a casual relationship, yet deep down hope it will include the depths of intimacy that can only be found with commitment?
Some think they can ask the universe for a lot of money because the world owes it to them. That my friend, is unrealistic and you can put out all the purchase orders you want, to no avail. Until you realize no one owes you anything, you will not overcome the inherent injustice you emanate and learn what you need to do to be of service to humanity, thus being paid in direct proportion to that contribution.
Simply stated, all we have to do is realize any contradictions and consciously eliminate them.
Become aware of what past failures you may be re-creating in an unrealistic attempt to fix them this time around. (Feeling our e-motions fully will transform the energy, but it helps to use imaginative tools such as seeing a different, desired picture every time you're in a situation you don't like. Eventually, that will convince your subconscious mind to truly create a different scenario.)
And last but not least, know that we do attract exactly what we need to become aware of our patterns. Then, it is natural to feel grateful for the law of attraction because our destiny will indeed catch up to us. And it is well worth looking forward to!!!
Your future is a gift - why not make it what you really want?!
Seasonal floating email for New Year - worth posting:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.
Last but not the least:
40. God Bless You Always!!