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Love; The Reason to be Happy
Are you Happy?
"Are you happy?" This simple question is often asked by a friend or love ones in various occasions; whether they mean to know exactly the answer or not, the fact remains that the answer could mean a meaningful life if we take it seriously.
Let Me Cite Some Very Good Reasons to be Happy;(I am speaking for myself; see if it works with you too).
1. I am happiest ever since the moment I had sincerely accepted myself as beautiful and had started to love myself unconditionally.
I used to see myself as an "ugly duckling" feeling like I was born a mistake. I felt like everything about me was ugly; too wide face, too tiny nose, too big eyes and eye bags, too curly hair, too thick lips, too long and skinny legs; and so forth and so on. It was really a very disturbing feeling which prevented me from pursuing my dreams.
Then one day I had decided to do something about it before I could ever start on whatever pursuit I had. I had decided to attend to myself first wholeheartedly. So I took it religiously to daily affirm in words, spoken and written, myself as being beautiful and to accept and to love myself completely as I am. It worked; I was able to convince myself as beautiful and lovable so that no matter what my sister and friends tease me on my legs and other physical flaws, I still feel beautiful and unique.
Won't you be happy knowing that you are beautiful and lovable? They don't have to agree with you. What is important is; this is how you see yourself in the deepest sense.
Feeling ugly and non-acceptance of your physical flaws is self-defeating and can block you from following your dreams to success; especially when part of your dreams involves social functions and socialization. To feel ugly is such a sad state of mind. Nobody is actually ugly in the true sense.
2. Being creative is another reason to be happy.
Life is a lifetime of moment by moment continuous flow of thoughts. In every second of your life, even when you are sleeping, your mind does not stop thinking and it is thinking millions of thoughts every single moment, whether you are aware of it or not. What is worse is that you are not aware if those thoughts are happy thoughts, memories, analyses, and many other mental processes. What if most of those thoughts that you are not aware of are sad or angry thoughts? Worst still is if those thoughts which you are aware of or having deliberate and dominating negative intentions are the ones that are controlling your mind. No wonder lots of people are bored, angry, and feeling tired of life without even knowing the reasons why.
The most effective remedy to at least alter the thought processes and redirect them consciously to a happy and productive one is to be creative.
To be creative is not only in the arts, it can be physical activities, writing, or any hobbies that make you feel whole or happy about yourself.
3. Being Loved and to Love is a happy state of being
Nothing can compare to the happiness of one who is actually experiencing and enjoying being loved and who can love in the truest sense. Love is a very happy energy that is warming not only the soul but also giving colors to life as a whole. Love begets love; if you love someone unconditionally, you will reap love from him/her/them in multiples. Love is overflowing.
Love is like a seed of any tree or fruit-bearing plants. You plant one seed of love in a very fertile soil and nurture such seed as it grows until it bears fruit; the fruit of such one good seed will yield you thousands even millions of good fruit in its lifetime.
Who do we love? The Bible tells us to love even "your enemies". Well this is tough if we take it literally; we cannot force ourselves to love the "unlovable" and the "misfits" more so the "hateful" enemies. But Love does not qualify, does not "pre-condition" the object of love; and love is freely given without asking for payback. This is the only type of Love that makes us a happy person and which therefore make us enjoy a happy and blessed life in our lifetime.
There are three types if not stages of love. First, we must be a recipient of God's unconditional Love, the Agape Love. To be a recipient of such love is to acknowledge the Existence of God or Nature, praise the Greatness of God or Nature, be awed by the Beauty of Nature or God's Creation. We should take time to be in the "presence" of God or Nature; to be connected and establish a certain degree of strong connection; each of us is also part of nature so we should experience "oneness" to the whole Creation or God, or the Universe; whichever suits your conviction. Only then can we experience this Agape Love; the Unconditional Love that once found a seat within us will have its "throne" to Divinely Guide us as we live our lives. This Divine Guidance functions in every aspect of our lives...it Guides, Protects, Provides, and the list continues.
The second type or stage of love is the Philos; this is the kind of love we accord our relationships with any other human beings in our horizon and the whole population in the world. With this kind of love reigning in our hearts, we can allow everybody to be "them"; we won't "attack" or destroy any one's life in any way, rather we offer encouragement freely when needed. We can only have this kind of love if we experience the Agape Love. People can "fake" Philos love according to their selfish and ulterior motives but the truth will come out sooner than they will realize and it will be shown in the troubled life that they will experience. Learning and surrender to the Source of all Love, the Agape, will then be the only solution. Philos love will be noticeable by people surrounding us, if we have this; we will be popular and be known as an "authentic", reliable, trustworthy, understanding, among others.
In this kind of love also falls the love for parents, children, relatives, associates, best friends, etc.
The third kind or stage of Love is the Eros Love; it is so called because of its natural tendency to be erotic or erroneous, well not literally erotic in the normal sense. This is the love we accord our husband or wife. This is the most sensual and emotional love and can easily be diverted into mere sexual pleasure and lust. This is the most destructive love if not supported by high moral values; hence instead of this love to be a blessing it becomes a curse to humanity and yet people won't realize it. This is the kind of love that blindfolds humanity so that everybody goes down to the pit of destruction. This Eros Love could only be a blessing, a gift of joy and happiness, and be successful if we have Agape Love and Philos Love in the background; other than being backed-up or founded in the Agape and Philos Love, Eros is a tool to destroy humanity in every turn. Just observe what is going on with this kind of relationships these days. Divorce, broken homes, scandals in high places, juvenile criminals as a result of broken homes...look at statistics; the list is endless destruction of human values and lives. And nature is angered resulting to natural disasters and calamities. Can you connect? No, you won't even believe it; but believe it or not. The Bible says "Let those who have eyes see, and those who have ears hear..." Humanity is carnal and spiritually blind; it needs a Love higher than what they are only familiar of.
The Universe Has Provided All the Reasons to be Happy
I had discussed only three basic reasons to be happy in this life but sure I can do much better, given the time and space. This world contains all the reasons to be happy if we see it that way and if we know the Universal Laws the govern it; and most important, knowing is just basic, we should learn to Live What We Know, otherwise head knowledge will just confuse us. The trick is: Live and Experience all you Learn and Know...don't just talk about it.