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No Opinions, No Negatives, Never Again

Updated on February 6, 2016

Billy Eckstine Passes My Test Easily!

Singer Billy Eckstine -- a positively good singer!
Singer Billy Eckstine -- a positively good singer!

Speaking Out -- Positively

Members of Military Families Speak Out outside the San Francisco home of Sen. Diane Feinstein on Christmas Day
Members of Military Families Speak Out outside the San Francisco home of Sen. Diane Feinstein on Christmas Day

My Cousin Michael Torpey Passes My Test, Too!

Michael Torpey, Classical Tenor -- also a positively good singer!
Michael Torpey, Classical Tenor -- also a positively good singer!

I am often accused of being opinionated. Heaven forefend!

Worse, I am frequently castigated for being negative. I'm not!

To defend oneself against such vicious attacks at the time that they're leveled against you is often difficult; there's generally precious little time because you're in the midst of doing other things and the occasion is rarely an opportune one.

Until recently, when told, "My, you're opinionated," or "Boy, you're negative," I would just let sleeping dogs lie; say nothing, let the remarks go by uncontested.

But I think I learned something from the Bush-Dukakis presidential campaign (You remember that one!) as well as the Clinton-Bush clash. I learned what the candidates learned: If you don't respond to criticism when it comes people somehow tend to believe whatever allegations are made against you -- whether or not they have merit.

False Charges Require Response

The fact is you have to defend yourself against false charges -- or take the significant risk that they will be believed. The more significant the charge, the more likely it will be believed -- you know, the Big Lie theory.

So, just to keep the record straight, I hereby declare that the allegations that I am opinionated and negative are patently untrue! The trial is over; I am not guilty of any such misdemeanors!

I do plead guilty, however, to the charge of ignorance. I was truly unaware of the motives of my accusers.

But, happily, my ignorance has subsided. Now I understand what I did not understand before: What people who accuse you of being opinionated really mean is that the opinions you express do not coincide with theirs (that is, they don't agree with you.)

I'm Never Negative

Similarly, I am not negative. Never!

But at least now, finally, I understand what I didn't comprehend then: People who accuse you of being negative do so because they have difficulty facing reality. They don't want to know the truth!

As my friends and associates know -- because I've told them so often -- I rarely offer opinions, but I often make observations about myriad topics.

Lo! There is a difference.

How so, you ask?

Let me explain.

Try the Radio Test

When I say that rock 'n roll is noise, I am simply making an observation, not issuing an opinion. And it certainly isn't negative! It's simply a matter of definitions. All you have to do is turn a radio on and move the dial; when you hear Bing Crosby, Nat King Cole, Billy Eckstine, et al, you're listening to music! When your ears are barraged with loud disjointed noise, you've hit another rock 'n roll station.

And is it negative when you make the simple observation that the Boston Red Sox have no chance, again, of making it to the American League championships? Certainly not!

Nor is it positive to observe that the New York Yankees have an excellent chance of winning the pennant, and the World Series. No, it's not positive -- it's simply the way things are.

Henceforth, do not look for opinions from me. I have none. And look only for positives; nothing negative will ever pass my lips -- never again.

I wrote this column as a "My View" for The Hour newspaper of Norwalk, Conn., on Aug. 28, 1993. I now write my views on a wide variety of topics on HubPages. To view my HubPages Profile Click Here

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      William F Torpey 18 months ago from South Valley Stream, N.Y.

      Thanks, Jodah. It seems most people are reluctant to offer opinions when they think there will be disagreement. That never discouraged me from telling people what I think. In case you're curious I wrote a little profile of my cousin Michael on this hub: https://hubpages.com/entertainment/Michael-Torpey

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      John Hansen 18 months ago from Queensland Australia

      You make some good points here Bill. I used to find myself falsely accused of things quite often, and just wore it and bit my tongue. Not anymore. I found as you that if you don't defend yourself people often believe the accusation. I learnt to stand up for myself and argue my point. This may not also work either, but it damn well gets the point accross that you won't take false accusations quietly. If I have done or said something wrong I will be the first to admit it, but falsely accuse me of something and feel my wrath. Good hub, I enjoyed the read. Your cousin has a great voice.

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      William F Torpey 6 years ago from South Valley Stream, N.Y.

      Thank you, Wendy Krick. It was fun to write as well.

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      Wendy Krick 6 years ago from Maryland

      Fun article to read. :)

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      William F Torpey 8 years ago from South Valley Stream, N.Y.

      Thanks, Regina. I'm glad you liked it.

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      Regina 8 years ago

      This arcticle made me smile.

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      Bob 9 years ago

      Bill.....I sure do agree with your " observations ' about music.