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Listening is the greatest gift you can give to other person and yourself

Updated on March 8, 2011

Listening is the greatest gift you can give to other person and yourself

When you listen, there is some kind of flow which comes from within, you understand people more, you put yourselves into their shoes and you can lay down solutions when you digest what the other person is saying.

Sometimes, we are too concentrated on what our thoughts about ourselves, and our mind starts to drift of, we tend to divert our attention to other matters and we cant concentrate and understand what the other person is trying to say. Things are always better when we understand other people.

Listening is an art and everybody is capable of doing it. It is the greatest thing we can do to our loved ones, acquaintances, children and to other people we meet everyday and everywhere. Things will be easier if everybody listens to their inner self and to others.

Listening experience

I was at the store the other day when a man is telling me something which I couldn’t understand at first, just to be polite, I just smiled and then he was talking again but I was so busy looking at the magazine in the paying counter I just smiled again for the second time. I learned a long time ago that if you don’t want to listen to somebody when they are talking or when they are saying something just smile, I use that often, that smile of me which melt the heart and probably he was thinking, ah she understand what I am saying, but this time it is different, the man is telling me that I dropped a card from my small wallet. I immediately picked it up and said thank you to the man. How many times did we avoid people talking to us and just to be polite you just smile? And how many times, when we talk to other people, your partner, child, parents, sister, relatives, do you get to listen intently to them, or your mind is just set somewhere else. Then my memory flashback to what my grandmother always tells me, Apo, (my granddaughter), listen to people, don’t talk so much, listening is better, so that you can understand things more. All things become clearer when you listen. You will widen your horizon and you open your minds and after listening and understanding others, your heart will open and you will have compassion for others, she told me that. My grandmother worked as a teacher all her life until the age of 70 and then she died at the age of 94. I remember her as a person who tries to listen to everybody, and most specially to me when I tell her stories of my life, and the failures and successes I had so far. She cant listen to me anymore, but I know she is always there to guide me. I can feel it many times in my life.


Listen………

To what the older people has to say, so that you can get a lot of lessons from their experiences, most of the times people who are grown up and older has a lot more to share and it is good if you listen to what they have to say

Listen to what your children would like to say to you. Talk to them and hear what they would like to share, what are their opinions, dreams and things that makes them happy and upset.

Listen to what your partner is saying, (both men and women). Take the time to ask and hear what the other is up to, their views and inner fears also. When you listen to your partner even though how bored you are at the time specially of the endless complaints, you may not need to listen to the same remarks again and again. The trick is if she told you before and you listened already, then she doesn’t need to repeat herself again and again. And if you listen to your sweetheart, she will also listen to you. You will understand her more and then you will support what he/she is up to. Things are a lot clearer if you hear what they are saying.

Listen to other people. When you talk to other people wherever you are, it is good if you can spare your time to listen, when you are in a party, outside the house, in a meeting or just walking, when somebody talks to you, concentrate on what they are saying and you can immediately understand them, then you can respond properly.

And most of all, listen to yourself, listen to what really matters to you, analyze what is going on in yourself, your inner self, and do what you think is right for you, not the old habits you have (kick the cig out), your past mistakes. Listen to what your heart is telling you to do and you will become a new person with positive outlook in life because you listened to what lies deep within your inner self. It is you who know yourself so well, and your weaknesses. You always want to become the better you.

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      tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

      What did you say Maita ? LOL . The art of listening seems so lost .When I think of listening for me that means hearing wuth the other person is saying and not thinking about what I am going to say while they are talking ! Good hub my friend !

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      Dao Hoa 7 years ago

      Very good advice. I like to listen too. You learn a lot more than talking because when you talk the other person must listen to you. So there is nothing to learn. Your grandmother was a wise lady. Thanks.

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      James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

      Outstanding advice for life here. You are so right. That's why God gave us 2 ears but 1 mouth—we should truly listen twice as much as we talk.

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      dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

      Great advice, Pretty! Listening is perhaps the single-most important thing that we can do! Thanks again :D

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      poetlorraine 7 years ago

      GREAT ADVICE, sometimes we are only half listening, and then we miss out on so much

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      aware 7 years ago from West Palm Beach Florida.

      great hub .and advice

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      hi Tony, hmmm, see you didnt listen LOL, yes you always want to understand and concentrate when the other one is talking, sometimes we are so concentrated in what we are thinking we forget the other person! thanks for reading this one,

      you have a good day! Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      hi Dao Hoa, thanks for dropping by and reading this one, yeas I am lucky because my grandmother shared those words to me, listening is really a gift you can give to others!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      to James A Watkins: Yes, youre right, we need to listen to others, thats what ears are made for, thanks for dropping by and you have a good always!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      To poetlorraine, hi, how are you! thanks for reading this one and i see your back in the forum now! Always, Maita

      Hi Ray< how are you also today, hope your doing fine, and thanks for dropping by! Maita

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      The Rope 7 years ago from SE US

      This advice never goes out of style and is always timely. Congrats on laying it out so well. Listening is the greatest gift we can give each other and is the catalyst for all that is good in life.

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      hi Rope, yes it is the greatest gift you can give to other people, listening to what they have to say, things always get better when we learn how to listen, thanks for dropping by and have a good day,

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      Duchess OBlunt 7 years ago

      Great hub prettydarkhorse. Listening is a very inexpensive way to tell others you care!

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      itcoll 7 years ago

      hey prettydarkhorse.wow...i really liked this hub.i myself do not like when people do not listen to me even though i care for them :)

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      thanks itcoli for the read, i think you are a nice soul, because you care and yet,,,,have a good day, Maita

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      Madison 7 years ago from NYC

      Very nice hub, my experience has also been that older people have much wisdom. I agree we need to listen to our inner self. I enjoyed reading this hub prettydarkhorse!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      hey madison, thnaks for dropping by, I know you will choose this hub to read as youre nice, I read your profile and your hubs too, Maita

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      Laurel Rogers 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      Hi Maita!

      I was just cruising around, reading some of my favorite hubber's works and found this. Your grandmother was very wise!

      Thanks for being one of the best!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      thank you lorlie, Take care, Maita

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      Tony McGregor 6 years ago from South Africa

      Carl Rogers once said that really listening to another person is the most profound thing one can do for them. Listening is a very important thing to do. Listening for understanding, listen for what is not being said, what is the feeling behind what is being said.

      Love and peace

      Tony

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      prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

      You're definitely right Tony, Have a great weekend, Maita

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      epigramman 6 years ago

      I listen and learn everytime when exploring your fabulous hubs!

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      prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

      thanks epigramman, Maita

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      Audrey Hunt 6 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Excellent hub which we all can learn something from. I especially agree with "most of all, listen to yourself".

      Magnificent! A new fan...

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      Tonette Fornillos 5 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thank you prettydarkhorse. This reminds us the importance of listening. I like your attitude of believing that every person has a good heart and that we all have potential to care for each other.

      Listening is one! Lovely hub very informative. Glad to know someone who too loves to make a good difference. Keep up and take care!

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      prettydarkhorse 5 years ago from US

      Thanks a lot Tonipet!

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