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The Rule in Dining Table

Updated on February 22, 2010

I don't know whether this is my soul as a teacher. I want to share something useful for others. And the soul of teacher is share the knowledge in the class or out side the class. I don’t have a problem when my student is smart than me. At this moment the patience of teacher will be tested. I don’t want to be idealist person, who hold the opinion and never receive other opinion although that is proven and 100% good for me. Why I write this as an opening for this hub. Because my work is a teacher, but I also give the moral lesson to my student. I never stop to remind again. This era totally different with the past, when the children also respect the parents, obey the rules, doing what the parents said (in goodness).

Like yesterday, I teach about the moral in the family. What we should we do when we are having dinner together. This is become my inspiration to write about “ The rule in the dining table” My message to my student about they have to be polite when eating with their family. And this is more complex with many descriptions and covers a wider scale. I hope by this hub, it remind us about the rule in the dining table. Maybe this tradition will lost when we don’t keep it well.  There is a good culture in here, not only for table manner.

  • Don’t talk when you eat. This is the basic rule of eating.
  • Don’t made a sound while chewing food. though, sounded less enjoyable. this is very rude. The others will be disturbed by this noise.
  • Don't laugh loudly. If there;s something funny try use a smile. if you can’t stop to laugh, immediately shut your mouth with your hand or all the food will come out of your mouth.
  • You can wear a powder or lipstick. But don’t do it in the dining table, this is like inappropriate impression. Better you ask first or permission to leave the table and doing this in the toilet.
  • Don’t scrape your teeth with a finger or a toothpick. if your teeth to be cleaned with a toothpick, cover your mouth with the palm of your hand. so that others can’t see what you are doing.
  • Finicking. We have to decide what food will we take, before touching. Do not take the food, and then changed our mind and replaced with another piece. This can make other people lost their appetite.
  • Do not make eating and drinking equipment noisy. This may make others upset. So, be careful.
  • Don’t put the napkin in the neck. Especially if you're wearing a dress. if a napkin provided on the table, grab and fold become a triangle form. after that put it on the thigh.
  • Put a spoon and fork crossed if the food has been eaten, as well as knives and forks. When used the European style, spoons and forks are placed side by side and placed sideways on the plate.
  • Don’t fill your mouth full with food. Even if you feel very hungry at that time. And the impression is not good. So, don’t let it happen with you.
  • Tasting food. It’s okay. But don’t take from others plate. These people would be upset and feel disgusted because your dirty hand in their plate. They felt uncomfortable.
  • Don’t take the food by hand. It look dirty, unless provided spoon or fork to pick it up..
  • Use the special spoon when you want to taste the gravy food. Don’t use your mouth.
  • Don’t suck the drink until the end with noisy. especially for drink containing ice cubes.
  • Placed the napkins that had been used on the edge of the plate and fold it neatly. don't put it on dirty dishes.
  • Don't fight over when taking food. let the host or older to take the food first.
  • Lift the cup and the base also, when served tea or coffee, don’t only lift the cup.
  • Don’t leave the table until the host or the person who invited you to leave the table first.

  • If you want go to the toilet or bathroom, ask first or permission before leave the table.

  • Don’t answer the phone if you invited dinner. Better turn off the phone, unless you waiting the emergency calls. Tell the host first.
  • Don’t smell the food. smell the food is a bad habit, especially if your nose stuck to the food.

  • If the food wasn't delicious. please act like casual. don't make other people hurt. if you are asked to add the food, said. "enough", that’s the good word.

  • If you don’t accidentally eat chilies and felt spicy. shut your mouth with a napkin and drink immediately. And then, you can notify the host that there was chilies in the food that wasn’t intentionally ingested.

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I hope with good behavior, we more accepted in society. And we more accepted in our family. By learning from simple things, we'll get something valuable that we never expected. An easy way to learn is "learning by doing". By making observations on around us, even to imitate the goodness things. It will give a big influence for us. The example is the behavior in the dining table, Like I said before this is not only a table manner. But contain social effect. I hope this hub useful for us.

You can also read:

The Rule In Hotel

For some people hotel is the place to have fun. And for others , hotel is the last choice for take a rest. Outside the main goal we go to hotel is we want comfortable place. To get the comfortable , there is a rule we have to know. And we must doing that and sometimes we have to obey these rule.


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    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Cathi for your appreciation about this topic. I agree with all you said above. Table manners is important for us. And family should show the good manners. Actually not only in the dining table. But in entire life. Thanks for showing me your experience with your family and about how this role have to keep well. Although your mother not speak loud, but she give you sign. And we should obey this. I hope everything seems right and running well.....amen.

    • Cathi Sutton profile image

      Cathi Sutton 

      8 years ago

      You write with such gentleness, and with such sincere thoughts. I am very glad to read what you write. Also in today's world, it is so easy to disregaurd manners, even at the table. Children must be taught young, and then have this teaching continue. I agree with you about table manners. My mother would become very upset, (though she would not speak out loud), if a guest put their fingers into a dish. And my dad was very strict about chewing food properly, and no joking at the table. Very, very good Hub! Thank you so much!

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Your welcome, Febrie. I hope this manner still keep well. And that's our duty to give example of good manners for people around us.

    • febriedethan profile image


      8 years ago from Indonesia

      Pras, this is really great! Thank's for sharing these useful advises!

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Micky, I think you have a lot of experience in manners. I agree with your comment. As a younger person we have to learn much from you.

    • Micky Dee profile image

      Micky Dee 

      8 years ago

      Great advice. If it's a family meal, perhaps eating slowly and "recapping" how the day was for everyone would be nice. Great advice. Thanks

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Mr.Roychoudhury for supporting this hub. I am glad to meet you here and your nice comment.

    • H P Roychoudhury profile image

      H P Roychoudhury 

      8 years ago from Guwahati, India

      It is great to remember the niceties of life.

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Mystique1957, I agree with you. Manners maintain our life better. We learn about manners not only from school but we can learn from people around us. I think many hubbers have a lot of experience about that. Gracias!

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks for many hubbers who give the best comment here. I get many input from you all. And manners is important for life. I hope our children will learn much from elder.

    • Mystique1957 profile image


      8 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

      My man Prasetio...

      As always, good useful hubs! I agree with you, my friend! Good manners or bad manners show what you´ve been taught or not taught at home. Sometimes people forget that they are not alone and everybody has a right to make their dining moment pleasant!

      Thumbs up!

      warmest regards and blessings to you, my brother,


    • jabyrd82 profile image


      8 years ago from Farmington,New Mexico

      Excellent job alot of people dnot know what bad manners are think you cleared up some of that confusion thanks!

    • ethel smith profile image

      Eileen Kersey 

      8 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

      Good manners are so often forgotten these days

    • Darlene Sabella profile image

      Darlene Sabella 

      8 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

      My father was very serious about good table manners, I learned very young. However, many young people today don't know about this. Thank you for sharing this wise hub with us. I enjoyed reading it.

    • Hello, hello, profile image

      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      A lovely and inspiring hub. Thank you very much.

    • JannyC profile image


      8 years ago

      Awesome hub.Excellen reminder of manners and etiuette.

    • carolina muscle profile image

      carolina muscle 

      8 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      In some eastern cultures, slurping is considered good manners, but it always stuck me as a little hard to take... but when in Rome... Great hub!!!

    • Veronica Allen profile image

      Veronica Allen 

      8 years ago from Georgia

      It is easy to forget these simple rules of etiquette. Thanks for giving us a vital reminder.

    • michiganman567 profile image


      8 years ago from Michigan

      Very informative Prasetio, My grandma always gave us a hard time for having our elbows on the table.

    • Pamela99 profile image

      Pamela Oglesby 

      8 years ago

      Excellent list. I wish all children would learn these rules and for that matter some adults I know. Excellent hub.

    • Truth From Truth profile image

      Truth From Truth 

      8 years ago from Michigan

      Great points, many people often forget manners at dinner.

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Angela for stopping by. That's why I also remind to my student about the simple manner. And they don't embarrass the family when they eating together in the same table. sit down meals is not enough without manners. This is the important thing. And as a parent we have to give understanding a little by little. Angry to them is not good in teaching manners.

    • Angela Blair profile image

      Angela Blair 

      8 years ago from Central Texas

      How easy it is to forget the simple niceties of life, Prasetio30 -- thank you for reminding us. So often, with a family all going in a different direction -- sit down meals just don't happen often enough and that's where kiddos learn table manners. Timely Hub and I enjoyed it. Best, Sis


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