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Why it is important to refrain from becoming a critic and to avoid making criticisms
This write-up also contains valuable quotations about criticisms. We often denounce people with their inadequacies, shortcomings, failures, mistakes and even their odd or ordinary features. Often people resort to making criticisms without knowing the consequences it may inflict to the people in the receiving end. People tend to hurl tirades on other people to make an impression that they are superior and clean. But most often, people who do these just hides their flaws, and instead of the attention is highlighted on them it is shifted to their hapless preys.
Here are some helpful quotations on criticisms with brief explanations.
“As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.” – Hans Selye
This implies that we cannot able to stir changes in a person with criticisms, but this will just often sow bitterness on their hearts.
“I don’t see how I could have done any differently from what I have done.” – William Howard Taft
This refers to the crippling setback suffered by Taft in the presidential election. Taft and his Republican Party was handed the worst ever defeat as it only triumphs in only two states, which are, Utah and Vermont. Earlier Theodore Roosevelt criticized Taft for his conservatism, obtaining the third nomination for himself, forming the Bull Moose Party and eliminating G.O.P.
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean.” – Confucius
This means that if you want others to make changes begin first with yourself.
“I will speak ill of no man and speak all the good I know of everybody.” - Benjamin Franklin
The very person that discovered electricity is also adept when it comes to dealing with other people. Franklin once became an ambassador to France and was well known for being tactful, subtle and skillful when it comes to human relations.
“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
This is one of the favorite quotations of Lincoln.
“A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.” Carlyle
Although it takes a great amount of character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving, Carlyle just whipped up a crisp, meaningful and very humbling quotation especially to the less fortunate and common people.
“Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”
Lincoln uttered these words when his spouse spoke harshly about the people in the southern states (US).
“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.” Dr. Johnson
Making criticisms does not only injure people as it also tends to break hearts and shatters one's dignity. We cannot encourage people to make the necessary changes by criticizing them. Instead of giving expressions of admonition, disapproval or condemnation to other people why not try to have a heart filled with understanding, since nobody is perfect! Instead of pulling down people with hurtful and damaging criticisms, help them pull through with genuine love and affection. This will give you tranquility and at the same aid people to bounce back stronger from their setbacks, errors in life and imperfections.
Reference: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie