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The FIVE Reasons As To Why Certain People are Pessimistic, Haters, Soul Destroyers, and Otherwise.......Negative
The Positive and .............Negative
Something NEGATIVE is Coming This Way
There are people who can be aptly classified as positive. Such people are a joy to be around. They possess an infectious attitude. They are encouraging and nurturing to others. They build up others' self-confidence, telling them what is conceived, can definitely be achieved with planning, studying, goal setting, and hard work. They maintain that there is no such thing as cannot and impossible for those words are defeating in addition to conveying the wrong message. They believe that that actions, practices, and words have psychological power and that the right actions, practices, and words help a person while the wrong actions, practices, and words can demoralize a person. They feel that the worst thing that one can do to another person is to impart any type of negative psychology unto him/her as that will eventually become a frightening self-fulfilling prophecy.
Then there are people who can be characterized as negative. They are the type of people that clearly others do not want to be around. In fact, others avoid such people, being around them when absolutely necessary. They are barely tolerable at best and psychically draining at worst. To say that they are toxic is the ultimate understatement. They are psychological, even psychic demoralizers, even destroyers. They are quite adept of deflating a person's aspirations, dreams, even his/her sense of self. However, they refuse to acknowledge their negativity and toxicity. In their limited way, they believe that they are helping people with no harm intended. What they fail and/or actually do not care to realize is that actions, practices, and words have a psychological, even psychic impact on others.
There are many reasons why some people are negative. Such reasons include a harsh, even horrific early environment. Unfavorable familial relationships can make some people adopt a negative psychology and outlook. Other people are negative because circumstances and situations have been difficult, even onerous. There are no two reasons alike. In essence, there are unique and individual reasons as to why there are negative people. I will detail the five main reasons why certain people are negative: (1) having a fearful mindset, (2) possessing envy, (3) always expecting the worst, (4) having a feeling of utter hopelessness, and (5) having low self-esteem.
Negative People are............Fearful
1. Negative People Have a Fearful Mindset
Negative people are fearful people. They simply cannot and/or refuse to see beyond their particular environment. They are safe and secure, even comfortable in their environment. They see anything beyond and outside their particular environment to be strange, hostile, even unwelcoming. They are unsure as to how to act in this new environment. So instead of exploring, adapting to, and eventually conquering this environment, they will use any excuse to avoid this environment. They would remain safe yet stultified than to expand their horizons and grow.
Negative people equate the unknown and unfamiliar with certain failure. They figure if they go into an unknown area, it is a likelihood that they will fail. Failure to them means that they are incapable, inept, and generally not up to the task. They see failure as a punishment for going into places where they should not have gone in the first place. They rationalize that if they stayed in the known and familiar, they would not be in this dire situation.
Negative people instill this fear into others. They are fond of telling others that their aspirations and goals are unrealistic and/or impossible to attain because they are unable to conceive of such. They simply cannot fathom any aspiration and goal that is beyond their designated belief system as to what aspirations and goals should be. Instead of broadening their understanding that people have different aspirations and goals that is beyond their particular world yet reachable, they argue that such aspirations and goals are unattainable on the basis that it is unheard of, even unknown in their purview. In other words, if they have conceived of it, it simply does not exist thus it is not reality.
Negative People are.............Envious
2. Negative People Possess an Amount of Envy
Negative people are subconsciously envious people. They reason that if they are unhappy, why should others be happy. They take it as an affront that some people actually possess an upbeat and fantastic attitude and/or philosophy towards life and general situations. It completely galls them that people would be capable of possessing such a cheery attitude or philosophy. They reason how can others see the good aspects of things where there are clearly none. They exist in a state of purgatorial angst, secretly wishing they could be happy but refusing to be so.
Negative people are unnerved, even unsettled by those who are bold and daring enough to go beyond prescribed boundaries and rules to achieve their dreams. They live in a prescribed universe of their own making. They act and think according to their particular prescribed, preordained boundaries and rules. They have inculcated such a paradigm into their belief ideology and system. Their paradigm dictates to them how they are allowed and forbidden to act, think, and/or achieve. They feel that they must adhere to such paradigms and if they deviate from this paradigm, they would be psychologically lost. They are threatened by people who elect to disregard, even go beyond such prescribed and/or preordained paradigms if they are illogical and/or outdated in order to achieve their desired goals. Such people are brave enough to do what they secretly would like to do but they are entrenched in their particular purview as to how they are supposed to be.
Negative people overtly or covertly sabotage others' chances of success because they know that the latter will surpass them. They do not want others to do better than they do. They reason that if they have attained a certain level of success, no one had better outdo them. They love people who achieve the same or a lower level of success than they have as such people are not intimidating. The latter, in their eyes, are on a similar playing field as they are. They maintain that those on the same or lower level are not going anywhere like them. However, those who have a higher level of success are going places, especially places undreamed of by them. They do not want that and will do anything necessary to prevent others from reaching a higher success level than they did.
Negative People Know That It's Bad.......Very, Very Bad
3. Negative People Expect the Worst
Negative people do not expect that anything good will happen to them. They believe that the road is very tenuous and that everything is an uphill, perilous battle. They see life as filled with pitfalls and obstacles. They furthermore contend that life is one long purgatorial existence. If one asks them, what is life, they will remark that life is akin to a prison sentence. They maintain that life is barely tolerable at best and an abject hellish endurance test at its worst. They may even clarify that life is not supposed to be joyous, fun, nor easy; instead, it was meant to be tough, even onerous.
Negative people always see a bad outcome in any situation. They are adept of predicting that a situation will come a worse conclusion than it actually does. If a person explains to them what they perceive is deemed neurotic, they will insist that they are correct in their premise. They love to prognosticate dire outcomes because such gives them a peculiarly psychological sense of satisfaction. They really are not happy unless they are in some type of psychological morass.
Negative people are of the opinion that nothing good happens to them. They feel that good things occur to other people. They maintain that bad things are a commonplace occurrence in their lives. They furthermore believe that they are woefully unlucky, even cursed. They believe that there are some people who are lucky, even blessed in that good things always happen to them. They contend that there are others like them are doomed to receive the crumbs and leftovers that life dishes out, adding that they are happy to have that. They view it as quite normative that bad things happen to them.
Negative People Feel................Hopeless
4. Negative People Have a Sense of Utter Hopelessness
Negative people believe that they are without hope. They feel that things are never going to improve no matter how hard they try. They contend that things will remain the same with tomorrow being the same as today and yesterday. They maintain that they are on the neverending road to nowhere. They assert that nothing can ever get any worse than it is now. They feel that they have reached rock bottom with no chance of ever getting out of their abysmal situation.
Negative people believe that they are indeed lost. They are constantly afloat, not knowing where they are going nor where they will be next. They are aware that they are in the darkest place imaginable. They realize that they are in dire straits. They know that their particular situation is beyond resolution and they simply must be resigned to accept, even live with the consequences of their actions no matter how dismal, even hellish they may be.
Negative people contend that their lives are irreparably ruined, even destroyed because of some past action or failing. They refuse to believe that mistakes are a part of learning and growth. They also reject the premise that what happened in the past most likely has no bearing upon the present. They believing in wallowing in their past, even punishing themselves for their supposed failings. They contend that their present situation is a penalty for their past mistakes. They will not let go of their mistakes, preferring to remind in their purgatorial comfort than to begin anew and become a more evolved person in the process.
Negative People .............Often Feel Worthless
5. Negative People Have Low Self-Esteem
Negative people do not feel good about themselves. One can say that they have feelings of inferiority. They maintain that they are of little no significance and they do not matter to themselves, others, and in life. They feel that they should not have been born. They even believe that they would be truly better off if they were dead as they are not important. They neither love nor respect themselves because in their purview, they are not worthy.
As a result of having inferior feelings, negative people settle for less than what they could be and do not utilize all of their human potential. They feel that success and other positive things are out of their reach because of their low self-esteem. They furthermore believe that they are quite unworthy, even undeserving of success. They contend that they must take what they can get whether it is a job, relationship, or even a lifestyle. They argue that they do not deserve anything valuable thus they do not attain nor receive anything valuable. They are content to be always on the peripheral outside looking in at others who are enjoying their particular levels of success and life choices.
Negative people can adopt patterns of self-destructive behavior because of their low self-esteem. Since they have a tenuous sense of self, they are unable to bounce back from any type of failure, mistake, or any other type of mishap. Instead of seeing the mistake and/or failure as coincidential, they see themselves as the mistake and/or failure and act accordingly. They feel that they will not amount to anything and will be a perpetual failure. This can bring on feelings of self-destruction ranging from adopting a persona of powerlessness as they feel like non-persons anyway to even committing suicide as they believe that their lives are meaningless.
Negative people are the ones that people wish to avoid and with good reason. They demoralize people psychologically, even psychically. They create a toxic atmosphere not only for others but for themselves. They use their negativity as a displacement mechanism for their unhappiness. They are negative to disguise their feelings of inferiority. They are hurting in one way or another. Remember, inside each negative person is a wounded person whether he/she wishes to acknowledge it or not.
© 2015 Grace Marguerite Williams