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What Men Want in Life

Updated on June 28, 2013

What men should really want?

Jesus was a man

Mohammad was a man.

The Buddha was a man

Lord Krishna was a man.

What Great Men wanted?

Jesus wanted us to love our enemy.

Mohammad wanted us to submit to the Allah.

The Buddha wanted us to break the chain of birth and rebirth.

Lord Krishna wanted us to perform good Karma.

Greek Philosopher Heraclitus (c. 540-480 BC) compared man to beast, drunkards, deep sleepers and children. He said, “Their opinions are like toys because they do not grasp the truth.” According to Heraclitus, man’s character is his fate.

Since the time immemorial, man has contemplated about man. When I say man, I specifically mean man.

What men want – well known men speak!

Greek philosopher Plato (427-347 BC) said, “Thank God, I was not born a slave, or a woman.”

Viktor E. Frankl (1905-1997), Austrian Professor of Neurology and Psychiatry and the author of Man’s Search For Meaning, said, “Man must have meaning in his life.”

George Bush said, “I want to smoke Taliban out of their hiding holes.”

Baburam Bhattarai, current Prime Minister of Nepal, said, “I want to establish Communism in Nepal.”

Gynanendra Shah, the last king of Nepal, said, “All I wanted was to relegate the inefficient democratic parties and end communist terrorism in Nepal.”

Francois Hollande, recently elected French President, wants to give his girlfriend the status of First Lady without marrying her.


The men who took part in the survey live in:

Nepal, India, Pakistan, United Kingdom, United States, Philippines, Thailand, Maldives

The survey was conducted by using social media, phone calls, email, and direct interview.

What men want – A survey!

To find out the answers to the question what men want, I carried a survey and asked men what they want?

The age of the men who participated in the survey ranged from 18 to 86 years, they came from different cultures and country, they were highly educated, and also with no formal education. Some of the participants were professors, and some were just High School students.

Two hundred men participated in the survey. Below are some of the answers from the survey titled “What men want?”

They answered the question: what do you want (in life)?



I’m heavily indebted to:

Safa Fathmath, in Maldives, for her help in the survey

Jeebesh Rayamajhi, in Kathmandu, for providing relevant photographs

Smilio Aguinaldo, in Manila, Philippines, for being one of the surveyors

Ananda Chao in Bangkok, Thailand, for being a great help

And all the men who responded to the question

What I want

As a man I often ponder into a question what I want. Answers that occur to me can be subtle such as make a difference in the world, or mundane such as I want the article – I recently submitted to a newspaper – to get published.

Sometimes I clearly see what I want, and sometimes I cannot figure out what truly matters in my life. I write, I love doing photography. But what I really want?

When I did a keyword research, I found “what men want” has a low competition. What men want is little vague question, perhaps, what men want in women/girlfriend/wife/bed/relationship and such more could be appropriate question to ask, because men seem to be wanting lots of things.

Men on the trot in Bangkok
Men on the trot in Bangkok | Source
Men and women from different walks of life wondering about Thai architecture.
Men and women from different walks of life wondering about Thai architecture. | Source
What does a Buddhist monk want other than peace and compassion.
What does a Buddhist monk want other than peace and compassion. | Source

Sanjay Ghimire (25)

Restaurant owner; from Kathmandu, Nepal

I want to do well with my business.

Jeebesh Rayamajhi (35)

Editor, Yes Magazine; from Kathmandu, Nepal

I want to remain busy. When I'm busy my mind does not worry about pain, suffering and fulfillment.

Dwaipayan Regmi

Student; from Patan, Nepal

I want happiness, and satisfaction.

Bikram Tandan (20)

Student; from Gulmi, Nepal

I want to become a lawyer because in my society lawyers are respected.

Maila Chaudhari (22)

Migrant laborer in Malaysia, no formal education; from Dang, Nepal

I want to earn money so that I can have my own house and a patch of farmland.

Hunbbel Meer

Writer; from Karachi, Pakistan

Peace and love in world. The harmony around us. Value of human beings. A happy family and compassion.

Rajan Singh Jolly,

Writer; from Jalandhar, India

To have the resources to be able to alleviate suffering of fellow human beings. To have peace in the world. To be of use to those in need.

Erwin Thomas

Retired Professor of Mass Communications and Journalism (Norfolk State University in Virginia); from Virginia Beach, Virginia.

Insight, understanding and material independence are my choices.

Mohan Lal Adhikari, (86)

Retired Lawyer, from Dang, Nepal

I have performed all my duties, now I want to die peacefully.

Balu Thapa

Lecturer, Tribhuvan University; from Tansen, Nepal

I guess I want to be capable of expressing myself in a creative way, particularly in fiction.

Steve Mitchell

Writer/Blogger/Store Manager; from Leeds, UK

I want to become financially independent and be able to help others as a result of this. In other words I want freedom. Freedom of choice whether I have to work or not have to work.

Wahaab Gasim (44)

A shop owner, from Maldives

I want to succeed in life.

Haisham Firaaq (22)

Student, Maldives University, from Maldives

I want to achieve my goals. (Become an electrician and get married to my sweetheart).

Naazir Ali (39)

Fisherman, no formal education; from Maldives

I want my children (one girl and three boys studying in Island school) to have a good education.

Prakash Subedi

Lecturer, Tribhuvan University, from Chitwan, Nepal

I would want to explore my ultimate potential, and help others in doing that.

JS Matthew

Freelance Writer; from Massachusetts, USA

I want in life: peace, happiness, love, respect and friendship. I want to live long and learn along the way.

Mariano Zamora (18)

Flower seller; from Quezon City, Philippines

I want to go to the United States and study, work, and earn money.

Damrong Rajanubhab (19)

Waiter; from Bangkok, Thailand

I want to open a restaurant near Future Park.

A Nepali farmer
A Nepali farmer | Source


In the survey, the men were not given an opportunity to choose an answer from multiple options. Actually they had freedom to express whatever they wanted. Most of the answers were related to career goals, success, love, happiness, material gains etc. In order to create statistics, the responses were broken into different categories, such as success, love, freedom, peace etc. Men also said they want happiness, success and satisfaction at the same time. So, different categories were created to reflect the mind of the men, who wanted different things at the same time.

Out of 200, 29 men (14.5%) wanted material gains, and 5 men (2.5%) wanted to devote their time in philanthropy. These two are the highest and lowest points in the statistics. Success, satisfaction and happiness mattered in most of the men’s life. That’s why 21 men (10.5%) wanted to succeed in life and for 23 men (11.5%) satisfaction mattered more than anything else. Men also wanted to be happy, out of 200 men, 17 (8.5%) said they want happiness. Success, satisfaction and happiness all mattered for 13.5% (27) of the men.

Young men cared about career goals, 10.5% (21) of men gave preference for developing career, 4% (8) wanted freedom, and 9% (18) wanted peace. Men did not give much preference for love, only 6.5% (13) said they care for love. Interestingly, 9% men (18) wanted love and peace at the same time. Maybe that was because when in relationship, conflicts tend to arise very easily, so the men wanted love and remain at peace.


What men want?

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Conclusion: What men really want?

It has always been said men want power, money and women. However, not a single man who participated in the survey directly said that, even though they were dating two girls at the same time, or were obsessed with money making. I have found, the men who strive for power did not admit they want to exercise power.

Actually there is no conclusion, and there can be no conclusion. We cannot generalize what a man wants. It differs according to the culture he belongs to, the country he lives in, his experience, and level of intelligence and education.

After reading the responses, you might be wondering, what the surveyor really wants. You can read my response here.

Indian men singing devotional songs
Indian men singing devotional songs | Source

Do you agree with the answer in this legend?

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What women want?

There is this beautiful legend regarding what women want.

Long-long ago there live a king called Arthur. One day he was captured by a neighboring king. The captor offered life and freedom to Arthur if he answered what women want. Arthur returned to his kingdom and asked the question to everyone he came across; however, the responses did not satiate Arthur. Finally he went to an old witch. She agreed to answer but asked Arthur, as the payment of her answer, to help her get married to his closest friend and knight Lancelot.

The witch was hideous, so Arthur dropped her proposal. However, when Lancelot knew about this he agreed to marry her.

On the night of wedding, the witch asked Lancelot a question: Do you want me to be beautiful in the day and hideous in the night, or hideous in the day and beautiful in the night?

Lancelot said he will let her decide for herself. Lancelot did not know he had an answer for Arthur’s question.

Upon hearing Lancelot, the witch said, she will always remain beautiful.

What a woman wants is to be in charge of her own life.

Dancing men: Pakistani artists performing Dhamal dance
Dancing men: Pakistani artists performing Dhamal dance | Source


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    • Vinaya Ghimire profile imageAUTHOR

      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Thelma,

      thanks for appreciating my work.


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      Thelma Alberts 

      8 years ago from Germany and Philippines

      What an awesome survey! Brilliant! Thanks for writing this insightful hub.

    • Vinaya Ghimire profile imageAUTHOR

      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Millionaire Tips,

      Thanks for your wonderful interpretation. I appreciate your comment. We can never summarize what men, or women for that matter, want.


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      Shasta Matova 

      8 years ago from USA

      This is an interesting survey. Your interpretation of peace and love is interesting. I think people would choose both because they go well together, not because love is not peaceful. It is good that men, like women, want a lot of different things, and can choose for themselves what they want to pursue. Voted up.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Marlene, thanks for pointing out what men exactly want. I appreciate your comment.

      @Diane Woodson, I appreciate your interpretation. Thanks for reading and commenting.


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      Diane Minton 

      8 years ago from Evansville, Indiana

      Contrary to what women may think out there, men want a women who will love them no matter what the things are that life throws at us. They want a women who will take care of the home when they aren't there. Most of all trust, Sex is not the most important thing men want after 40. I am sure of all these things.

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      8 years ago

      Great hub Vinaya! For men, success, satisfaction and happiness go hand in hand. It makes sense. I can see why it is ranked highest on the graph.

      "Francois Hollande, recently elected French President, wants to give his girlfriend the status of First Lady without marrying her."

      I think this is pretty funny! Revisiting, voted up and sharing.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Sueswan,

      I'm also against hasty generalizations. Thanks for reading and commenting.


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      8 years ago

      Hi Vinaya,

      Hi Vinaya,

      "Success, satisfaction and happiness mattered in most of the men’s life."

      We should not generalize as what constitutes success, satisfaction and happiness is not the same for everyone.

      Voted up and awesome

      Take care

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Nicole, thanks for stopping by.


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      Nicole S Hanson 

      8 years ago from Minnesota

      Interesting hub!

    • Vinaya Ghimire profile imageAUTHOR

      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Melovy, our opinions are based on culture, country, race, religion, education among many other things, so there cannot be a conclusion regarding what men want. Thanks for reading and commenting.

      @Audrey, thanks for sincerely following my hubs.

      @Martie, thanks for highly regarding my opinion. I'm glad that we share same opinion. Thanks for your comment.

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      Martie Coetser 

      8 years ago from South Africa

      What an interesting research! I can but only agree with you, Vinaya - "....Actually there is no conclusion, and there can be no conclusion. We cannot generalize what a man wants. It differs according to the culture he belongs to, the country he lives in, his experience, and level of intelligence and education...."

      Voted up, well-researched and excellent!

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      Audrey Howitt 

      8 years ago from California

      Such an interesting hub!

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      Yvonne Spence 

      8 years ago from UK

      Very interesting hub Vinaya. I think it's interesting that there can be no conclusion and I'm sure you are right that culture plays a huge part in it. I think Kelley is also right that we all want to be content, though sometimes our surface wants obscure the deeper wants.

      What a lot of work you put into this!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal



      Thank you my dear fellow writers and friends for sharing your thoughts and appreciating my work.

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      Audrey Hunt 

      8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Thank you for putting so much time and research into this informative hub. I found this subject to be most interesting and enjoyed it. Voted up, across and will share.

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      Terrye Toombs 

      8 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Very interesting, Vinaya. Great information. Voted up and sharing.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi DDE, thanks for your sincere follow.


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      Devika Primić 

      8 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great Hub as usual voted up!!!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Ebower, thanks for reading and commenting.

      @MelChi, thanks for words of encouragement. Thank you very much.


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      Melanie Chisnall 

      8 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      Very thought provoking and well written Vinaya! I really enjoy reading your hubs because of the research and originality you put into them. This one is a clear indication of your ability to research, write and captivate your audience. Voted up, useful, interesting and awesome :)

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      Erin Bower 

      8 years ago from Georgia

      This is very thorough and a great idea to write about. I voted this up and interesting!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Jasmin, thanks for stopping by.

      @Happyboomernurse, thanks for reading and complimenting my works.


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      Gail Sobotkin 

      8 years ago from South Carolina

      Hi Vinaya,

      This is another fascinating hub that shows much time, effort and research went into the writing and planning of it.

      Loved the photos and graphics and the fact that you surveyed men of different ages and cultures.

      Voted up across the board except for funny.

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      8 years ago

      Vinaya, recently I read your article in The Rising Nepal based on this survey.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi acaetnna, thanks for the wow and brilliant!


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      8 years ago from Guildford

      Wow - brilliant!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Lovedoc, thanks for your revisit.


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      8 years ago

      I came back to revisit. Good hub. Voted up and sharing.

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      8 years ago

      Vin, thanks for helping me understanding my man better.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hello Sannel, thanks for always being around and cheering me with your generous comments.

      I'm blessed with a friend like you.


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      8 years ago

      Vinaya, as always you walk away with work of sheer perfection! You are one of the best writers here on HP when it comes to informative articles. Your writing style, are above the rest. You put so much love and work into each hub. It's very impressive and I admire you for that beautiful trait. Well done! Hugs to you from Sannel.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Cathleena, men are not bad as generally considered. LOL.

      Thanks for reading and leaving a nice comment.


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      Cathleena Beams 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      The results surprised me. I must confess that I expected a good portion to say "power, money, and women" and not necessarily in that order. The answers given were very honorable ones. It is good to know that most men have good hearts and intentions.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Audrey, thanks for reading and leaving valuable feedback.


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      Audrey Howitt 

      8 years ago from California

      Very interesting hub Vinaya! I agree with Sholland--that is some not so small part, we all want to feel useful!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Sholland,

      I appreciate your interpretation regarding what drives men. I have also noticed that many men want to be useful.

      Thanks for your comment.

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      Susan Holland 

      8 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      Very informative. I notice that each man needed to feel useful, whether it was physical, mental, spiritual or all. I do believe men are driven by trying to make a difference in their world. Great hub! I really enjoyed it. :-)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @AEvans, actually doing this survey was a real fun, and I'm enjoying comments. Thanks for standing by my side.

      @yssubramanyam, thanks for reading and leaving nice comment.


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      8 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      men and women must share the family with understanding and adjustment for the future and prosperity of children. their is no point in claiming equal rights. the author and the comments are very informative and enhance the level of understanding.

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      8 years ago

      What an informative and well- written hub Vinaya! You put so much work into this article, this is so impressive. 200 men had to be a jaunt and to ask them such intense questions and to able to get honest responses, is gratifying to us women. The retired attorney's job is not over, but for him its time to relax. Thumbs up! :)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @barbergirl, men are indecisive and women want control of theri own life...what a wonderful observation.

      @Safa, thanks for your continuous support.

      @molmeter, Naazir's point of view is wonderful. This man puts his family above all. Thanks for your comment. Cheers

      @onlooker, thanks for your continuous support. Regards

      @Rajan, thanks for your comment, It was my pleasure to have you in this survey. Regards

      @neeleshkulkarni, wow, that is interesting.

      @yssubramanyam, thanks for your comment.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      Dear Erwin K Thomas, Sir,

      I agree with what ever you say about my sampling and methodology.

      Maybe that is because I did not have much resources to conduct the survey. I had given freedom to the responders to say whatever they wanted in their life. My intention was to present what people, from different walks of life, expect.

      I'm honored to have your opinion in this survey. Thanks for your in-depth comment.


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      8 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      well said, and good encouragement to followers.

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      8 years ago from new delhi

      one survey of three million men found out that men only want to know what women want.

      and women want to know if men found out!!!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      8 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

      Vinaya, such an interesting an eye opening hub! And the responses to your question are interesting. It looks everyone of us wants contentment in life but each one of us has different ways to reach that common goal.

      Interesting to see women want to be in charge of their own life.

      Brilliant idea and a good job done.

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      8 years ago

      Interesting hub, men-power-money somehow co-relates to me. Awesome conclusion too Vinaya. Well done!

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      Erwin K Thomas 

      8 years ago

      Insightful, but lacks random sampling and any clear methodology! One fact is that your piece fails to take into consideration is that it was conducted at a particular point of time in your subjects' lives. They might hold different views in a couple of weeks to come. Moreover, some of the responses were general and are subject to various interpretations. Money, power, and women, etc., may mean different things to different people. These expressions although they have literal meanings are often used figuratively. Everyone will bring to your analysis his own selective perception. It might have been better to narrow the scope of your investigation. You however did an excellent stab at one of life's most difficult psychological, ethical, philosophical, and religious questions.

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      8 years ago from United Kingdom

      What a fascinating hub Vinaya,

      You have put a lot of work and effort into this great piece of research.

      I agree with Naazir Ali (39) 'Fisherman, no formal education; from Maldives

      I want my children (one girl and three boys studying in Island school) to have a good education.'

      That is a great man in my opinion.

      Very interesting and some surprising results. Only 4% wanted freedom. I suppose most men feel that they are free. Which is a nice thought.

      Voted up 3/5 buttons and of course sharing this great hub.

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      Safa bird 

      8 years ago

      An excellent write up...Very interesting survey as well...Well done Vinaya..

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      Stacy Harris 

      8 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Interesting hub... I particularly loved the part at the end. So I guess it means mean are indecisive and women want control of their own life! ;)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @tillsontitan, maybe you are right success is what men, and also women, seek. Thanks for your comment.

      @marcoujor, though this many not be a comprehensive study, I think it will give some basic about what men want. Thanks for your comment. Cheers

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      Maria Jordan 

      8 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Vinaya,

      As women can be saddled with telling men what they want (just to keep life rolling along), it is so refreshing to actually read what some men actually want. The statistics on 'power' and 'love' were no surprise.

      This was a fascinating and informative study as a woman who continuously tries to understand. UP & UABI. Brava!

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      Mary Craig 

      8 years ago from New York

      Not only a good idea for a hub but a huge undertaking! I have to agree that it is one of your best. I found Wahaab Gasim (44),A shop owner, from Maldives, sums it up best when he says; "I want to succeed in life." It seems that is what every man and every woman wants. The

      end result is always the same, it just differs in how they perceive it and what road they take to get there.

      Voted this up, useful and intersting.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @John Sarkis, thanks for leaving a wonderful comment. Cheers

      @Jackie, I enjoyed surveying men and now I'm enjoying reading the comments. Cheers

      @yssubramanyam, I appreciate your point of view. Thank you very much.

      @love doc, you are right about Hunbbel and Rajan, thanks for your compliments.

      @blaise, maybe men have other things in their mind other than women. LOL

      @Angel, I remember the saying about women backing the successful men. Thanks for your comment.

      @Shakti, you do me a wonderful favor. Cheers

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      Shakti Thapa 

      8 years ago

      Great hub. It took me almost half an hour to complete reading this hub.

      Thank you for doing great job.

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      8 years ago

      No two individuals are alike , so true with men , no two of them are alike , in values , perceptions , outlook , culture ,desires really differ from each other.

      But i have one observation , that for every man's success is a woman behind it..and this is proven many times even in the movie Troy..for every powerful kingdom is a woman behind it.

      This is a unique hub , your never stop amazes your reader , we are always serve with new menu in your hub...job well done ! Regards.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Timely, thanks for reading, commenting and following.

      @Frank. I'm not sure but maybe you are true what men want in women. Thanks for your comment.

      @Anupama, what men want, or what women want for that matter, can be subtle or mundane. Thanks for your comment.

      @Laura Sims, thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

      @sofs, maybe men find hard to admit they want power. Maybe you are true about what women want, but I don't know because I'm not a woman. LOL

      @Radha, I always love how when interpret things, and share your experience, wisdom, and knowledge. Thanks for giving me an idea.

      @Christy, maybe you are right about how men form answers based on what is expected of them.

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      Fehl Dungo 

      8 years ago from close to you...

      Great survey. Wonder why majority of men don't prioritize women anymore. LOL

      Everyone has different wants and goals. Cheers!

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      8 years ago

      The interviews that you did were very good overall. There were two that stood out for me: Hunbbel Meer and Rajan Singh Jolly. They both value peace,love and harmony in the world in a very humane way. Great hub!

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      8 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      the work done is incredible. what you want will never become. who is successful in life will claim it as his effort, failure is left to fate.

      man wants wife must be sincere, he prefers change of partner mostly. except moral and ethical characters.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      8 years ago from the beautiful south

      You did a fantastic job here, really a tasking hub I would say, but I know you did it with joy and brought us answers not so surprising in the scheme of things. You might be right about women, I am not sure. lol

      Voted up!

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      John Sarkis 

      8 years ago from Winter Haven, FL

      Hi Vinaya, what a thorough hub this is. Boy, you really did your homework as evident from this outstanding hub.

      Voted up and away


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      Christy Birmingham 

      8 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Interesting that while men may want power they will not openly admit this! Perhaps they form their answers based on what is expected of them. I like the survey idea and how you show the results in a table.

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      8 years ago

      It is a good question to ask and then ask real men to see if they are just in it for the money or do they want other non-tangible things. I think women are often into the more non-tangible things. Also we want basic things like food, clothing, shelter, career. We like self-empowerment. At least some of us. Love is something which can be hard to define like peace, freedom, etc. May do a survey of women to see what happens.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @mckbirdbks, "we won't know what we want until some woman tells us." what a wonderful way to tell what we men want. Thanks for your comment.

      @truefaith, thanks for your compliments.

      @jellygator, thanks for stopping by and taking time to comment.

      @always exploring, yes Mike is very clever to note that. I agree with your comment.

      @Hunbbel, it was my great pleasure to have you in my survey.

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      8 years ago

      Interesting! Power, money, and all things not so nice... LOL ;) No wonder men are from Mars:)

      What women want - is love, I can tell you that :) To be loved and to love :) Have a great day! -

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      8 years ago

      great survey I like how you got the natural responses.

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      Dr Anupma Srivastava 

      8 years ago from India

      Awesome hub! I think each and every word of the hub is true for men. And the last line is really really really true, it is what I want in fact each and every girl want.

      I love your last line. Thanks for concluding like this.

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @StrategyCoaching, spelling and grammar errors you see in the responses of men are not mine, I did not correct the answers. However, others are mine. Do forgive me. JS Matthew has always been my wonderful supporter on HubPages. You can find the legend of witch and Lancelot on the internet. But I did not know about Gwenyver. You are free to interpret what women wants, that's why I have included a poll. Thanks for your comment.

      @Jamie, I'm glad that you enjoyed this hub, in fact I also enjoyed doing this survey.

      @Sunshine, health is also important, but maybe to make the survey conclusive I need to survey more men. thank you very much.

      @Mhatter, thanks.

      @JS Matthew, thanks for answering the question, your answer regarding long life is really interesting. You have always been a great help. Thanks to Hubpages for giving me an opportunity to connect with a wonderful writer like you.

      @Nell, though the men wanted lots of things, it was easy for me to categorize the answers to certain topics. Thanks for your interpretation.

      @libby, I was also surprised that men did not mention women, power or money. Thanks for your comment.

      @Bedbug, yes the question was little vague, but I'm amazed with the responses. Thanks for your comment.

      @stephick, thanks to Sunshine for sharing this hub on facebook. And thanks to you for reading and commenting.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      8 years ago from Shelton

      What a good share.. and a clever Idea for a hub this is in my opinion your best hub yet...altough many were good this one stands out.. it's funny What men want... in relations.. Women seek alot in one man.. while men see one thing from many women.. that never changes..LOL keep up the good work my friend

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      8 years ago from United States

      Your picture for this hub is what got my attention. Interesting reading. Will check out more of your work.

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      8 years ago from United States

      Your picture for this hub is what got my attention. Interesting reading. Will check out more of your work.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      8 years ago from Nepal

      @Victoria, thanks for being the first commentator. I also find interesting that the power seekers do not admit they want power. Maybe that is because they wanted to remain satisfied after achieving power.

      @Kelly, yes men on HubPages were a great help. I agree with you, whatever men may want, after all they want to remain content.

      @Ruchira, many men gave more importance to materialism. United Nations Human Development Report also states that material gain is a trigger of happiness.

      @KD, what you want also reflects how you were raised and where you are living. Thanks for sharing what you want.

      @Cardisa, I appreciate your interpretation. Thank you for your comment.

      @Kate, that's what I had in mind when I included the legend as the ending. Thanks for reading.

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      Syed Hunbbel Meer 

      8 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan.

      I personally believe that men is often misunderstood. Women are, indeed, the God's beautiful creation, but men are mostly underrated.

      My personal observations show that a good majority of men (I mean 'real' men) live for his family. He always work, strive hard and make efforts only for the happiness and secured feature of his wife, children and family. That's the beauty of him. And see, how fee demanded power, wealth, women for themselves only.

      Beautiful hub, Vinaya. I am glad that I contributed in it. Thumbs up!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      8 years ago from Southern Illinois

      HaHa, I like Mck's comment. This is a great hub. Most people, men and women want happiness above all in all cultures. It was interesting to note that people are so much alike all over the world..Thank you Vinaya..

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      8 years ago from USA

      What an interesting approach to answering what men want. Enjoyed reading. Voted well and Dugg it too.

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      8 years ago from USA

      Amazing study Vinaya. I think the results of your study are very accurate about what most men around the world want, and it all seems to be the same things: Personal happiness, success, and independence. These are all things we want from the time we are in school and all through our adult years.

      Well done, and voted up and across!

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      8 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Vinaya very interesting study. Predictably inconclusive. That is nothing to do with your sampling method. After all we are just men; we won't know what we want until some woman tells us.

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      Stephanie Marshall 

      8 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Wonderful, informative and interesting hub! Glad it was posted on FB. Sharing and have voted in your polls. Super work! Best, Steph

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      Melody Collins 

      8 years ago from United States

      Very impressive hub. I love how you asked an open ended question in this survey. Now I know a little more about men than I used to.

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      8 years ago from KY

      Awesome statistic hub. I enjoyed reading this greatly. And it's shocking to me that no many mentioned wanting women or another woman...or several women... wow! It seems these men probably know with power the women will automatically come... just teasing. However, there may be a hint of truth to it. Thanks again for the good read.

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      Nell Rose 

      8 years ago from England

      This was fascinating. I loved the way you managed to get so many different men and in different circumstances. it seems that wherever we live or brought up, there really isn't a lot of difference between what men want. really enjoyed reading, nell

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      JS Matthew 

      8 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Vinaya you are a genius! Everything you write gets better and better...and Better! I remember you when you first signed up under a different username and you only had a few poems (good ones!) Thanks for including my response in your survey. This is so well researched, constructed and executed! You are a Master of your Niche! Never stop!




      Thanks for the shout-out StrategyCoaching!


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      Martin Kloess 

      8 years ago from San Francisco


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      Linda Bilyeu 

      8 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Kudos to you Vinaya for getting men to open up and express emotions and beliefs. Outstanding hub. I would think that men would want good health over anything else since without good health everything else is insignificant. Well done!

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      Jamie Brock 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Great job Vinaya.. I really enjoyed this hub and reading all the answers from the different men of different ages and such. Your hubs are very unique!

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      Strategy Coaching 

      8 years ago from Lake Stevens, WA

      Haha, I love the hub. It's very creative, and although there's some spelling and grammatical errors, it's well thought out and put together.

      I especially love that our own JS Matthew was your US participant, lol.

      I think I need to add a correction though - it's not that we woman necessarily want to be in control of our own lives (that's nice and all), it's that we want to have a partner who is comfortable with the REAL us, who thinks we are attractive no matter what and who will be with us because they want to be with US, and not because they feel obligated to be with us for any reason - that's what women want. =)

      Also, where in the world did you get that Legend? I was under the impression that Lancelot married Gwenyver, not a hideous witch that Arthur met on a quest..... maybe I missed that tale, lol

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      8 years ago from Storrs, CT

      The basic English class I took in college was about medieval literature, and that story was among the ones we read, and remains one of my favorite stories. It's interesting that you included it, because I think it can also be used to summarize your findings with men. They want to control the direction of their lives as well, whether that is to earn money/power/prestige or otherwise gain fulfillment or make an impact in their communities.

      Very well written, thank you :)

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      Carolee Samuda 

      8 years ago from Jamaica

      To sum it all up men want the security to be able to take care of their family. I think that's what they have in mind when they want to open a restaurant or succeed in career or business. Men feel "less than" when they are not able to do that.

      Wonderful survey Vinaya, very good work.

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      8 years ago

      This is definitely something to use for scholarly researches. Well done, My friend! As you have shown in your studies, all different men have different goals. Some may be cultural, ingrown, attraction, etc. It all really depends on the man. For me, in example, I want to be successful and provide for a future family because that is what I was cultured into. All different walks of life have different mentalities :)

      Well done, Vinaya!


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      8 years ago from United States

      great hub, Vinaya.

      I liked how you statistically plotted them and sure, I agree a man is regarded successful by materialism and I see a tie in materialism and success, satisfaction and happiness (14%)

      I think it will be fun to compare the notes of men vs women of what do they long for...

      a very interesting hub with interesting pointers. it was enjoyable and fun to read...cheers!

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      8 years ago

      Wow this hub was so intriguing. I loved how you interviewed several men here from Hubpages. It's funny how we all think we want different things but in the end it boils down to the desire to be content. Thanks for sharing this! Voted up, awesome, and useful! Sharing. Take Care, Kelley

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      Victoria Lynn 

      8 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Great hub, Vinaya! How great of you to compile all these responses. I think it's interesting that the men who want power don't admit it! I love the story you ended with. So true, so true. Excellent hub. Many votes and sharing!


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