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The Lies Society Tells Us About Ourselves

Updated on December 21, 2011

What Lies Hold You Back?

We need to stop fooling ourselves. This current age in which we live whisks us forward through our lives on a tidal wave of lies. From our earliest days we sit under training that whispers to our subconscious, "Follow the herd".

We attend schools that teach us to subjugate ourselves to corporate mentalities. Unwittingly we grasp at the green carrot of trading money for time, groomed by a system that does not like to reward ingenuity and forward thinking.

Our children get boxed in to a way of thinking by the repetition of "this is how it's always been done." We get teased by the glitz of the corporate mentalities that love to trap us in our own lusts, forcing us to play their money games and then we work for the very people keeping us under their thumb.

Ok. I'm not some crackpot 'conspirator monger' that rants around about 'big brother' and any of those well worn concepts, but I feel each and every working stiff in the United States of America should step back and look at the lies that get him or her through the day. Here's a number of mine through the years:

You have to work your way up to get anywhere in this world.

You're never going to die.

You're not good enough.

You can't ask her out, she's too pretty/smart/athletic/out there...

You can't make an impact in the world because it's too big and too fast.

You can't quit your job in the midst of the largest recession in history with four children at home just to get your business off the ground.

This subject has been approached by many people in many ways and from many angles. What I want you, the reader, to do is examine yourself and listen to the lies you tell yourself every single day. For years I was convinced by teachers, parents, peers and professors that your best bet in life is to work your way up the corporate ladder.

Then I found that the 'system' is weighted to keep people in a certain, controllable spot. Yes, I moved up the management treadmill, working hard with scant positive feedback and wages beneath my effort. I watched as some people broke out of the mold and made a living on their own terms, lying to myself that I could never do that.

I also got caught up in the 'immortality' complex that dominates our country. The glamor and the shiny prize of entertainment delivered in constantly new instant gratification modes sapped years of my life with the lie that I will never die and I have all the time in the world. Then one day I backed off of the crazy, hectic, everything-for-entertainment-sake life we lead and I realized there was no substance, no real, tangible benefit to the things I was doing.

I was distracting myself from the fact that from the instant we are born, our expiration date, whenever that may be, has been validated and looms as a reality. We live our lives as a nation with a warped sense of unreality. These insipid, ridiculous "reality shows" on that vile, life-sucking device called television is the ultimate slap in otherwise intelligent people's faces. The true reality these viewers need lies mere steps away from the remote.

We tell ourselves others are better equipped, better positioned, better trained, better prepared, better this and better that. Corporate entities often measure our progress by employing backstabbing people who keep the go-getters in check for fear of losing their own tenuous position. We allow others to critique our lives too often without checking the source or without using the critique as a tool to improve. We allow ourselves to be convinced we simply do not measure up.

We miss out on incredible relationships because of outdated or ridiculous social mores that tell us inter-racial marriages don't work or she's too pretty or he's all looks and no brains, etc. We fall into poor relationships out of desperation - desperation to make something work that should not ever have been assembled.

We see some people stepping up and doing great things and we again think privately that we could never do what they're doing. We're too shy, too insignificant, not sharp enough, not in the right tax bracket or social clique.

I have known and even espoused the fact that a person's chances of being successful are almost nil if they solely work for someone else. This is proven over and over and over again throughout history. The people who break out and reject the mindset of the controllers - money, power, greed, etc., and trek through life in pursuit of their passion become the 'true' wealthy people.

Our society is sick. Terminally sick. Absurdly sick. Yet we continue to chase the dreams of immortality sold to the masses through sexy advertisements, tugs on our lusts for power and manufactured goals because someone else says they hold the answer to happiness.

Our society searches for its soul external to itself with obviously no means at all to succeed in self-actualization. Our society compels its legions to dance to the drumbeat of fad and fortune. Our society dies each day that another person buys into the garbage crammed down the throats of its citizens about how everything worthwhile in life can be purchased.

The lies we tell ourselves are complex, deep rooted, supported by most everything that surrounds us and we feed on them daily. We reinforce their power each time we tell ourselves we MUST have this and we won't be complete without that. Self awareness needs to be our focus. We must no longer allow advertisers and peers and families to define our existence by some criteria outside ourselves.

Only you posses the key to your happiness. Only you can place this key in the lock that binds you to something that does not define you. Only you possess the power to stop your own lies. I know as sure as there are keys underneath my fingertips that you lie to yourself every day about a myriad of things. So do I.

Hope, will, and passion can turn that key. They can open the sky and rain awareness down on your soul. Hope, will, and passion are tools you can use to combat the lies you've lived with your entire life.

One last thing. Positivity is a word (rightfully so) in the Oxford English Dictionary yet its antonym - negativity - is used in word thought and deed like a black avalanche that consumes us. Realize the power of positivity. Realize the freedom of choice you give yourself when you abandon your lies and embrace a positive outlook on life.

We bandy about lies and negativity on scales that boggle the soul, and we abandon truth and positivity on a scale that is shameful. Reverse your life. Wake up to who you are deep inside. Tell yourself the truth and claim positivity as your beacon to a brighter future. Open your eyes to the lies you listen to non-stop each and every day.

The struggle to persevere will change your life and free your soul to finally enjoy that which cannot be bought because it cannot be sold - truth. Embrace it. breathe it. Find your life and live it.


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      Michael Ray King 18 months ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hi Meredith,

      I've been off Hub Pages for about three years. I'm working my way back and I appreciate your comment. My apologies for being gone so long...

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      Meredith 4 years ago

      I dont understand why this article has only 10 comments. Thank you for writing this!

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      Michael Ray King 6 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Once again, thank you Textured Ideas. Positive feedback sure can lift the spirit. I love your screen name, btw...

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      Textured Ideas 6 years ago

      It’s great to hear that you’re following your passions once again and as they say "It's better late than never" Wow I’m thrilled to have made your day! Thank you =) I hope you remain positive. Your writing style is really unique. You have some very thought provoking and articulate hubs here (which I will comment on soon) and I look forward to reading many more from you and continued conversation.

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      Michael Ray King 6 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hi Textured Ideas, your father is wise. If there were one aspect of my life I would alter it's my predilection for downplaying what I love for what others think I should do. I should have been voraciously writing since 1979. Lessons come at all ages in life and I am thankful I discovered I am free to pursue my passion. Sometimes I get down (as in just before your comment) then I focus on my dream and someone wonderfully impacts my life. Too many years I chased money. I've found the rewards of writing to far outweigh the money I once earned. Never undereatimate the power of words! Thank you again for making my day!

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      Textured Ideas 6 years ago

      Thank you for your kind words and I hope you have a wonderful day too! I'm pleased that the comment come at a good timing for you. To be honest, your hub really struck a cord with me as it reflects my thinking of late, sometimes worrying what I 'should' be doing instead of want I 'want' to be doing. So thank you for the encouragement. My father keeps telling me the same thing "Do what you want in life and don't feel beholden to others and if you have any regrets then at least it was through living life by your own choices" or something like that...

      Anyway, it's nice to meet you and I'm sorry for prattling on =)

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      Michael Ray King 6 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hello Textured Ideas, Thank you for such an uplifting comment. I must say, your comment reached me at a time when I really needed to hear something positive. I am honored that you will be stopping by to read more. Comments such as yours lifts me up, and for that I am most appreciative. Have a wonderful day and I look forward to seeing more of you here on Hub Pages!

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      Textured Ideas 6 years ago

      This is the best and most truthful hub I've read in a long time. People search so long and hard for contentment and fulfillment instead of trying to create it. And you're so right, life doesn't HAVE to be this way if only we were prepared to take more chances.

      You have a really powerful style of writing. I will be coming back to read more, thanks!

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      Michael Ray King 7 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hi GPAGE, Getting back that "tv" time has been huge. Familial interaction increased which pays dividends in countless 'unseeable' ways when raising children and has, in my opinion, kept my imagination alive and at full throttle. TV seems to deaden one's brain.

      Thanks for the feedback and the "Never Give Up!" boost. Tim Allen's rallying cry in Galaxy Quest - "Never Give Up! Never Surrender!" I love it!!!

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      MR...good article.....We turned our tv off a long time watch DVD's once in a while.....I'm a strong believer in "Never Giving Up!" Best, G

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      Michael Ray King 7 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hello alahiker28, thank you for your comment. We turned our television off 15 years ago. We still watch DVD's and every now and then I watch a sporting event, but life is far too short to allow poor programming and adolescent writing to dominate my day. I hope I don't have to go the bankruptcy route (even once), but again, life is far too short to sell yourself out. Thank you for your encouragement. Every ounce is appreciated!!!

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      Vicki Parker 7 years ago from the Deep South

      Some of the world's most successful people filed bankruptcy (more than once) before they finally realized their dreams. Their secret weapon - they never stopped trying. Excellent hub! I loved your point that television is like a vacuum sucking the energy out of us.