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The Valley of Life

Updated on May 19, 2013

Maybe it's OK to Just Stay in the Valley

I'm a very determined person. Sometimes too determined I think. Sometimes when life is knocking me down I think I try too hard to bounce back, even though my legs are faltering and my arms are flailing. Some people might say well this is a good thing - just keep getting up like a boxer in a ring - keep throwing those jabs and try to keep standing up. Keep kicking those legs and struggle to get back on your feet.

Yes it's probably a good thing to be determined - but the older I get the more I realize that it's also OK to just stay in the valley for awhile once life has knocked you down, beat you up and spit you out. Valley living can have it's upsides. At least when you realize you are in one of those life valleys, you can take sometime to breathe, suck up some new fresh air - and collect your self. Hard to do if you are out in the trenches of life struggling to keep your head above the water.

Giving Up Is Not An Option

My therapist says I have been in a "survival mode" for many years now. I really don't like that analogy but I suppose it's true. Life has thrown so many twists and turns at me in the last few years that sometimes I just want to scream "Will this EVER STOP!!!". I am tired of flailing, tired of taking in a deep breath only to suck up water and go back under into funky depths again. Tired of just surviving -just barely making it. I am just tired of swimming this marathon survival test.

Yes I bet some of you might be worried, oh no she sounds depressed, sounds like she's giving up, she sounds suicidal.

To that I say NO WAY. I could never just let my body go and sink into the depths. I'm too much of a fighter for that. No matter what comes my way, I always have a little part of me that says "get up and walk!!. Part of my heritage I suppose. My dad was a fighter, and he NEVER gave up. So who am I to give up? Giving up is not an option, but perhaps just laying low in the valley for awhile is...........

So What Does Valley Living Entail?

I think the hardest part of life for me is realizing when i am in the "valley'. But in life they say recognition is the first step to recovery....

So OK, I admit it, I'm in the valley right now. I've been fighting it all week, trying to keep myself busy, trying to pretend that I'm OK. Well I'm not OK. I'm tired and I need a rest. I can still see the glorious mountains above me that I would love to climb, but I realize that I'm just too tired and worn out to climb them right now. I am decidedly in a valley, but I can make this a nice valley if I so choose. I can look around me at all the greenery, the gentle rolling slopes, and start taking one small step at a time.

Baby steps.

I can stop and take in some fresh air and quit hyperventilating just trying to keep up with all my thoughts.

I can stop trying to suck air in and just stop to smell the flowers here in the valley, and look at all the glorious colors around me.

I can spend time with other valley dwellers -and together we can dream and wonder about the majesty of the mountains together, and between us we can gather strength to ascend the mountains ahead.


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    9 years ago

    Dorsi, this is what very many people experience daily. In 2006, i had the worst setback ever.I was very depressed, frustrated and confused that I contemplated quitting but somehow i dragged on till date.

    Nothing was working and my family wasn't fairing well. My job was having issues.

    I have come to believe by the things I passed through that having a strong belief mechanism of never believing that it is over helps a lot.

    It is the crest and trough thing. Sometimes, you may not help being and staying in the valley but you must climb out soonest to soar.

    It is a good work. Thanks for sharing

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    Dolores Monet 

    9 years ago from East Coast, United States

    besides who says we have to be happy, energetic and productive all the time, that is really unrealistic

  • blondepoet profile image


    9 years ago from australia

    I really enjoyed your story.I really can relate to what you are saying.A lot of my life I have had to pick myself out the gutter,sitting there rock bottom.From this I know I am damn strong.I go through changing seasons.There is the good and the bad.I allow myself to cry,I allow myself to grieve,but I never allow myself to fall back in the pit again.

  • C.S.Alexis profile image


    9 years ago from NW Indiana

    Hide and watch Dorsi. You don't have to give up but you can regroup from the valley. It is an okay place to be. I take a break from time to time and seek the valley with intention. You are growing wiser in your years, good for you. Makes the long haul seem much easier and better appreciated when you climb back up. Your next view will most likely include things you have seen many times before but they may appear different somehow, seen in a new light. Good for the soul being in the valley.

    P.S. I have been in survival mode since the flood..... for sure.

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    Om Prakash Singh 

    9 years ago from India, Calcutta

    I liked your attitude. NEVER GIVE UP!!! That is what keeps us going. But there are at times when you really feel very down and depressed. It is when one must take a break and I think that is what you are doing now. Good! I am sure this will re-energize you and you will come more stronger. A stronger Dorsi. Keep it up!

  • ocbill profile image


    9 years ago from hopefully somewhere peaceful and nice

    thought you were mentioning the San Fernando Valley at first. It is true do not give up. R u a quitter ? No ! otherwise Donald Trump would be on your back each day :-)

  • Cris A profile image

    Cris A 

    9 years ago from Manila, Philippines

    Definitely from Dr. Phil indeed but i agree with him, er, Constant. Kidding aside, I hope you'll be able to pull yourself together for the ascent. Thanks for sharing :D

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    Constant Walker 

    9 years ago from Springfield, Oregon

    Personally, I see nothing wrong with resting in the valley. Clearly you are in need of it. The better you take care of You, the better shape you are in to be there for another.

    I hate to admit it, but I think I learned that from Dr. Phil.

  • jenster profile image


    9 years ago from Bay Area

    I really like this hub dorsi good one and gave me alot to think about. keep up the good work

    love ya



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