The ENFJ Personality: ENFJ Careers, Relationships, and Life
Only 5 percent of the population has the distinction of being an ENFJ personality. This personality type is extroverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. People of this personality type are generally great leaders with extraordinary charisma. The ENFJ is someone people typically want to follow, and in return the ENFJ appreciates the cooperation and assistance of others.
The ENFJ exudes leadership qualities. They pay attention to the needs of others to such a degree that they often feel responsible for them. The ENFJ profile includes high degrees of concern, a desire to help others, and the ability to provide support when needed. This can sometimes result in the ENFJ personality be overrun with requests for assistance. This can be a very uncomfortable place for the ENFJ who will generally feel guilty for refusing the request.
The ENFJ is reliable, uncritical, and tolerant. There approach to life can be somewhat idealistic and they often have high standards for themselves as well as family and friends. This can create feelings of inferiority in others who cannot achieve these standards. Still, the ENFJ expects the best and this is one of the traits that make this personality such an excellent leader.
Another essential trait for the ENFJ personality is their ability to communication. This personality enjoys interacting with others. They are highly intuitive speakers and often make quite an impact on people. They delight in being able to express their opinions, no matter the cause or the size of the group.
ENFJs are often quick learners and “big picture” thinkers. Their desire to help and ability to recognize the feelings of others, often leads them to take on problems that are not their own. This is something the ENFJ should be mindful of as they interact with people.
Likely to blame others for many things
May resort to manipulation to get what they want
Puts the needs of others above their own causing stress
Good Communication Skills
May underestimate themselves
Excellent Money Management Skills
Strong dislike for conflict with causes them to avoid
May be uanble to respond calmly to opinions different from their own
Patient and dedicated
Tendency to care overwhelmingly
ENFJs are committed partners who put a lot of effort into their romantic relationships. They tend to pay a lot of attention to the partner’s needs and desires, trying to establish a close link with them. Typically, ENFJ relationships come with a great emotional investment. Because of this feelings of guilt and betrayal at the end of the relationship are quite common. Despite these feelings, the ENFJ is unlikely to be crushed by the relationships end and will normally move on leaving the experience behind.
ENFJ relationships can sometimes be overwhelming for other personality types. This is because ENFJ personalities have a habit of constantly asking their partners how they are feeling and what they are doing. This tactic is not meant to be annoying. Instead, the ENFJ is simply seeking to learn of any issues so that they can fix things as soon as possible.
Since ENFJs often seek to make others feel happy, intimacy is often filled with love and affection. They are typically passionate lovers, but they also tend to be somewhat predictable. People with this personality spend a great deal of time caring for others and very little time caring for themselves. This often creates an imbalance in the relationship.
ENFJs detest conflict which often causes them to sweep problems under the rug. This sometimes results in the ENFJ agreeing to things in an effort to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Even minor conflicts with their partners can seem like the end of the world for the ENFJ personality.
Passionate and enthusiastic, ENFJ relationships are often filled with warmth and considerable effort to make things work. Their preferred partners are INFP (introverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceptive) and INTP (introverted, intuitive, thinking, and perceptive).
ENFJ’s have a desire to make people happy and this is often evident in the career choices. ENFJ careers typically have some social or altruistic aspect to them. Their career choices are plentiful and ENFJs tend to excel in positions that require them to deal with people on a daily basis. Some ideal ENFJ careers include:
- HR Administrators
- Sales Representatives
- Event Coordinators
- Religious Work
- Social Work
ENFJs love new challenges. People with this personality type should, however, should avoid careers that are too stressful. In addition, ENFJ careers should involve helping people and should contain opportunities for much approval as the ENFJ requires this to truly feel satisfied.
Famous ENFJ Personalities
Based on analysis of their life and work, the following famous ENFJ personalities have been identified:
- Barack Obama, US President
- Abraham Lincoln, Former US President
- Sean Connery, Actor
- Tommy Lee Jones, Actor
- Craig T. Nelson, Actor
- Kirstie Alley, Actress
- Matthew McConaughey, Actor
- Ben Affleck, Actor
Famous ENFJ fictional characters include:
- Danny Tanner, Full House
- Biblo Baggins, Lord of the Rings
- Captain Archer, Star Trek: Enterprise
- Charlotte, Charlotte’s Web
- Steve Keaton, Family Ties