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How To Be Always Excited About Life
How to remain excited about life?
This question posed by a hubber inspired me to write this hub. I would like to share all the things I do and have done so far to keep myself interested and excited about life.
Life is full of surprises, some are pleasant, fills your heart with happiness and sense of pride and self-confidence - whereas others are quite awful, drains you emotionally and leaves with you a feeling of insecurity and low self-esteem. It could be anything - health, wealth, relationships, career that in one or the other way will continue to keep you challenged in life. There are ups and downs, highs and lows, butterfly moments and mosquito moments in everyone's life - so we need to know ways to keep ourselves happy and interested even when we are in the midst of adversities.
Simple Ways to Keep Feeling Good
1. Follow your heart: Engage yourself wholeheartedly in your favourite activities as often as possible, whether dance, music, theatre, art, reading, writing, learning a new language, travel etc. - you should give some space to your mind to carry out the activities which you are passionate about. That will also keep your body in synchronization with the mind and will help uplift the enthusiasm level within you. You will look forward to that time of the day or the week and in doing so, you will continue to keep feeling good about life.
My Experience: I have spent two years in Japan. A research scholar and a teacher by profession, I could not take up any heavy full time job there as I had a rare disease, which needed surgery several times. I had to take leave from my job off and on, and almost every day had to visit the hospital for dressing and washing of wounds - it was terrible. But believe me, I found something to keep myself occupied and enthused through those hard days of ill health. Japanese language intrigued me, I had started reading and writing Katakana and Hiragana and also managed to learn about 500 Kanji. I started to listen to Japanese educational CDs while in bed, read Japanese 'manga' (comic books) even while in the hospital (the nurses were surprised) and made an effort to communicate with the doctors and the nurses in the Japanese language to the best of my ability.
Today when I look back at those days, I find that I have not lost any time. I had been able to stretch my brain to learn a new language, got connected to many new people through communication and I still treasure those experiences - which had opened some more windows of my mind into the beauty of life and its cross-cultural aspects.
2. Believe in yourself: Have faith in yourself and respect the person within you. You must be meeting different people throughout the day at your workplace, at home or while travelling, they will all make snap judgements about you and form different opinions. However, whatever they think and whatever they say cannot change you, you are still yourself. So, never lose your self-respect and self-esteem, never let yourself down even in crisis situations and never lose interest in living.
My experience: I also have bouts of depression in my life, when I feel extremely low and cannot think anything beyond my problems. As a quick-fix, I read Dr. Wayne Dyer's books : 'Real Magic' and 'Powers of Intention'. Though there are many other books written by him, if I leaf through some pages of "Real Magic" I get revived and feel as if I have been given some good advice by some old compassionate friend. It works for me!
Of course reading a book cannot solve the problems, but what it does to me is - I regain my self-respect and gain the power to introspect and analyse the issues at hand and gain the ability to think clearly about how to deal with those issues.
Having self-respect and self-dignity will always make you look at the positive aspects of life.
Dr. Wayne Dyer - 'the father of motivation'
- Dr. Wayne Dyer - Internationally renowned author and speaker - Official Site
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3. Appreciate yourself as often as you can: All those who can feel happy about themselves, feel satisfied with their performance, at home or at work and feel proud of their small accomplishments always remain excited about life. When nobody cares to appreciate and understand your emotional needs of being appreciated, feel free to give a 'Pat on the back' to yourself. Buy yourself something which you had longed for, go on a trip or do something to motivate yourself and feel good. Though it sounds 'easier said than done', but it's true that to remain excited and enthused about anything we need to boost our positive emotions and for that a lot of self-appreciation and inner-satisfaction are needed.
My experience: Whenever I feel disgusted with anything, feel as if everyone around me are unjust and inconsiderate, my hard work is going unnoticed and everyone is conspiring against me - the best way I recover and start feeling good is by hopping into a bookstore or a stationery store. I choose my favourite stationery, coloured pens, paper clips, fancy folders etc. or I browse through several books and then buy a couple of them according to my liking.
What I have actually done? I have made myself feel very important - allowing it to make decisions that will make me happy and bring back the lost cheer. It helps me to ignore the source of distress for a while and resumes rational thinking.
4. Prioritise your options: Often you will find balancing between two different worlds is a daunting task and draining you both emotionally and physically. Whether it's your work and home, or parents and husband, or children and elderly members etc.- it's not always easy to bridge two extreme ends of one's life - it takes a lot of hard work and patience. But when you feel extremely stressed out and lose direction and energy, you need to prioritise your options. Do not go overboard to satisfy everyone at one go - do the first things first and at a steady pace. You must chalk out some simple, easy-to-follow, realistic plans so that you can strike a balance between the two ends, but at the same time do not become the martyr every time - that will exhaust you the most both internally and externally. Do whatever you can to the best of your ability but think and take care about your own self at the same time.
My experience: I have not been very successful in striking a balance between the two absolutely different extremes of my life. Both the extremes are important to me and I feel that I need to keep both ends perfect. Since I have high expectations and tend towards perfection, I have never reached it. However, I do feel if I expect a little less, compromise a little more and ask myself a little less for both the ends to function reasonably well, I would be saved from the day-to-day stress and mental tension.
Prioritising, keeping your well-being in mind is essential to keep you interested in life.
Some inspiring quotes on life
1. So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key. - Lyrics from Already Gone, peformed by the Eagles for their 1974 On the Border album
2. People with many interests live, not only longest, but happiest. - George Matthew Allen
3.There is no reality except the one contained within us. That is why so many people live such an unreal life. They take the images outside them for reality and never allow the world within to assert itself. - Dr. Wayne Dyer
4. It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting......Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams master the lessons we have learned as we have moved toward that dream. That's the point at which most people give up.... [At this point] Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity. - Paulo Coelho