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The Good Old Days? I Beg To Differ.

Updated on February 26, 2012
Gee thanks, good ol'days, for getting us all hooked on sugary soda.
Gee thanks, good ol'days, for getting us all hooked on sugary soda.

Stop Wishing For Better Days! Instead, MAKE better days!

Every generation laments about the "good old days". We need to stop wishing for the good old days. Life is what you make it NOW.

Although I agree that the world is far from perfect and we all need to take responsiblity for our actions, I don't think the good ol'days are behind us. In fact, I believe that the good ol'days aren't as good as you remember...

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Slavery.  Should we look back fondly on this?
Slavery. Should we look back fondly on this? | Source
The  Puritans' view of the Good Ol'Days: Salem Witch Trials.
The Puritans' view of the Good Ol'Days: Salem Witch Trials. | Source
Uh.  No comment.
Uh. No comment.

Gritting My Teeth

Back 150 years ago, many people argued that slaves enjoyed their station in life (basically because they were judged mentally inferior savages and they needed taken care of, like cattle) and if it wasn't for Lincoln, we would all be living in a wonderful symbiotic relationship. I'm sure the slaves had a much different point of view.

And way before that, The Puritans probably thought everything went to hell in a hand basket after someone told them they couldn't burn "witches" anymore.

Now, it's been suggested by others (I won't mention names) that the civil rights/woman rights movement was a bad thing and the downfall of our society.

Sorry, but I don't agree that tethering a woman to her duties in the kitchen while a man gets to enjoy life anyway he wants is the "good ol'days." I'm a stay at home mom, and I'm lucky I have that choice. But I think I should have the right to chose. I love being home with my kids, I wouldn't trade it for anything, but I should have the right to pursue other dreams if I want to. Anyone who suggests otherwise is denying my worth as a human being. Why am I less of a mother for doing so? Is a father less than a father if he works and pursues his dreams?

I don't believe treating black people as second class citizens is the "good ol'days" I'm not saying I'm impressed with the way many blacks chose to live their lives, but I can equally say that for whites too. I also know many black people that have made positive contribuations to our society, because they had the option to do so. This is the land of opportunity, and no one should be shoved to the back of the bus because of their skin color.

Let's put aside civil rights for a moment, and just consider the other elements of the "good ol'days":

  • Polio, whooping cough, and other devastating diseases
  • Higher infant morality rate
  • More women dying in child birth
  • Organized crime was started in the "good ol'days" . Can't blame Generation X, Y, or Z for that!
  • More women and children putting up with physical and emotional abuse, because society turned a blind eye to the problem. And women couldn't just simply leave, because most of the time, they had no way of supporting themselves.

Babies selling cigarettes.  Ah, memories.
Babies selling cigarettes. Ah, memories.

Times, They Are A Changing. It's a good thing.

Every single generation feels nostalgic for the good ol'days, and they would be quick to tell you that your good ol'days can never hold a candle to their good ol'days. It's just human mind set, not fact; it's only what they hold dear in their minds. Their experiences, their memories are always the best ones and lets face it, we always tend to remember things as better than they actually were.

For instance, that first love; you broke up with them because they were clingy and annoying, but a few years later, all you can recall is how sweet and kind they were. We tend to put on beer goggles when we look into the past.

I do the same thing. I think 70's and 80's were the good ol'days, but then I remember Junior High. (shutter).

I admit, I love the 1930's and 1940's with their glamour, music, clothes, and movies. People seemed classier then; they looked so cool... smoking their 2 packs of cigerettes a day (because it was "healthy", even doctors recommended it!) and dying from lung cancer at 45.

"Ah, them were the days!" See, not everything was as great as we remember!


What it used to be: working hard, no time to slack off.
What it used to be: working hard, no time to slack off.
What it is now: couch potatoes, brains rotting slowly, too much time on our hands.
What it is now: couch potatoes, brains rotting slowly, too much time on our hands. | Source

Look in the mirror.

One thing I will agree with is the family unit seems to be disintegrating. Kids are growing up to be total airheads and irresponsible adults. Drug use is rampant.

So women and blacks wanting to be treated like equal human beings is to blame? Really? I wish I could see the connection.

Maybe the good ol'days cultivated it's own downfall. The economy in the 40's and 50's was great, people had more money and also more free time. They tended to over-indulge their children, slack off, and as a result, got spoiled. Prosperity makes people soft, makes them less appreciative and more materialistic. New technology gave people more free time to goof off and be bored.

You know what they say about idle hands.

And now the older generation is whining about the result. I say, you created this problem, the older generation. Hard times and hard work build character! Kids used to work their butts off on a farm to survive; they didn't have time to experiment with drugs or stir up trouble. When you move the family out to suburbia, they rely less on themselves for survival. They didn't have to walk 5 miles to school in a snow storm. They didn't have to get up and milk the cows everyday. (I'm not talking about "Farmtown" people, I'm talking about actually tilling real soil, being responsible for real animals. I know that's a strange concept for this generation to grasp). Hard work and the preservance to survive seems to be major difference I see when I compare my generation to my grandparents' generation; however, no one seems to be blaming our prosperity and subsequent laziness as the downfall of society.

No...it's easier to blame women and blacks, I suppose, and their silly pursuit of equality. What a strange idea! You'd think that was written somewhere, like on a national document.

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I believe the civil rights movement helped men out too! Before that era, it was considered "un-manly" to be a nurse or a teacher. Nowadays, you guys can pursue your dream in those fields and it's widely accepted.

What would Gordon Ramsey say??
What would Gordon Ramsey say??

Quotes about change

The man who looks for security, even in the mind, is like a man who would chop off his limbs in order to have artificial ones which will give him no pain or trouble. ~Henry Miller

If you're in a bad situation, don't worry it'll change. If you're in a good situation, don't worry it'll change. ~John A. Simone, Sr.

Growth is the only evidence of life. ~John Henry Newman, Apologia pro vita sua, 1864

Stubborness does have its helpful features. You always know what you are going to be thinking tomorrow. ~Glen Beaman

If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown

You take the good, you take the bad...

"We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we're curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths."-Walt Disney.

I've gone off on a lot of different tangents and digressed a bit, but like I mentioned before, the good old days are what you make them.

If you think the good old days are behind you, there isn't much I can do to convince you otherwise. Your life will always be stagnant, frozen in whatever era you believed was the best, and always blaming society for failing you.

You have the choice to make this time of your life great. That's what greatness is all about, after all: the ability to mold your environment and future to be the best it can be.

So, stop thinking backwards and try living in the here and now. Maybe you'll see things aren't so bad.



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    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      5000 years ago, the world had so fewer people to feed and life spans were shorter and average quality of life compared to now was pretty darn bad... so that's kind of a bad point to make. I think organic farming is reactionary and backwards thinking. It's anti-science/technology without real just cause, imo.

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Thank you, Just Rodney, I concur! People think things are worst, but maybe they just didn't know what was now there until now.

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      Rodney Fagan 

      7 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      The world becouse of technology has shrunk, what happens now in a small far flung island in the South Pacific, is broadcast by word across the millions of people with access to technology, and radios.

      The threats have changed from communists threatening democracy, threat of world wars.

      Now Aids, drug addiction, rapes in junior schools, bullies.

      Old, homeless panhandlers, when winter has come and gone how many of them will die, this I am talking about is on and in affluent cities and towns, all across the world, not just in Africa, but includes the States, Europe Asia India as well.

      It is every where, it is only we are more aware of it, sooner, and thanks to technology and freedom more aware of it!

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Constant fear of nuclear attack was something I grew up with too. Nowadays, my kids don't even ask about nukes. But I am much more protective of them than my parents were of me because the times have changed so much. Like Roseanne Roseannadanna said, "It's always something!"

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      moonlake 

      7 years ago from America

      I loved the good old days but I'm also no fool I remember the bad things about the good old days. Polio for one, the constant fear of nuclear attack. Now we just have to worry about terrorist. I agree we should look forward and enjoy the days we have. I would think 20 years from this will be our good old days if I'm still around than.

      I think people are looking back because now there is so much wrong with the world, drugs, terrorist, loss of homes, no work, loss of retirement, war, tsunami, tornadoes, floods, hurricanes, fires and we hear and see so much death on tv. It seems like everything just piled up on us all at once. Than I see Africa and I see the people starving and I know we have it good even if we do struggle at times.

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Thanks Just_Rodney! Yes, the diversity of comments was surprising to me, but I'm enjoying the discussion. :)

    • Just_Rodney profile image

      Rodney Fagan 

      7 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      The range and diversity of comments that have come out of your Hub is amazing.

      I feel that we have all different experiences of what we have seen as the good old days, there most probably never really have been really good old days.

      In some ways, TODAY is the Good Old Day.

      As we have those basic freedoms that everyone strives for.

      We in most countries have A Bill of Rights, Constitional Courts, access to information, freedom of the press, adequate health care, the right to ........., others have fought for this, been martyred and victimized.

      So We are the priviledged ones to say Now is the Good Old Days.

      It is up to us to use it wisely and not abuse it.

      Racheael, Sure the EPA protect us in the US of A, but then DDT and the like can always be safely sold (dumped), what we are not allowed to use in the States or Canada, on the 3rd World, at a profit of course.

      Organic farming was practised 5000 plus years ago, and the world still grew.

      So enjoy the Good old Days.

    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      No problem, I like that you are mature enough to say that because people can get into some very nasty arguments on the internet that go on way too long and I really didn't want to start doing that either. :)

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      I think we have to agree to disagree. Thanks for your comments!

    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      If we had dangerous pesticides that harmed the environment, we wouldn't make money anyway. Our business works because of word of mouth. If we killed someone's garden or lawn or pets by accident they'd never hire us again or recommend us to others. A small, local business can't afford to be anything but careful with what they're doing.

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Not sure I'd want to mix that with my Kool-Aid, but ok. Lots of people thought DDT was "totally safe" too.

    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      Also, I do have a lot of relatives who own pest control businesses. I know from that that the EPA regulations mean they can only use pesticides that are dilute enough that a person could drink them, so totally safe.

    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      I just live in a very rural area.

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Thank you for your opinion. Out of curiousity, what are you basing your ideas on? Do you farm? Do you know about farming practices? Just curious.

    • RachaelLefler profile image

      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      I saw Food. Inc, I just disagree with it. I think that if we changed farming practices we wouldn't be able to feed as many people as much food with nutritional variety and that if everyone did organic farming instead it would cause more land destruction and starvation. And I don't see anything ethically wrong with treating animals differently than people because they are. And I don't see what's wrong with using practices that cause greater efficiency and increase productiveness. Nothing's inherently bad about wanting to produce more crops on less land. I think the only bad thing Monsanto is doing is keeping farmers in high debt. But even then, the machines won't pay for themselves and they need to have industrial standards that their farms live up to, it's like, would you want a restaurant that doesn't comply with the health code.

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Xamaria, all parents are the same! Mine are (big time), and I tend to be that way sometimes.

      My mom used to say "just ignore them." That never worked for me either, so I know how you feel! I tell my kids to tell the teacher, and if that doesn't work and they throw the first punch, you defend yourself. If you get kicked out of school, that's ok. Sorry, I don't go for that "not defending yourself" crap.

      Anyway, my parents have gotten so down and scared about the world that they basically are too afraid to live life. They have retreated into a shell; they don't even hand out candy on Halloween anymore because they are afraid some kid is going to rob them. All my mother talks about is negative events. It's very sad.

      I guess we all need to take a step back and reflect on how good we have it (compared to other countries) and try to change what isn't good. Honestly, I have always believed I live in the best times yet. Life isn't always easy, but I try to stay positive!

      Thanks for your comments!

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      Nithya Venkat 

      7 years ago from Dubai

      Excellent hub. Interesting insights and information. I agree with whatever you have written. Voted up.

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      xamaria 

      7 years ago from Deep space

      I'm currently 23 here and when I was growing up, my folks would always wash every single problems I had with "Back in my days.....when I was your age....."

      Yeh. When I got totaled over in the principal's office because I finally got sick and tired of being kicked around and fought back to defend myself, my parents would give me the story about how teenagers back in their days etc etc.

      And my folks would always go on and on about how 'retro' is in fashion constantly and since I dress like Emilie Autumn, you know how that always goes with retro lovin' folks XD!

      Ohhhh I love my folks but thanks to them, I really get tired of THE GOOD OLD DAYS.

      Although out of habit, me and my fellow friends (of the same age, from 20 - aged 30) would always grumble about how teenagers these days are.....it's an unbreakable chain it seems. The problem doesn't end there. -.-

      It happens when I am gaming too in which I get flamed by a whole horde of old school gamers simply because I love a newer generation of games then the older ones?

      wow x.x'''

      Anyways, Great hub as always!!!

    • hecate-horus profile imageAUTHOR

      hecate-horus 

      7 years ago from Rowland Woods

      Marriedwithdebt: I tend to agree with you; that's why I grow my own, buy from independent farmers, and buy organic. McDonalds is pretty much responsible for the farming practices we have today (food inc). I also plan on raising my own chickens and having the kids help me out.

      RachelLefler:Like I said, "Food Inc", it's an eye opener!

      Thanks for your comments!

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      Rachael Lefler 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      You know we used to have farming methods that were a lot more dangerous, inefficient, and harmful to the environment than we do now. There's no such thing as a "food supply" good old days, either. The good old days aren't when droughts, bad government projects, and less productive technology used to lead to famines.

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      marriedwithdebt 

      7 years ago from Illinois

      If you look at the single most important thing in our lives - the food supply - I do wish for the good old days.

      Since refined carbohydrates have taken over, we are killing ourselves in ways that make a pack a day of cigarettes look healthy.

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