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On Personal Values and Reputations: Uprightness and Straightforwardness
How one perceives and sees himself/herself in the truest sense is also how others would see him/her.
No one can please everybody at all times and in all places; in fact it is easier to be repulsed by everybody than the other way around.
One of the wonders in getting older…hehe; some would say “just getting more matured” is that you become seasoned and you have a lot of things to look back into your earlier existence.
You can look back and see how you handled certain and various situations in all areas of your life. There are a lot to look back and you can see why people at present see you the way they want to see you.
You are what you are as a cumulative result of your personal experiences alongside your individual and personal choices, preferences and your personal reactions to every event of your life in its various phases.
Most people exist by just going along with the flow and God knows where the flow is leading and just react passively on what they encounter along the way.
What reputation so far and in various stages of your life have you created to those who had known you personally?
The following are examples of those I had perceived as my reputation in various stages of my life;
1.At the onset to my awareness of my existence;
My parents saw me as wonderful and amazing. I had no idea why but that was my feeling, but I also perceived that I was known to be stubborn and having bad tantrum.
2. For my peer group e.g. classmates, friends, cousins and other people surrounding me from my age of puberty and teens years;
I had perceived that they look up at me as capable of achieving what I wanted and they believed on my ability. I was known to be daring, gutsy and successful in getting what I wanted.
3. In romance I am upright and straightforward. Sweet as sweet can be but also the worst enemy when I perceived that I am being fooled, I am known to “burn bridges” and feel happy about it. I am known to easily replace a stupid lover or a husband if I wanted to; and if I did, friends would applaud me. I am all-heart, service and mind in a romantic relationship but I can instantly shut off my heart if necessary because I believe in “the head is above the heart”…am not a fool in love, I got brains.
4. In my more mature years in school, job and other social groups, I am known to have wide range of knowledge in Humanities and Ethics and Spirituality; frank, straightforward, upright yet not old-fashioned. Some people are scared of me while others love me and idolize me for their own personal reasons but many dislike me especially the trying hard type of people, the ugly and the born liars.
5.Last but not least, for my family, I am a loving matriarch and for me they are perfect. No one can ever harm my family, no especially my grandchildren. No one can say one bad word or a negative statement to any of my children and grandchildren, I will be the worst enemy for them and I can go down to hell and bring it with me to burn them even in this life. My husband is also my family; never hurt the love of my life.
I know that lots of people would try to be nice to me but they are actually traitors; they betray even themselves. These types of people have no chance to come closer to me because I spew pesticides on them; they are just cockroaches in the dark periphery of life.
The preceding is just among the many techniques on assessing your personal values that become the basis of your reputation to others who know you.