Glimpse of an Evolved Self.
The voice in my mind has been screaming "Start somewhere!" so I ended up with the decision to write about it. You've got to start somewhere. If you've been stuck with too many yet confusing thoughts about the career decision you should make, don't worry, you're not the only one.
Also, if discovering people who are going through agonizing life stages similar to yours helps you with loneliness issues, here's mine. I don't have much of a work experience. I'm a 22 year old college drop out with a part-time cashier job in a food store. But don't let that get you, I can write psychological and emotional 'prescriptions' that can be lucrative, if used appropriately.
Worries and Willpower
Drop the worries. They are nothing but a waste of time and energy. Living with worries deducts your willpower which further hinders your growth. Such a lifestyle is similar to working 10 hours without a break or lunch and achieving nothing but an exhausted pissed off boss (in this case, your mind and heart).
Willpower is extremely essential for executing actions or even making decisions for those actions. Your willpower regenerates as you treat yourself with healthy food and enough sleep. Yes I'm aware of the fact that a sufficient amount of both of these elements can be tricky to achieve with hectic schedules. But no excuse is justifiable when health is considered. So, do your best and take care of your needs.
Here's an essential twist, don't just start anywhere. You will be doing yourself a huge favor by scanning your persona and knowing what you really like. Sure, making mistakes and learning from them is a social norm that most free-minded people like. But why make those mistakes when you can avoid them with a better alternative?
This could even mean less pay in the beginning but you will be a lot happier with this alternative. Never forget, keep happiness in your priorities.
Here are a few steps to scan yourself:
- Observe your actions and habits for a while (a few weeks, sometimes a month). Specially those actions that fill your heart with joy. If you haven't already, start doing those things and do them as often as possible.
- As you continue, you will slowly begin to see a pattern. Yes, you have a pattern, like everyone else on this planet. This pattern will help you in figuring out what really makes you happy.
- When you've come up with results, don't get lazy. This is a crucial part of this process where practice comes in. Practicing your 'aha!' discovery is a confirmation stage.
Why is there a confirmation stage? Well life is all about hit and trials but sometimes those hits and trials don't really trigger fruitful results. Mistakes are natural so, a practical confirmation stage helps in sort of assuring that you're actually doing what brings out the best in you.
Don't exhaust yourself with worries like "Oh my goodness I really need to do it else I will suffer more". Bombarding yourself with consistent stressed out opinions about yourself will only result with non-productive results. Avoid such outcomes and ignore this exhausting way of being.
Take your 'time' and give yourself breaks while figuring yourself out. Sure, consistency is great but too much of anything will exhaust you regardless how mentally strong you believe yourself to be. Breaks are essential.
Distractions and Opinions
Make no mistakes, this is not a happy-happy jolly path. It comprises of distractions and little disappointments just like every other path of everyone's life. Be fearless and face them with a courageous heart that you possess.
Take opinions and suggestions from people who you feel actually have the intent to help you as they can be helpful. Tell your friends or people who you usually listen to about your scanning process and give their opinions a calm listen. Be optimistic and do what you really feel will enhance you. Sometimes fresh eyes can tell us where we have been wrong. So, don't avoid your friends and families while finding yourself. They are there for a reason.
It's GO TIME! You've come this far and now you can act. I'll keep this one short and precise. Now all there's left to do is to dive into all your dreams and desires (and sometimes fears) and rise out the other end with an awakened perception of yourself. Life is all about dealing with the pain and getting stronger. So, press start and begin.
May the force be with you. Best wishes!
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© 2015 Rahul Sharma