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Suicide! Is It so Easy?

Updated on July 3, 2020
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Anupam is a language trainer and a poet. She has been writing poems, stories and articles since her childhood.She loves to learn new things.

Mystery of Death

It’s really uncertain when one is to be born and when one is going to die. No astrologer, no tarot card reader or any sort of palmatologist can tell the exact days of birth or death or how one is going to die. The cause of death can be a natural calamity like flood, fire, earth quack etc or any accident or any particular disease. It can be anything at any moment of life.

The natural death is certain and one of the biggest truths of our life. However, we wish to live more, explore more and do more, one day might arrive when without any prior notification the death will take everything that we possess in this material world. Death is as natural as birth, it's not such a surprise as we all are aware it can visit us any moment in any form.

But what about the unnatural deaths, where one intentionally snatches the life of any human? It is called a murder and is considered as a heinous crime both on legal as well as moral grounds. Though homicide is considered legal and ethical in wars, where one country celebrates the murder of the people from the rival countries. A few brutal humans kill their own closed ones in cold blood and the other brutes are trained to take life to earn their wages.

The motif of murder can be property disputes, love affairs, jealousy, revenge, robbery, and a few serial killers also do it just for fun. I remember one incident from my childhood where three young brilliant students (as they were students of IIT) were killed by gunshots just because of a petty argument on the payment of pan that costed just rs 3 at that time. For people there those mere 3 rupees were more precious than the three innocent lives.

Facts from Wikipedia & WHO

*About 1 person in 5,000–15,000 dies by suicide every year

*800,000 people die due to suicide every year

*1 person suicides every 40 seconds

*135,000 (17%) cases of suicide in India, a nation with 17.5% of world population.

*79% of suicides occurred in low- and middle-income countries in 2016.

*Men kill themselves more than women.

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Suicide

Natural deaths or being murdered is not in the control of any human so let's not distract from our topic of discussion, that is, Suicide.

Suicide, where a person is so frustrated with his/her life that he/she is not ready to live anymore and wishes to leave the life abruptly to get rid of any difficult situation that has cropped in.

Suicides are not at all natural but a cold blooded murder, where a person snatches away his/her own life just because that person cannot find gratification or a sense of relief. In the name of peace one life is taken away. We can compare this kind of murder to those ones where a little child gets a knife in his hand and kills his brother just to take a revenge for a petty complaint that his brother made to the parents. That little boy didn't know that once he had used the knife on his brother he wouldn't be able to bring back the life of his brother.

As those little kids are shown the importance of life and how lovely it is, similarly the adults too need to be reminded the worthiness of life as well as their self. Everyone needs know that life really is so beautiful even with the adversities and the unwanted situations it remains the same. One must live each and every moment of life wisely passionately engaged in one's action.

WHO Facts

Worldwide about 10% of pregnant women and 13% of women who have just given birth experience a mental disorder, primarily depression. In developing countries this is even higher, i.e. 15.6% during pregnancy and 19.8% after child birth.

Why Do People Kill Themselves

There might be several names of the reasons which provoke a person to end his/her life. But each and every reason tells the same thing, that the one killed himself was not happy with one's life or considered his life as a failure or worthless.

As humans we know how much we have struggled to reach to the place where we exist right now, talk about the huge buildings, all the kind of technologies, research on the various organisms, or research on psychology itself. Is this development the result of just an individual? Not at all! It's the result of the whole humankind, starting from the ones who discovered fire or invented wheels. Will we call them the failure who have attempted so many times till their last breath and died without seeing the truth?

The Independence of India started in 1857, while India got its independence in 1947, so in this duration of hundred years aren't we going to consider all the efforts?

Failure is not fatal. A failure is never going to provoke anyone to kill one's life. It is the mindset of any individual which lets him/her see the things in a different way.

People kill themselves for various reasons but their only motif becomes to just run away from the situation they get trapped in. They forget that none of the situation is enough to make a human lame. History gives us the examples of the people who have started from hell. Is anyone there who doesn't know Opera Winfrey or her struggle? J K Rowling whose Harry Potter was rejected by thirteen publishers, what did she do? Did she stop there?

Recently I listened to the speech of Madonna where she was sharing her journey with the wide audience of the Billboard. How did she get so bold while she had such a difficult life as a vulnerable beautiful nomad? She always had faith in the almighty which made her stronger even in the situation which tortured her, almost killed her.

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Causes of Suicides as per Wikipedia

  1. Bankruptcy or indebtedness
  2. Marriage Related Issues
  3. Non Settlement of Marriage
  4. Dowry Related Issues
  5. Extra Marital affairs
  6. Divorce
  7. Other relation related problems
  8. Failure in Examination
  9. Impotency/Infertility
  10. Other Family problems
  11. Illness
  12. Death of dear person
  13. Drug abuse/addiction
  14. Fall in social reputation
  15. Ideological causes/Hero worshipping
  16. Love affairs
  17. Poverty
  18. Unemployment
  19. Property dispute
  20. Suspected/Illicit relation
  21. Illegitimate Pregnancy
  22. Physical Abuse (Rape, etc.)
  23. Professional/Career Problem
  24. Causes not known

Life is Beautiful

There are people who voluntarily face death,

Not because they are scared of their life,

But because they wish to live each breath

In adventure daring every life threatening knife.

They accept with the same charm, either life or death.

They dive deep in the ocean to research and explore,

Fly high over the mountains and valleys to know more,

They stand bravely on the battle grounds to be worthy,

And make their nations proud of their lost life for glory,

There are many who sacrificed life to create history.

Life and death both are real, neither are in our control,

Both are essential for the movement of the world surreal,

We as humans can express whatever that we feel,

We are blessed to have a vision and mind to work on our will,

Respect and live this life wisely, Life is so beautiful.

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Life might be too difficult

At times it isn't easy to adjust

But have a look at the desert

Life flourishes even there in thirst.

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EQUIP: Ensuring Quality in Psychological Support (WHO)

The EQUIP project aims to ensure the quality and effectiveness of brief psychological and psychosocial support interventions that are delivered by people who are not mental health specialists or have limited mental health treatment experience. This will help expand the use of these interventions in communities who need them around the world.

I am Nothing

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Am I nothing?

Yes, at times it comes to every mind that this life is worthless and there is nothing extraordinary here. Sometimes we all are clueless and are not able to think consciously. At that point we do need a companion. Such companion who is going to be at our side, listening to us, comforting us and assuring that this phase too will pass.

I Forgive Myself

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Just Do Your Action

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The Four Major Objectives of the WHO to Stop Suicides:

Strengthen effective leadership and governance for mental health.

Provide comprehensive, integrated and responsive mental health and social care Services in community-based settings.

Implement strategies for promotion and prevention in mental health.

Strengthen information systems, evidence and research for mental health.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Anupam Mitu

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    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      4 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you dear Shawindi

      Lots of love and blssings

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      Shawindi Silva 

      4 weeks ago from Sri lanka

      I appreciate your article. This topic is very important in the present and the poems are great!

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      4 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much dear Roshima.

      I have edited this article and broken it into parts.

      The next part will be "Life is beautiful"

      Please do read that as well.

      Yes dear, we all enter into such dark phase at some moment in our life, it's all about, how strong we are to cross that one.

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      Rosina S Khan 

      5 weeks ago

      Thank you, Anupam for such a moving story, full of poetry and text on the topic of suicides. It's really good that you came out of your darkness to the shiny life that you live now. It was the brave and right decision not to give up and end your life because suicide is always the easy way out. March along boldly always and crush all obstacles on the way and come out on top as a worthy winner. God bless!

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      6 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Anupam, well appreciated.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you Urooj

      And thanks Miebakagh

      Lots of love and blessings for all

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      6 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Urooj, I agreed. Thanks.

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      Urooj Khan 

      6 weeks ago from Karachi, Pakistan

      Excellent article.

    • Miebakagh57 profile image

      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      6 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Anupam, the "between 750 - 1254 words" are just a minimum suggestion. Some hubbers like me have written between 2500 to 2800 words. And such articles were a subess and feature. But I will not at this stage tell you to exceed. If you felt the article will exceed the 3000 words, make the story as a two part. 1500 words for each part. It all will depend on how many words each part will take. Perhaps, part1 less or more. And so too for part2. Thank you, and enjoy the day.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Hari, you read it. Surprising, as I was determined to finish it so I did it. Though it's still incomplete as there were many things that I wished to discuss, had to stop as the article exceeded the word limit and also I guess that this topic is violation of hubpage rules as I have a warning message message there.

      Thank you so much for giving your time to this. When your expression is understood by even a few, you feel that the words have met it's worthy destination (for me it's like that)

      Definitely I will complete it in the next article where I won't use any such language to violate the rules but will try to do my best. The pen gets more breaths when it's inked by more people. Stay blessed

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      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much Dora for your love. Stay tuned.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much dear Lorna. nice to know that you are a psychologist. I am also pursuing masters in psychology now.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you Miebakagh.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much dear Riffat.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you much. Wish to stay connected

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much for your blessings. Though I have similar thoughts as that of yours, in moving to the real jungle than staying in the concrete one.

      I had written a poem in hindi on the same theme, "Kisani jeewan"

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      Umesh Chandra Bhatt 

      6 weeks ago from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India

      Excellent article. Thought provoking and motivating. Well done. Keep up your good work in HP. You have immense potential. Stay blessed.

    • Miebakagh57 profile image

      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      6 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      I would rather keep my heart and hand than lose them.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      6 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much dear Riffat!

      Yes dear, it's upto as at the end, whether to be firm or strong or leave everything just losing our hearts and hand.

      Lots of love dear

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      Riffat Junaid 

      6 weeks ago from Pakistan

      You did very amazing job for your kids, congrats that you worked hard and achieved a better life with confidence.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      7 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Lorna, I have visited your profile and had a quick glance on a few articles of yours. When you get a response from such writers who are able to express even the harshest of things so easily, you really feel blessed. I am blessed that you took time to read my write up. Dear, being a teacher I do understand that one can improve in a skill only through dedication and devotion, but along with that there is one thing that is always required is continuous motivation. And the words coming from the people like you is a great motivation for the naive writers like me. Honestly dear, I don't need any accolades, I feel overwhelmed with even a little love that I can access. Lots of Love from India.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      7 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Dear Miekabath, you are telling me a role model just because I told the truth. Dear, I am blamed for ruining my married life just because I wanted that honesty, I wanted that truth. Whenever my husband used to ask for privacy, I was a bit shocked, what privacy he was asking for. I was also told that my excessive love and concern for him was smothering him.

      While, I have always been this sort of person where I don't hide a single fact. If I am wrong I am wrong. I don't blame my husband for what he did. I do believe that it was my fault as well. Too much of anything is never good. And I really loved him to such extent, like any other Indian lady he was my God. That's the reason I was so broken when I felt that I had lost him.

      But the time is the best healer my dear friend. And today I don't have even a pinch of grudge for him. No feeling at all for him. Neither love nor hate. And this is one of the most important lessons that my life has taught me. We keep on evolving, in the same way how the earth has evolved. It's a blessing for me that I could get such empathetic readers like you.

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      Anupam Mitu 

      7 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much Dora for your lovely words. Honestly speaking, there is so much that I wish to just keep on sharing. And this is an amazing network that I have been blessed with. I am really surprised to find that such excellent readers are here, who give their time to read the novice like me as well. With all your words filled with love, I am really motivated to ink down my thoughts here.

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      7 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      I agreed completely.

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      Lorna Lamon 

      7 weeks ago

      A heartbreaking journey Anupam and your inner spirit shines through in each line. I often ask clients to journal their innermost thoughts in the hope they will find the strength to heal from them. Your article will inspire many as it is one of hope in the face of adversity.

    • Miebakagh57 profile image

      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      7 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      I agreed. And she is now a role model for speaking out. I hope many were copying.

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      Dora Weithers 

      7 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Anupam, welcome to HubPages! Thank you for sharing your struggle with suicide. Happy that you're now in a better place with a more healthy attitude. What an inspiration you have become to many who will follow your leading from darkness to light!

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      7 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Dear Miebekagh, thank you so much for your love and reading this work. Actually, we all have some sort of burdens of some guilt, some failures, some unwanted memories and once we share we feel lighter. And that's the reason we humans are blessed to have this language with which we can communicate and express our ecstasy and agony. It's a pleasure that you could see me rising from a place where I had already lost myself. But today I am just the contrast of my past and wish to inspire others who ever have such thoughts in their mind. Stay blessed! Stay happy! Spread happiness!

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      7 weeks ago from MUMBAI

      Hari, you read it. Surprising, as I was determined to finish it so I did it. Though it's still incomplete as there were many things that I wished to discuss, had to stop as the article exceeded the word limit and also I guess that this topic is violation of hubpage rules as I have a warning message message there.

      Thank you so much for giving your time to this. When your expression is understood by even a few, you feel that the words have met it's worthy destination (for me it's like that)

      Definitely I will complete it in the next article where I won't use any such language to violate the rules but will try to do my best. The pen gets more breaths when it's inked by more people. Stay blessed.

    • Miebakagh57 profile image

      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      7 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Anupam, I thank God that you did not cross over, and you forgive yourself. Welcome home. The article is very comprehensive. With so much information that I have not read else where, thanks for sharing.

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      Hari Prasad S 

      7 weeks ago from Bangalore

      Mind blowing. Anupam this is a fantastic writinh. Kudos for attempting such a marvelous and humane writing. You have opened up a lot and yes of course finding one's own self is the real strength. Good that writing is your passion. Writing is a healer and writing is salvation. Once again congratulations for this amazing writing.

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