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Teaching Children About The Facts Of Life

Updated on May 15, 2010

 I write this as a parent of three and not in any professional capacity.  this is how my mother taught me and how I taught my children.  I feel that it is good advice but you should only do what you feel is right for both you and your child.  Possibly with this father's advice you can keep your children away from the professionals when they are adults.

Children should be encouraged to read. When they are young set up a library that the child can call their own. In the library have several books on difficult subjects you would like to discuss with your child. Make sure the books are appropriate for the age of the child.

 Spend some time reading to your child and allow them to pick out the book to be read. When they pick the book on the subject you have inserted into their library to initiate a discussion read the book as you would any other. This will open up a line of communication with your child at a very early age. Answer the questions as they arise and discuss the subject with your child with a real and mature answer catered to the age of the child.

As the child becomes older replace the books in the library with other more age appropriate books. There are several subjects that are difficult for many parents to discuss with their children. By picking up a book it makes it easy for both you and your child to begin a discussion. this should lead to a very open relationship between parent and child for years to come.

Not only will this give you an opportunity to spend quality time with your child but also allows you to control their education to an extent.

There are many children who only learn the facts of life in their Health class in school. This could be taught in whatever way the teacher decides. It makes much more sense to have this kind of education come from the parents well before it is to be discussed in school. In the classroom your child may be to shy to ask questions which in a subject like this not only should the question be asked but it should be answered in a way that the child will understand.

 Some children are extremely embarrassed to discuss such subjects in school so bringing the subject up in early childhood gives the child enough information to be comfortable in such a class.

Alternative lifestyles will also be discussed in Health class which I feel could really confuse a child who has never been exposed to such relationships. Remember it is very possible that some of the children in the school come form homes with same sex parents. If your child is not educated in such matters they may become very confused and will not ask questions about things that confuse them.

 There are many subjects I feel should be openly discussed between parent and child. I can think of no better way then to have a book that can be read together and discussed. Your child will feel comfortable asking you questions about something you both have read together.

The subjects are numerous in today's society and a child will try to find their own answers to questions if a reasonable answer is not provided for them. Do not allow your child to be educated by their peers in the schoolyard. Become proactive at an early age and let your child know they can come to you with questions without a feeling of judgement.

The changes that occur when a child enters puberty could cause all kinds of questions in a child.  These questions maybe very embarrassing for a child to discuss with their parents.  Having a book available for them to read will also give them an opportunity to ask the parents questions about the book.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases is a subject that should become a part of every teens parental discussions. By having a book to look at the teen can educate themselves and hopefully seek you out if there is something that they do not understand.

Where babies come from is something that each child should have no delusions about, a child should not be told fantasies about such a sensitive subject

. Why a friend has two mommies or daddies is something else that your child should at least have a basic understanding of the situation.

If you do not educate your child someone else will. Not only will you both benefit from the time you spend reading and discussing these subjects but it will also give you a better relationship with your child when they have grown to adulthood. I hope this has presented you with some ideas to teach your children the facts of life and I hope you all maintain an open and healthy relationship with your child.


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      Arthur Fontes 7 years ago from Fall River,MA

      When the child starts asking questions is when your education of them should begin. Buy an age appropriate book and place it on a shelf with several other books. When the child starts to become curious about the Facts of Life book, start reading it with them.

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      Angie 7 years ago

      You mention that it is good to do this before someone else tells them about it, but when is it appropriate? Is seven or eight or nine too young; or nine too late? I hate to bring up subject matter that will be too much but I don't want to miss the opportunity to inform her correctly.

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      nikki1 8 years ago

      very informative

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      Mark Reilly 8 years ago

      great idea and I think I am going to try it with my seven year old.

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      Jennifer Wagaman 8 years ago from Maryland

      This is so important for parents to talk to their children about before they learn about it at school. The very fact that it is a topic of discussion at school is a reflection on the fact that parents have fallen down in their duty to educate their own children in these areas.

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      Arthur Fontes 8 years ago from Fall River,MA

      akirchner I found that by having books on several subjects combined with children with a desire to read opened up many lines of communication with my children. Even now that they are adults there are not many subjects my children would be uncomfortable discussing with my wife and I.

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      Audrey Kirchner 8 years ago from Washington

      Great information and every child and likewise every household is different. In my lifetime, you simply could not discuss these matters at home with my mother - she was too offended! With our 3 children, they were all unique in how they wanted to learn or what they wanted to learn and that is what you have to do - pick your time and place and never offer too much information; listen to your child and you will know what to say when I think.....great hub!