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What is This Nonsense "Fecundaphobia"? Really, Come On Now

Updated on June 9, 2014
Fecundophobia?  Get real, please! You must be totally insane!
Fecundophobia? Get real, please! You must be totally insane!
They say that an idle mind is the devil's workshop.The human mind is ever creative & inventive. Some things are constructive while others are totally inane & utterly ridiculous. Take the coined word "fecundophobia" Really NOW!
They say that an idle mind is the devil's workshop.The human mind is ever creative & inventive. Some things are constructive while others are totally inane & utterly ridiculous. Take the coined word "fecundophobia" Really NOW!
There are pundits who maintain that postmodern society has a disease/disorder called fecundophobia. They maintain that people today fear fertile woman & large families. They aver that women now view pregancy as a disease which is to be avoided.
There are pundits who maintain that postmodern society has a disease/disorder called fecundophobia. They maintain that people today fear fertile woman & large families. They aver that women now view pregancy as a disease which is to be avoided.
Many extreme conservatives & more traditional relgionists view this postmodern culture with its emphasis on small families as a culture of death.They maintain that this culture views children very negatively.They state this culture is anti-family.
Many extreme conservatives & more traditional relgionists view this postmodern culture with its emphasis on small families as a culture of death.They maintain that this culture views children very negatively.They state this culture is anti-family.
Many extremely conservative pundits maintain that large families are under attack each day. They further cite that there is prejudice against large families. They maintain the mothers of large families are made to feel like anomalies or worse.
Many extremely conservative pundits maintain that large families are under attack each day. They further cite that there is prejudice against large families. They maintain the mothers of large families are made to feel like anomalies or worse.

Fecundophobia, What the Blazes

[Note: Large family is considered to be a household of 6 or more children.]

Remember the saying that the idle mind is the devil's workshop? The human mind is constantly in motion. If it does not think constructively, it thinks destructively. Many words are invented in the English language each day. Some words are intelligent while others are purely nonsensical to the verge of total and utter ludicrousness. Fecundophobia is such a word.

I was reading some extremely conservative religious articles and newsletters on the subject of fecundophobia. According to these articles and newsletters, mostly pro-life naturally-even anti- birth control, the definition of this concocted word is fear of fertile women and large families. These conservative religionists and pro-life pundits loudly proclaim that women now are fearful of becoming fruitful and multiplying.

These pundits and religonists assert that people today have small families because they hate children. They maintain that people who have large families LOVE children.They went further to state that this postmodern society is anti-family in addition to being anti-children. They then stated that society in general are prejudiced against large families. They assert that people from large families are the ones who really value family.

They proclaim that the postmodern culture of small families is a culture of death and self-indulgence. They are of the school that large families are more wholesome and enriching than small families. They maintain that small family culture view children as burdens or in the least to be problematic pests. They argue that large family culture is more conducive and welcome to children. They assert that in this postmodern society, many women view pregnancy as a disease that they either wish to avoid or in their estimation, prevent by unnatural means.

They further add that large families are under attack each day. They maintain that such families instead of being respected and emulated for being true representatives of what a family should be, they are oftentimes derided and considered to be anomalies. They claim that families face insurmountable prejudices in this small family culture. They contend that large families are the most criticized of all families. They state that mothers of large families are consistently verbally attacked by people because of their lifestyle choice.

Many mothers of large families state that there's a societal animus against them for having large families.They say that people are intrusive regarding their family size, esp. those who have small families or no children at all.
Many mothers of large families state that there's a societal animus against them for having large families.They say that people are intrusive regarding their family size, esp. those who have small families or no children at all.
People NEITHER fear nor are prejudiced against mothers of large families. That is totally fallacious logic.. When large families are critcized, it is not done with prejudicial intent but for quite logical and justifiable reasons.
People NEITHER fear nor are prejudiced against mothers of large families. That is totally fallacious logic.. When large families are critcized, it is not done with prejudicial intent but for quite logical and justifiable reasons.
Children from large families have less individualized parental interaction, time, & attention than their counterparts from small families. They have to learn to nurture themselves.They either must swim or sink as their parents AREN'T there for them.
Children from large families have less individualized parental interaction, time, & attention than their counterparts from small families. They have to learn to nurture themselves.They either must swim or sink as their parents AREN'T there for them.
It's a usual practice for children from large families to raise themselves & each other. It's even more common for oldest daughter from large families to assume parenting duties for  their younger siblings,not having a normal childhood & adolescence.
It's a usual practice for children from large families to raise themselves & each other. It's even more common for oldest daughter from large families to assume parenting duties for their younger siblings,not having a normal childhood & adolescence.
There is a great percentage of poverty in large families than in small.The Joseph Rowntree Foundation stated that in households of 5 children or more,there's a higher poverty rate. In large families, there is LESS money allocated per child.
There is a great percentage of poverty in large families than in small.The Joseph Rowntree Foundation stated that in households of 5 children or more,there's a higher poverty rate. In large families, there is LESS money allocated per child.
Children from large families receive little or no dental & medical care. They also have to eat inferiior, non-nutritious foods.  Medical insurance & nutritious food are oftentimes expensive and out of the purview of the typical large family.
Children from large families receive little or no dental & medical care. They also have to eat inferiior, non-nutritious foods. Medical insurance & nutritious food are oftentimes expensive and out of the purview of the typical large family.
Large families are not only detrimental to the children involved, it's also detrimental to the mother physically. A study done by the University of Utah confirmed that numerous pregnancies damages a woman's overall health, leading to ill health.
Large families are not only detrimental to the children involved, it's also detrimental to the mother physically. A study done by the University of Utah confirmed that numerous pregnancies damages a woman's overall health, leading to ill health.
No prejudice here. Intelligent and logical people view large families as unthinking, irresponsible, and careless on the part of the parents.The first thing that comes to mind is what about the children. Do these parents consider the ramifications?
No prejudice here. Intelligent and logical people view large families as unthinking, irresponsible, and careless on the part of the parents.The first thing that comes to mind is what about the children. Do these parents consider the ramifications?

Fear of & Prejudice Against..........Large Famililes?

Many mothers of large families staunchly maintain they are have been treated differentially because they have a lot of children. Some have become virulent in maintaining that other people are intrusive in their lives. They take such umbrage at people even asking how many children they have. They become even more defensive when people look at them and their families. They contend that how many children they have is their business. They state that they are the victims of prejudice from those who have smaller families or no children at all.

The average person neither fear nor are prejudiced against people from large families. That is a total fallacy. Those who critique large families do so with good reason. Children from large families have less individualized parental time and attendance than their counterparts from small families. As a result of low parental involvement, children from large families have to fend for themselves early in life. They have to learn to take care of themselves if they are going to survive, even thrive in the large family environment. In large family, children either swim or sink.

It is commonplace in large families for children to raise themselves and each other. Oldest children, particularly daughters, in large families have to parent younger siblings thus forfeiting their normative childhood and adolescent years. There was a 2004 newspaper article that stated that parents of 10 children were cited on child abuse charges for forcing their oldest daughter to assume full parenting duties of her younger siblings. In the Duggar household, it is the older daughters who parent the younger siblings, not the parents.

In addition to these negative components, there is a correlation between large families and poverty. The Joseph Rowntree Foundation stated that there were higher incidents of poverty in families where there are 5 children or more. Children in large families, as a result of being poor, barely have the necessities, let alone anything else.

Many children from large families have to work after-school and weekend jobs just to purchase things that other children normally have. Many children from large families oftentimes have to discontinue their education in order to work in order to supplement their meager family income. Children from large families have to consume inferior grade food because more nutritious food is more expensive. It is likely that they receive poor dental and medical care because the cost of health insurance is beyond the purview of the average large family.

A woman's body can be irreparably damaged as a result of numerous pregnancies. According to a study by the University of Utah, repeated pregnancies damages a woman's health and reproductive system, often leading to ill health and possibly younger death. Large families creates more stress both socioeconomically and psychologically.

Parents are forever wondering how they are going to make ends meet and/or how to support a large number of children. Parenting is oftentimes daunting as it is impossible for parents to effective raise a large number of children alone, that is why oldest children are enlisted or not forced to assume full parenting duties. No, highly educated and logical people do not fear nor are prejudiced against the large family. They view the large family as unthinking, careless, and irresponsible on the part of the parents. They see the large family as detrimental and disadvantageous, especially for the children.


Many mothers of large families lament how prejudicial society is against their familial lifestyle. However, THEY are oftentimes the ONES who become HIGHLY JUDGMENTAL  of women who elect not to have the same lifestyle as they do.
Many mothers of large families lament how prejudicial society is against their familial lifestyle. However, THEY are oftentimes the ONES who become HIGHLY JUDGMENTAL of women who elect not to have the same lifestyle as they do.
Many mothers of large families feel that mothers of small families are not authentic mothers.They feel that such mothers are missing something in terms of family life. In essence,they tend to believe that such mothers are extremely selfish.
Many mothers of large families feel that mothers of small families are not authentic mothers.They feel that such mothers are missing something in terms of family life. In essence,they tend to believe that such mothers are extremely selfish.
Some mothers of large families can freely talk about, criticize & cast aspersions on mothers of small families & childfree women. But THEY become defensive when IT is DONE to them. They DON'T seem to understand that other women have DIFFERENT wants.
Some mothers of large families can freely talk about, criticize & cast aspersions on mothers of small families & childfree women. But THEY become defensive when IT is DONE to them. They DON'T seem to understand that other women have DIFFERENT wants.

Who's PREJUDICED Against Whom

It is the cry from many mothers of large families that people are prejudiced against them because they have a lot of children. However, on several large family blogs, many mothers of large families are highly critical and dismissive of women who elect to have smaller families. They believe that having small families is not preordained. They believe that it was preordained to have as many children as possible. One woman who is expected child #7 stated that people who do not have large families are missing something. Another woman wants to have an extremely large family although her husband wants a small family. This woman indicated that she did not care whether her husband wanted a large family or not, SHE wanted it.

In another large family blog, there is a woman who is one of 7 children and has a large family herself. She indicated that children from small families make terrible parents. She went on to add that children from small families neither have fun with their families and have an authentic family life that large families brings. She added so what if the children in large families are impoverished, money should not mean anything at all.

One blog relating the detriments of large family life received the most negative response from 3 mothers of large families. One of the mothers indicated that the author was wrong that children from large families had severe socioeconomic disadvantages in addition to suffering from benign parental neglect. This mother further elaborated that it is children from small families who are spoiled because they have material things while her children, who had next to nothing, had each other. This mother even admitted that she was struggling economically.

The second respondent stated that children from small families are the irresponsible ones because they do not have it hard socioeconomically. She added that even though she and her family had to purchase inferior quality goods, her children were the better for it. The third and last respondent attacked the author, asserting that at least she did not have a spoilt, only child. She further relayed that women with one child are less of mothers as they were too selfish to cope with the joys of having a large family.

In a family blog which caters to all women, childfree, mothers of small families, mothers of medium sized families, and mothers of large families, a childfree married woman was attacked by a mother of a large family proclaiming that the former did not elect to have children because of selfishness. Mothers of large families cry how people act prejudicially towards them. However, when someone says that the large family is disadvantageous with documented proof, they become viotriolically defensive regarding their family style although they admit that it is negative. Besides that, they routinely degrade women who have small families or are childfree as selfish because the latter have more life choices and more disposable income than they do.

The issue of fecundophobia is moot People  aren't prejudiced against large families.Their main concern is those children's welfare. Instead of criticizing mothers of small families, mothers of large families need to THINK before they have children.
The issue of fecundophobia is moot People aren't prejudiced against large families.Their main concern is those children's welfare. Instead of criticizing mothers of small families, mothers of large families need to THINK before they have children.

Conclusion

There is no such thing as fecundophobia. People do not have a fear of fertile women nor fear large families. That is an inane and preposterous thought. Many extreme conservatives maintain that large families are under assault in this postmodern society. They further assert that the small family culture is a culture of death while the large family culture is a culture of life. However, the so-called prejudice against mothers of large families is an exaggeration.

If and when people criticize the large family, it for logical reasons. Large families are detrimental to the family, especially children , in myriad ways. These ways range from lack of individualized parental attention to children having to forego higher levels of education in order to work just to supplement parental income. Many mothers of large families become highly defensive even when presented with facts which clearly support how disadvantageous large families are.

They ignore such facts, although they readily admit that these disadvantages are present in their families. Instead, they divert from the issue at hand and personally attack mothers of small families and childfree women saying that they are selfish because they planned more prudently regarding their lifestyles. If mothers from large families planned more thoughtfully before they have children, they and their children would be much better off, having greater opportunities and futures.

© 2013 Grace Marguerite Williams

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      happytobetheonly 3 years ago

      gmwilliams,

      I would suggest you not waste valuable column space reproducing the insane nonsense spouted by the people who want to overpopulate the earth. In fact, you should not even read their materials since it is a waste of your time. By paraphrasing their materials and including it in your own column, you are only giving those nutters the publicity they want.

      Honestly, the world is filled with so many social problems, and these guys are worried about their right to reproduce like pigs?!! Don't they have anything constructive to spend their time on? Do they even live in the same world as I do? Because, in MY world, wherever I look, there is overpopulation, scarcity of resources and associated problems, all of which point to the inexorable fact that there are just too many human beings for planet earth to go on supporting. If the world's population doesn't stop growing AND come down significantly, something disastrous is going to happen, sooner THAN later. How selfish are these people, that they care only about putting their reproductive machinery to maximum use, and not about the long-term consequences for the earth or EVEN FOR THE VERY CHILDREN THEY POP OUT AT REGULAR INTERVALS! Do they care at all about providing decent lives for their kids? Such people should be forcibly sterilized.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      I totally agree with you. People who have large families only care about incessant reproduction. They do not care about their children at all. You're correct. I wrote the article to illustrate that point. It is irresponsible and selfish to have a large family, happy. That is why I wrote the article. To illustrate how irresponsible having a large family is. I also agree that birth control and sterlization should be mandatory. That is why large families are poor and that is why parents and children from large families ENVY us people from small families because we have MORE. More in terms of financial opportunities, more disposable income, more educational opportunities, etc. That is why people from large families maintain that we are "spoiled" because we have it SO MUCH BETTER than they do and they HATE it. Thank you happyto betheonly for your response. I wrote this article to show the absurdity of large family life, pathology, and psychology. Parents and children of large families LOVE to criticize others but when others criticize them, THEY DON'T LIKE IT AT ALL. I wrote the article to show how WRONG they are. Hopefully, the large family will completely disappear within a couple of years. The large family is totally pathological beyond belief.

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      Amanda Roddy 2 years ago

      While I don't agree with forced birth control and sterilization, I think it may be necessary in some cases like in child abuse neglect like in the fmaily of 10 you mentioned, etc. Enforcing anything would be too much like China or Africa IMO,which are polar opposites. It takes education. I am not childless , but many of the sentiments of the conservative Christian pro-natalist crowd are bull. The book "What to Expect When No One's Expecting" illustrates my point. It's scary to think of people like the Duggars that are trying hard to limit choices after women fought for decades to control their own destiny . If you want to have a larger fmaily, knock yourself out, but don't slam those who choose differently. I also think these mothers of many have some kind of baby addiction or void they want to fill.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Mothers of large families do have a deep void in their lives which could have been more constructively fulfilled by having hobbies(besides THAT hobby), a fulfilling career, activities, and friends instead of constantly poppin' em out. Intelligent people simply DON'T have large families, they have children that they can give individualized attention to and provide for beyond the rudiments.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      it looks like a fear and anger phobia to me

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