The Subtle Art of Escaping Judgmentalism
Ever thought what would that random guy think if you do that or what image will you form in your classmate’s mind if you say that particular thing? None of us are liberated from the fear of getting judged. Well, at least I am not.
Fundamentally can we blame others for judging us? For that matter how many people will you blame? Because the fact lies that people judge you without you being cognizant of it and sometimes the people judging you are themselves aloof of their judgemental behaviour because it is so natural and extemporaneous to humans. But the ill effect on the person being judged is that it would destroy the absolute freedom of a person, which is an area where an individual is inviolable and is free to do whatever she or he wants. Considering the political philosophy, if this area of absolute freedom is too small then human dignity gets compromised
So, can we think of a world where nobody judges anyone for whatever he or she does? Eutopian vision of course. But even if such a world exists in future, will it be an ideal one to live in? I don’t think so. If there is no one to judge on whatever crap we do, there won’t be any competition between people aspiring the same goal. Moreover, that absolute zone of freedom might turn into negative liberty and we would degrade ourselves to the lowest level, in terms of behaviour, competency and what not. And obviously we do not need anyone to advocate our actions all the time. But not all judgements are demoralising. When people praise you for the good things you do, isn’t that a judgement? A positive judgement in fact!
Remember, the best person to judge one, is one’s own self. At times, we judge ourselves more than anyone else would do. Because of our personal fable we create an environment where we are phobic to people judging us. But in reality we need not to fear any kind of judgement on us if we are aware of our actions and we have self analysed them.
This world is always there to judge us. All we need to do is rationally reflect on the judgements which would change us for the better and let go of the others. In the end what matters is how satisfied we are with ourselves and not how the world rates us!