How To Handle A Celebrity Crush, Okay, Obsession
Once in a while, a celebrity comes along that strikes a chord within us. Ordinarily this means that we become a fan, sometimes we become a really big fan. Then again, sometimes we become more of a fan than we would like to be.
One day you realize that you actually have quite a serious crush on this celebrity. No, you don't know them, but for some reason it feels like you do. It feels like you're close to them, even though intellectually you know that they have no idea you even exist on this planet. It's a weird emotional twilight zone where you can find yourself thinking about a person you've never even met in longing ways you cannot explain.
Some people seek to explain this feeling by claiming that they knew a celebrity in another life, or that they and the celebrity are somehow soul mates. Do yourself a favor and dismiss any thoughts of that nature immediately. Allow yourself to think like that and you're just a few simple steps away from a building a secret altar and sending creepy threatening notes.
Crushes can be fun, but obsessions can become obstructive to one's life. They can get in the way of forming relationships with the people around you because you are so focused on a person you will never really know.
Two Things You Need To Know About Celebrity Crushes:
- Crushes form because a celebrity's persona speaks to you. That's right, not them, their carefully designed and heavily manipulated persona. The shell you see on television is not them anymore than Robert Pattinson is actually a vampire. You are being manipulated, nothing more, and nothing less. There are thousands of people employed in the art of making you relate to people you don't know because once you relate to them you'll be more likely to support them by buying related merchandise.
- Crushes can also form because a celebrity's image reminds you of someone you once knew, perhaps once had feelings for. When people remind us of other people, they have an automatic 'in' to our psyche, and it can occur with anyone, not just with celebrities. Be aware of this sort of thing, because it can trick you into forming emotional attachments with idealized versions of people that don't actually exist.
It's fine to enjoy a celebrity's work and appreciate them for what they do. It's not fine when thoughts of them creep into your every day activities and they become a silent partner to your every waking moment. When that happens, it's not you experiencing some mystical soul bond with a lover from many lives ago, it's the machinations of a marketing machine bigger than you can imagine turning you from an individual into a mindless consumer drone.
