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A Letter To Kate Gosselin

Updated on May 9, 2011
Kate when she was expecting the sextuplets.
Kate when she was expecting the sextuplets.

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Time To Call It Quits

Dear Kate,

I hope this letter finds you well. I’ve been meaning to write to you for a couple of years now as I’m a fan of your show. I watch because I enjoy seeing your children interact with each other. I believe them to not only be cute, but also opinionated and, most importantly, united.

I understand that you’re having to deal (yet again) with some bad press. You apparently were caught spanking your daughter, Leah, after she wouldn’t stop blowing a toy whistle. Looking at the pictures (especially if you center on the reaction of Cara and Mady), you would think you were punching the life out of your daughter. As I’m sure you don’t spank your children often, this action must’ve come as a shock to Leah, hence the tears and the rubbing of the bum. I’m a little confused as to why you spanked her though instead of sending her for a time out. Watching the show, I was under the impression that you and Jon didn’t believe in physically punishing your children. I thought you opted to use time outs and loss of privileges as punishments? Perhaps I’ll have to track down some old episodes to see if I’m mistaken.

Growing up, my mother spanked my brothers and I when we did something wrong. It didn’t matter where we were at the time. If we misbehaved, we were spanked. I can still remember the time when (I think I was Leah’s age) I wouldn’t stop talking in church and my mom escorted me to the lobby and spanked me. One of the ushers saw this happen and gave us a look. It wasn’t a look to reprimand my mom for hitting me, but, rather one that that made it clear that good children don’t talk in church. I’m sure though if my mom were raising me today and hit me in church the reaction from the usher would be much different.

My point in telling you this story is to illustrate how much the times have changed. When we were coming up, it was acceptable to spank your children. Nowadays, spanking is considered borderline (if not all out) child abuse. Though the slaps are coming from the same place, the reaction will never be the same. You just can’t spank your children anymore, especially in public and especially if you’re a public figure. People are expecting you to prove that you’re the worst mother in the world. Considering the modern day opinion, by spanking Leah in public, you are giving people proof.

I’ve also read that you’re so attached to your cell phone that you ignore the children when they need you. Not only that, I’ve heard the rumors that you’ve become a bit of drinker and that you‘ve got a boyfriend in your bodyguard. You also apparently enjoy firing people for no reason and have alienated your brother, Kevin, and his family because of a fight over money. With all of these rumors flying around, what will it take for you to come back down to Earth and realize that this show has ruined not only your reputation, but the relationships you have with your husband and your children? The time has come for you to quit the show and to return to the life you had before cameras started rolling.

You have repeatedly said that the show is your job and that without the show you wouldn’t be able to support your children. I know this may sound unreasonable considering the lifestyle you’ve become accustom too as of late, but, if downsized your house and cut back on needless expenses, you could stop shooting today and your family probably would have enough money to last you for years. Also, I’m sure that as long as your family did an appearance or two a year, some of your sponsors would still be willing to give you free stuff. I know it would be difficult to adjust to no longer being in the limelight, but, if you really want to save your family, you need to pick them over the show.

When the show began, I envied the relationship you had with Jon. Knowing far too many women who are single parents, it is clear that even the best men run when they are faced with becoming a father to one child let alone multiple children. Your guy stuck by you despite his worries about how he would support you all and how he could be a good father to so many. From the beginning, it was obvious that you guys weren’t perfect. You fight about minor things too frequently to ignore. You call him names and belittle him in each show. He ignores your wishes and mocks your parenting behind your back. True, the producers probably only show what they want to show/what will keep people coming back for more. Yet, for you both to say these things even once a month says to me that there’s a lot going on beneath the surface. It shouldn’t take him being photographed with a mistress for you to finally take note of how bad things are.

Even though you both love your children, I’m positive that you resent them for adding stress to your lives and, as a result, changing your relationship. To summarize the opening of your show, you signed on for one more child and got six. (Your fertility drugs certainly gave you a kick in the butt!) Given the chance to eliminate some of the embryos, being that you both are religious, you thought this was unthinkable. God had given you six lives and you were going to proudly parent them no matter what it did to your finances or martial relationship. I can only imagine how much easier your life would’ve been had you only given birth to the one you had planned on. Still, the drama didn’t really happen until you signed on to do this show. Though they are the reason why you were offered a show, they aren’t the reason why it’s still on the air.

If your show were to be cancelled today, a part of me would be sad. As I said in the beginning, I like your children and enjoy watching them grow up. However, I’m sure I speak for America when I say the time has come for you to end the show and to return to the life you lead before you became the person you are today. Jon has made it clear that he no longer wishes to be a public figure and that he would prefer to raise the children privately. You need to make the same decision. The children need a mother. This woman in a bikini who writes books about her children, but who is never around for them, needs to go.

Best Wishes,


*This letter was written months before Jon and Kate divorced and with the best intentions.


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  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    8 years ago from Lowell, MA

    I thank you so much for your comment. I wish others could've been so respectful in conveying their opinion of my opinion. :)

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    8 years ago

    You are an extremely talented writer. Please understand that. I do agree with you in every way shape or form, and I do realize that you aren't exactly on her side. I will say this however--she is a great mother, she will not do anything that harms her kids. Sure, that saying can sometimes sound a bit stupid, but I know it's true, and a lot of other viewers will agree with me. I do not think they should cancel the show. I instead, considering they regret it, believe they should have never divorced and kept the show going. In one of the earlier episodes, she stated, "I was very over-disciplined, he was very under-disciplined." This is what brought her to be the way she is, and that's not her fault. The way Jon reacted was unforgivable, since he did have some crucial offenses.

    All in all, I am torn between agreeing with you, and being on Kate's side. You have convinced me of her flaws. You have convinced so many others to agree with you. We don't know which is the better choice, but all I can say is this: great job on your hub, keep writing.

  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    9 years ago from Lowell, MA

    How diplomatic of you to resort to calling names. I wish you had had the nerve to leave your email address, but I guess thats asking too much of someone who doesnt even have enough courage to sign with something more than a letter. If writing honestly about this woman makes me a scumbag than I thank you for calling me one. Next time, do leave your contact information though. By the way, thanks for supporting my "hobby" and making me money by reading my piece. Out of curiousity, do you make money wasting your day surfing the internet and making baseless comments or do you do it for free? Have a nice day, G(od only knows where I got my high opinion of Kate)!

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    9 years ago

    To the writer of this article: You are a scum bag. Its obvious in her voice and eyes that the only thing she doesn't resent is her kids. She's never said a bad word on them. You don't know her life so stop pretending you do and "blogging" about it. get another hobby idiot

  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    9 years ago from Lowell, MA

    Tidal, if you had read the comment I left prior to yours you would know I wrote this months ago before Jon became the new Jon. While things have changed and more and more details have come to light, I still stand behind this piece. It is clear to me now more than ever that Kate cares more about the show than her own children. It is good of you to stand behind her as you are and Im sure you have reasons for doing so. I unfortunately cannot. I was raised to believe that parents (mothers especially) put their children above all else. In my opinion, Kate isnt doing that and her talk show appearances where she hopes to appeal to the sympathy of the public are sickening. As far as my article is concerned, I dont know where you found a couple of your complaints, but I appreciate the read and thank you for your comment. The passion behind your words nearly made me crossback over to the Kate side of the issue. In truth, Im just on the fence with my fingers crossed hoping she'll put an end to the show. :)

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    Tidal Wave 

    9 years ago

    Just amazing how you are putting words in Kate's mouth, saying you are sure she resents her children. Where do you get that? How many mom's don't talk on their cell phones? I don't get what point you were trying to make about Kate spanking her daughter. You went into a long diatribe about how times have changed. Kate is a mother, none of us are perfect in motherhood. Why is Kate your target? You never said anything about Jon running around the world with multiple young mistresses, spending the family's money on European vacations for two. Is that healthy for the children? Why is Jon held in such high esteem by you? There is no proof Kate is having an affair with her bodyguard. What makes you think the family will no longer be in the limelight if they stop doing the show? They are already there. It seems if they stop the show, the only thing that would stop is the paycheck.

    Well, at least Kate's imperfect ways gives you someone to judge.

  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    9 years ago from Lowell, MA

    Julie, this was written prior to Kate filing divorce papers when I believed she was going to make the right decision and end the show. Unfortunately she's too greedy for that. We all can pray for that family all we want, but only she can end the show. You apparently don't realize this and thus found my note to be too much of a critique and not enough of a prayer that all would've ended well which is unfortunate. Nevertheless, thanks for reading and for adding your two cents to mine.

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    9 years ago

    Seems like everyone is an expert on Kate's life. Instead of telling Kate and everyone how you think best to handle her life; how about silently saying a prayer for the family, comfort and healing.

  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    9 years ago from Lowell, MA

    Thank you so much for your comment, Caitlin! :o)

  • caitlinlea profile image


    9 years ago from Texas

    This is a great hub!! I also have enjoyed watching the show before, but I must admit I am utterly SICK of seeing Jon and Kate EVERYWHERE!! I feel like it's out of control, and completely agree they need to choose their family over the show and money.

    Thanks for posting this!! =-D

  • LowellWriter profile imageAUTHOR

    L.A. Walsh 

    9 years ago from Lowell, MA

    Thank you both for reading my Hub and for responding so well to it. :o)

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    9 years ago from Sunny Spain

    I have never heard of Kate until reading this hub, I am sure that having sextuplets is enough on its own to get all the sponsorships you could wish for, at least it would be in the UK as sextuplets are as rare as hen teeths.

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    Frieda Babbley 

    9 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

    I never knew about this show until now. Peeked around a bit and I must say, well said. It's hard enough being a parent in private, especially when you're tired and have to be on the ball 24/7 lest your children find ways of taking advantage of you, which they will anyway. But in public? I can't imagine. Sounds to me like everythign is falling apart. I don't see how showing it off could be of benefit to anyone immediately concerned. Well written. Thanks for sharing.


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