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Smile While You Bleeding

Updated on October 17, 2014

Not wanting to seem negative and as one who complains all the time (since most of my blogs are more often than not critiquing certain issues), I thought of writing something on a more up-beat topic: “Happiness”. I think I had to do it anyway since I carry the name. Yet, many people have written on this subject and I for one promote Angello Belliotti’s book: “Happiness is Overrated” right on my profile page. He covered the topic better than anyone else so, read his book for an in-depth look at “happiness”. Therefore, I will only add here a couple of my thoughts to this concept of “happiness”; I will not dissect the subject in a Kantian method.

There are countless, seminars out there and self-help books on how one can attain happiness. Some people look to friends for happiness, some go shopping or fishing. Drugs may help, temporary … To make a quick parenthesis regarding drugs and happiness: my sister told me when I was sixteen or seventeen that “you can get a lot higher without drugs than with drugs”. I had no clue what she meant. It took me probably close to ten years to understand what she had said then. I got it now though and it’s sweet!

It is my opinion that happiness is a state of mind and nobody but me controls my state of mind. Sure people can upset me or aggravate me but only for a few moments because when I realize that I am getting upset (for example), I make the decision to be happy. I realize this sounds very abstract but being “happy”, “sad”, “pissed-off’ or whatever, is really nothing but our mood or our state of mind as I like to call it. So, it is of our own choosing on how we want to really feel.

The best way to understand this I think is to think of the title I chose for what I have written here: “Smile while you bleeding”. This is a line from K’naan (everyone knows him now after doing the anthem song for this year’s FIFA World Cup) song “Smile”. I first heard the song about eight years ago or so when I had a friend working in the music industry and she passed me his debut album asking me what I thought of it. I really liked this song because I felt his pain but I also knew as he did that showing weakness in certain situations will only bring hyenas closer. There is really no point in being unhappy; it is detrimental in so many ways!

Now, I simply chose to be happy whatever happens. Life is as it is and I try to do what I can (while being happy). I make that choice. No point in being grumpy, I would gain nothing from that and it would make me feel ... uncomfortable.


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      Xavier Nathan 15 months ago from Isle of Man

      Great article as always. Happiness is a choice!

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      Mr. Happy 3 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      "I am a happy person by nature, and that is mostly due to choice. " - Yup. There is always choice, it's just sometimes our minds are cloudy, or stuck in a certain perspective, or perhaps comfortable in a self-created bubble, that we no longer see choice.

      Thank You for taking the time to read and comment. You have a fabulous week-end as well!

      All the very best! : )

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It's an interesting point you raise. I have ranted on more than one occasion, and currently I'm working on a novel about a serial killer that is dark and depressing....but I am a happy person by nature, and that is mostly due to choice. :) Have a great weekend my friend.

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      kallini2010 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      You know why I said "rap"? I looked up the singer and it said it was a rapper. I am not that good at distinguishing music styles. I like soft reggaeton. As I said I liked the part when it becomes melodious "smile while you are bleeding". When he talks over the music - it is not my thing. But you are right - I am not an expert in modern music styles.

      I appreciated the lyrics - otherwise I would have trouble understanding.

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings, Mrs. Kallini,

      I have heard that "Don't worry be happy", song. I don't dig it much.

      I appreciate the good and the bad. I learn from what I can, when I can. As long as I keep going on a path with heart, that is all that matters for me - I am happy.

      Sure things get in the way but I welcome challenges (perhaps too much at times). "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro". - Hunter S. Thompson

      I am quite interested in what you meant by: "to me rap gets in the way of perception". And not to be a pain in the rear but I would like to note that what you listened to was hip-hop. : )


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      kallini2010 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I've listened to the song and while though it does not echo as much as other songs - but it is a very individual reaction... (to me the rap gets in the way of perception).

      I loved the repeating pattern "smile while you are bleeding"...

      I did not read the book "Happiness is Overrated", so I cannot make a comment, let alone argue.

      When I think about happiness for myself - it is a state of mind, maybe, I know how to achieve "some ups" in a short term. But I know what I want, though the definition is too vague, but I don't have it.

      The question is how to achieve it? If I accept my "status quo as of now" - I will never get out of the mess of my own creation. I don't think anything is that simple as "Be happy, don't worry". Somebody told me that the singer who sang that song committed suicide.

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      Barbara 7 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      I came to this hub expecting to learn about bleeding but discovered the opposite. Good one! See, most of your hubs are happy because you choose to be happy.

      There is something to be said for feeling sad, however. I shut off my tears and toughened myself for years because I no longer wanted to hurt. That cut me off from myself in a pretty damaging way. I am climbing out of that hole even now!

      Hugs, friend. I love the song, btw.

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      James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

      Excellent message. I agree with you. Well said.

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      Mireille G 7 years ago from Kansas

      I liked the title of this hub that is why I came to read it. I have a 10 year old grandchild who started a website okay I am going to plug it here (because it is relevant) (I hope I spelled it right). Any way the relation to this title. She ends all of her posts with "Remember to smile", she is the little miss happy giggles herself. I will tell her to read this.

      Thank you I hope you might visit her site, and leave a her a comment under the Mr Happy name, she would be thrilled.

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      Pachuca213 7 years ago

      That is a good mindset to have. Good hub

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      noorin 7 years ago from Canada

      I liked the hub, happiness is indeed a state of mind. Rated it up and will be following you =)

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      TwO1FouR 7 years ago from Dallas, TX

      Very true. I really like this hub and the reference you made to K'naan's song. I love his work. Thumbs Up

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      John B Badd 7 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      I like this hub. Happiness is good but not necessary, I find it is avoiding unhappy that keeps me going. If you can stay content and have happy moments like laughter or even just some smiles then you are ahead of the power curve. And it is important to smile while you are bleeding - there are people will suck the life our of you if they know you are down. Faking happy is a good way to get back up.

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      lmmartin 7 years ago from Alberta and Florida

      Happiness is definitely not overrated. However, worrying about the lack thereof is sure to deprive you of such. It's a decision - to be content with what you have, look on the brighter side, the half-full glass and so on and so forth. Simple -- but definitely not overrated. Lynda