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The Symbolism of what you Buy
Your shopping addictions offer clues to what you really need.
There is really no need for you to get in that store today. There are so many bills to pay and so many dreams to save up for. But there you are perusing the aisles of Bloomingdales, searching. You found the perfect bag. It's perfect. A sense of peace overcomes you. Yes, that is the bag. This is it. If one could have a soul bag in the same way people think they have soulmates, then yours will be this one.
You check the price. Yikes. But this is the one. You make a computation in your head. You make excuses. You make a decision. It's the wrong one. But you have the bag you never knew you wanted. You are just so happy. The happiness will last two weeks before remorse sets in. Then you'll actually feel bad. It will not necessarily be because of the bag in your head. No, that one was worth it. But you will feel bad because of your general helplessness to divert your funds for the things that you are truly aiming for, things that will make your life better for good.
Shopping addictions are symbolic of the psyche's need to immediately have the relief from an internal feeling of deprivation of true desires. Many people would buy too much of one thing at the expense of other needs. Why? The things you horde are temporarily filling up holes that was created by an unexpressed or frustrated desire.
A great example would be Designer bag addiction. Designer bag addicts spend thousands of dollars to fill a typical emotional need. The cost of designer bags does not serve as a deterrent, rather it is part of the thing you are buying. Your bag is where your put our wallet,your cellphone, your mints and spare sanitary napkin. Things that you bring around with you wherever you go that provide little necessities. Your bag is your little home outside your home. Bags represent something more to these people than a place to put things in. They are also symbolic of the baggage people carry around wherever they go. A Designer Bag addict in particular, is addicted to the perception of an elevated status. Particularly when they are around social groups that they perceive to have status.
A woman who desperately goes through one designer bag after the other is really buying envy. Because she envies status. While one or two designer bags may just be for the purposes of fitting in, a constant stream of purchases of designer bags is a cry to be recognized and respected, to be looked up to. A woman like this dreads the feeling of being average.
By channelling the energy to activities that fulfill the psychological need for being exceptional, the need for one designer bag after the other will abate. Knowing what you really need to be looked up to, will help you channel (not Chanel)that destructive baggage into motivation. The motivation to really be an exceptional person. To be it instead of to have it.
Other Classic Buying Addictions and their Symbolic Psychological Need
Jewelry - The need to be seen as beautiful. Jewelry directs the eyes to the face. An addiction to jewelry is a symbolic need to be noticed as beautiful. Real jewelry addicts and accessories addicts only differ in what kind of beauty they want to project. Real jewelry addicts adds pedigree to the mix while accessory addicts want to be perceived as young and beautiful. Losing weight if you're fat, attending to your health to have clearer skin usually does the job better. That or maybe you need to dump your boyfriend to look for one who appreciates you more for who you are will do the trick.
Make-up - The need to hide. People who like to put on heavy make-up are usually very private and very shy. They are really about not letting people see what's really there. Surrounding yourself with people who celebrates your unique charm will help you get comfortable with your real self.
Shoes - The need to be perceived as sexy. If Sex in the City character Carrie Bradshaw and Imelda Marcos both had major issues with particular men and sex. Women who are shoe addicts are also struggling with intimacy issues. It doesn't matter what kind of shoes they are addicted to, the kind of shoes only points to the kind of men and sex they're after. Shoe addiction will be cured by a commitment or a baby.
Home Décor - The need to feel at home. Home Décor addicts invest so much money and time on their homes because they are buying the concept of a happy home life, a happy family. As a matter of fact, most single people of a certain age have beautiful homes. Making your space beautiful is not exactly the same as constantly redecorating. An excessive addiction to home décor means you are seeking to fill the emptiness of your home, or home life.
Home is where you feel you are accepted, loved and comfortable. A person who knows she has these will decorate her house to reflect what she values. A person who does not feel at home in her own house will constantly remodel it. The best cure is to accept, love and be comfortable with who you are. It's to know where and to whom you belong to.
Books - The need to know oneself. Most book addicts are seekers. They seem to be researching on who they are. Book addicts buy books they cannot read or do not have time to read. The book purchase is symbolic of filling a self-curiosity. The cure for book addicts is self honesty, meditation and, well actually reading those books you already have.That, and a library card. You won't symbolically acquire self-knoweldge but actually know deeply what moves you.
Technology - The need to be progressive. A person who constantly upgrades phones, computers etc. needs to combat a dread for slowness and being behind. The need to have new technology all the time is an attempt to symbolically acquire advancement in life. It is symbolic of the desire to have it easier. Technology addicts usually are very busy people who barely have time to slow down. They are usually rushing to the next thing to get to the next level. Slowing down means there is no progress. The way to cure technology addiction is to focus on being a pioneer in your field, one who sets the pace. That, or just simply progressing in the areas of your life that you feel should progress instead of symbolically relieving it with technological toys.
Clothes - The need for a good self-image. Clothing addicts are really buying self-image. When a woman spends a disproportionate amount of money on clothing, that means she is buying liking the way she sees herself. To be fashionable is one thing--a good thing. But acquiring more clothes than necessary or more than she can afford is symbolic of the desperate need to see the self in a better light. Being that person instead of looking like that person will cure her of the addiction.
The rule is, don't fill the emotional holes with things, just fill it with what its calling out for.