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  1. lovetherain profile image79
    lovetherainposted 2 years ago

    My daughter won't do her homework or school work. She is failing in three classes. This has been ongoing since fourth grade, and she's in 8th grade now. I take away her priviledges like phone, internet games etc. It helps for a little while but then she's back to getting bad grades again.

    I am thinking of taking her to see if maybe she's depressed. But I don't think so as she seems fine around her friends.

    I don't know what to do. Any ideas?

    1. profile image0
      calculus-geometryposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I knot a lot of parents think this is a terrible way to parent, but bribes often work.  $40 for an A, $20 for a B, $10 for a C, and nothing for a D or F.  Adjust the amounts according to your financial situation. 

      I agree with Kathryn, try to encourage her other interests and talents so she doesn't feel like a total failure. 

      Parenting is a tough job, you're doing good. smile

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years agoin reply to this

        Maybe she is motivated by earning money.
        Why not?  School is rather like going to work! If it motivates kids to do the work they are forced to do, perhaps they should be $$$ compensated.

        1. benalla abdellah profile image61
          benalla abdellahposted 2 years agoin reply to this

          I don't think money will be the best solution

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
            Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years agoin reply to this

            well, I will tell you something.
            My piano teacher as a child was paid by her mother to learn to play, perform and assist her mother, who was a school teacher, on piano. She was very motivated to earn her quarter each time she learned her lesson or performed for her mother for church events and the like.

            Her early training and experience, inspired by earning money, led this woman on a fantastic life's journey as a musician / piano player/performer, and college music professor and beyond in her later years. She lost her husband and had to support herself. Her education enabled her to enhance her education and enabled her to work as teacher for children with special needs. She discovered how much music could help them. And she helped them.

            As we all know learning, to play piano is very tedious at first.
            Anything which is counter to one's own intrinsic interest is tedious.
            But to inspire a child to become motivated, a bit of a $ prompt might be just the ticket.

    2. imts profile image60
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    3. benalla abdellah profile image61
      benalla abdellahposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You have to let her with her freedom but in way you have to give her choices and let her take her own path ..
      I have been like her till the high school but i remember my mom made a choice for me weither to give up the school or to continue but with good results, i remember what she told me was like an opn door to my new personality, as now i work as a teacher in an institute and i have been doing so for 9 years. I think your girl has to take her decision.
      I think you have to motivate her with good willing

  2. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    It seems she has lost the will to please her teachers, you, her parent and most importantly herself. I would talk to her and find out why she is not enjoying school. Does she need tutoring to increase her writing skills? Does she need math tutoring? Often when kids get behind, they give up. If she can write and do her math but is simply not enthused, I would engage her in life beyond school.

    Focus on what you know to be her innate interests and try to encourage new interests.

    Does she like art, designing and creating? Perhaps school is too structured and she needs more freedom for right brained, artistic expression such as fashion design, still-life painting or photography, etc. You could sign her up for art lessons often held at community centers and YMCA's.
    Have lots of art materials and How To books on hand in your home. Today there are You Tube videos which teach kids how to draw. If she likes to design, computer graphic design programs might be simulating.

    Does she like a particular sport such as dance or swimming? Is she interested in playing music or singing? Lessons in anything she is interested in would spark her up and generate enthusiasm, perhaps.

    Joy of life comes from active interest and enjoyment of life. She needs more life in her life!

  3. moonlake profile image88
    moonlakeposted 2 years ago

    I would get a tutor for her as fast as you can. She may need help. If money works for her I would do it. You want to stop this problem now or she won't graduate because each year it gets worse. Good luck with her I hope all works out you.


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