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Ponderings: On Patience

Updated on September 15, 2017
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With a Masters of Science in Nursing (MSN) from University of Pennsylvania in 1985, Maria uses a love for music in working with others.

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My Inspiration

In 2014, Jo_Goldsmith11 took it upon herself to initiate the Light2Love Project Good Words.

Jo pledged to use good words and publish articles used to empower, encourage, support and defend those who need to be shown love.

Jo offered us a good word for each week to focus our thoughts, behaviors and actions on...In the 20th week, Jo wrote her perspective on the word patience.

However, as 2014 came to an end, Jo filed away her Good Word articles - as she begins the process of publishing it in e-book'. Shyron E. Shenko continues to write a beautiful poem to accompany each Good Word to inspire and lead us.

The ripple effect of the Good Words Project throughout the HubVille community has been heartwarming.

Please join me with some of my musical thoughts and reflections on the word patience...

Aunt Baby patiently waits
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I've Been Waiting

I wasn't born with the patience gene... nor did it even run in the family.

"Are we almost there yet...?"

"How long is this going to take...?"

"Wonder what's keeping them...I'm here waiting and on time."

Will I ever...graduate - have a steady boyfriend - get married - pass my nursing boards - get a job as a nurse - be a great nurse- get a promotion- oh, the list was endless ...

I was even impatient that nothing exciting ever happened to me.

Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.

— Molière

Cyndi Lauper: Change of Heart

At the age of 37, my life would dramatically change.

In June, 1999, I was held captive with a nursing colleague behind a locked office door by a drug-impaired gunman for 46-hours.

I was injured badly. I was frightened and anxious for my friend and myself. I was angry at this man who was behaving so dangerously and erratically with our lives and freedoms.

She was always waiting, it seemed to be her forte.

— D.H. Lawrence

Mumford & Sons: I Will Wait

More than anything else, I felt an initial and overwhelming sense of impatience...!

Despite the peril my life was in, I felt a great annoyance at this man who was literally and figuratively holding me up from accomplishing what I had planned to do this day at work.

I realized as hour after hour passed that my survival did not remotely depend upon the accomplishment of as many goals as possible, as quickly as possible - which, to date, had been my modus operandi.

And sure enough, even waiting will end...if you can just wait long enough.

— William Faulkner

Richard Marx: Right Here Waiting For You

And fifteen years later, I recognize one of the gifts I received in surviving this trauma is an appreciation of and ability to demonstrate patience in all life circumstances - ranging from the unexpected to the absurd.

Traffic jams - long lines in the grocery store - waiting for the friend who always runs late - the doctor's office - heck, any appointment for that matter - meeting whatever personal or professional challenge I have set for myself... Former reasons for impatience have become opportunities for perspective.

My life experience has taught me the power and importance of gratitude as well.

© Maria Jordan (December, 2014)

© 2014 Maria Jordan


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    • marcoujor profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Jordan 

      2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thanks for your visit - well said, Mark.

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      Mark Tulin 

      2 years ago from Ventura, California

      Truly enjoyed this exploration of waiting. Learning to wait is certainly an art form.

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      Maria Jordan 

      3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Your comment means a great deal to me these days, dear Peg.

      Thank you for your ongoing love and supportive friendship.

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      Peg Cole 

      3 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      These thoughts you've shared remain green and send a vibrant hope of spring coming our way. Three years have come and gone with so much in between the days. Your words reminded me today of things that are important, things to be cherished and things worth waiting for.

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      Maria Jordan 

      3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thanks for stopping by, BODYLEVIVE.

      Like you, I've learned patience over the years - no choice really.

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      3 years ago from Alabama, USA

      Patience isn't a quality we're born with but learned. When I was younger, I had no patience for anything! But I learned patience and it certainly has paid off in my older years.

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      Maria Jordan 

      4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      So true, dear Linda - I appreciate you and your visit.

      Hoping you and yours had a blessed, peaceful Thanksgiving. Hugs, mar

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      Linda Rogers 

      4 years ago from Minnesota

      I don't think there are many people that have conquered the patience virtue. I know I work on it daily. Thanks for another great installment of project good words my friend. Hugs :)

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      Maria Jordan 

      5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Lovely to see you, ladyguitarpicker. If you love music and Seniors, you have to be an amazing lady, so please feel free to stop by any time!

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      stella vadakin 

      5 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      Thanks for all that you write and and the inspiration you bring to others. Patience is something I have and am grateful for it. Your musical picks were great and I enjoyed all. As I continue to teach my Seniors I am Blessed with patience. Great hub.

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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Peg,

      Thanks for having PATIENCE in the time it took me to respond, LOL.

      You have been such a faithful supporter of this series and I treasure your friendship. I have been remiss in checking out your blog and will look forward to seeing what I have missed over this semester break.

      I am happy to know that The Quinn Mysteries will be available soon in paperback as well.

      Hoping you enjoyed the music and are having some peaceful time before Christmas. Love and hugs, Maria

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      Peg Cole 

      6 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      Patience is truly a virtue and you've given us so many examples of how to apply it in our lives. Your experience first hand is the pinnacle of why patience is so important and sharing how that lesson taught you about the things that really matter is helpful to each of us. I have a magnet on my fridge that says "Grant me patience, Lord, but hurry". That about sums up my level of patience, but I'm still working on it.

      Your choice in featuring Mckbirdbks is one on which I'll agree completely. He serves as true inspiration to each of us and a source of kindness and ongoing support of our work. I can always count on him to visit my hubs and even my nearly invisible blog that I myself neglect. I hope to see his work in paperback soon.

      I look forward to listening to your musical choices with my morning coffee. With lots of hope, love, kindness and patience, Peg.

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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Morning, dear friends,

      Faith, Thanks for your PATIENCE in me responding to your comment, that is as beautiful as you. With classes and grading behind me for the semester, I'm hoping to be more timely...your FAITHful support of me and this series means the world.

      Mary, If anyone takes the time to read your work, they'll know you have many creative ideas in your head. I'm grateful I can now catch up on what I've been missing from some of my favorite writers. I love that you were aggravated about the Quinn and Betty series coming to an end... with your comment and Genna's, I am thinking of starting a petition signing to forward to Mr. Friedman...are you reading this, Mike (LOL)!?!

      Genna, I very much appreciate your insightful remarks and your return back to 'edit' your own computer (LOL)... Like you I am also "a work in progress" and am forever reminding myself of the 'grander scheme' when I feel impatience coursing through me. For example, I firmly believe Mike is in his literary kitchen 'cooking us all up' the next set of adventures for our favorite couple on HubPages. Are you reading this, Mike...??? Genna, thanks for coming back to read twice - I mistakenly hit 'publish' as I was working on this over the weekend.

      Dip Mtra, I agree with your wise comment and thank you for taking the time to stop by.

      Wishing you all a peaceful day. Hugs, Maria

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      Dip Mtra 

      6 years ago from World Citizen

      Patience is something we need to learn at every walk of our life. Thanks for the lovely article.

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      Genna East 

      6 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      I meant to type: "survived an incident, Maria..." Sheesh. Sorry for that typo!

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      Genna East 

      6 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Patience. In some ways, I had more of this when younger; but in other ways, I possess more of it now. I guess it depends on the situation that requires this wonderful virtue. And it shouldn’t, really. We can either endure, or not…the choice is ours. When we nurture this, understand what prompts our impatience and remind ourselves what we have to be grateful for in life, peace of mind is realized. This is what I try to use whenever I feel that trigger. It doesn’t work all of the time. I’m still a work in progress.

      You experienced an incident, Maria, that was terrifying. (Thank goodness!) It also gave you, as you stated so perceptively: “ appreciation of and ability to demonstrate patience in all life circumstances - ranging from the unexpected to the absurd,” as well as gratitude.

      Kudos on your tribute to Mike Friedman. He is, hands down, one of my favorite writers. I also follow him, faithfully, and always look forward to his next story installment – or anything else he has written. I confess that I selfishly hoped Quinn and Betty would return, along with Duncan Waffles, for a new story. (Sorry, Mike, but there it is. When you have both the character and caliber of an exceptional writer, you have to deal with impatient fans.) I am pleased to learn that this deserving series is being published. :-)

      Excellent article, Maria. Sorry for the long post. Voted up and shared.

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      Mary Craig 

      6 years ago from New York

      I have the hardest time commenting on your Project Good Words hubs. Its hard for me not to keep repeating myself about how good they are! I don't want to sound like I don't have a creative thought in my head.

      As for patience it is a virtue that comes and goes with me. Sometimes I have the patience of a saint and other times, well they are better left unsaid.

      You young woman have learned patience the hard way but you also are so filled with so many other virtues. I'm pretty sure I've said this before but I really mean it, you are a beacon to all.

      As for Mike I was very aggravated that the Mysteries were over. Quinn and Betty were like old friends. Now I'll have to rush over there and read the new one. He is truly a great writer who keeps very good company...with you here on HP. You two are certainly blessings.

      Voted all but funny.

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      Faith Reaper 

      6 years ago from southern USA

      Each time you publish one of your "Good Words" hubs, I am thinking, well, there is no way she can top the previous one, and you always do ... bringing the tears, for your personal testimony always tugs at the heart and is so powerful.

      I am so glad you have highlighted the magnificent writer we all know and love here on HubPages, Mike Friedman! He not only is an amazing writer, he is also a great supporter of others' writings here on HubPages by always retweeting and providing great encouragement. I look forward to reading more of his wonderful articles here and his book!!!

      Hugs, peace and many blessings to you and yours always,

      Theresa aka Faith Reaper

      Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

    • marcoujor profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good evening, everyone,

      Mike, How fitting that you are the first to visit this hub and I do hope you have the happiest of holidays. A dear friend just gifted me a Kindle copy of The Quinn Moosebroker Mysteries but I am quite impatient for my hard you can very well imagine, LOL!

      Car51, I am imitating a wise woman I know and keeping it simple this no stressing or impatience with the holidays thankfully!

      Randi, You and your comment are smile makers...I know you are a fan of Mike's work as well, yet something else we have in common.

      Sha, I think Moms are miracle makers for sure and patience is a must...and you are an A+ Momma...thanks for your insights here.

      Randi, Actually the way my head has been working lately you seriously COULD have meant mish-mash, where my work was concerned...which is why I was smiling, LOL! Thanks for taking the time to stop back.

      "Well, sometimes I just lose it: the good manners, self-control, the works......" A M E N... so do I, dear girlfriend Martie and THIS is why we are two peas in a pod. Oh you are a honey and a half... :)))

      Jo, What a lovely comment! Thank you for calling me 'real' and for putting me in the same caliber as Mike - can't get much better than that.

      Bill, That cartoon sounds 'real' too...and adorable...thanks for sharing.

      Paula, What meaty and awesome remarks... thank you for sharing your perspectives. I now worry in a patient way...which is so much better than worrying impatiently (believe you me)...!! Funny, I love to let people go ahead of me in line as well...

      My East coast girls...Sha and Paula...I tell ya one day when 'this ship of mine comes in...LOL' I am arranging such a Hub 'trip'-- Fun, Socializing, Food, Drink, Music.......I am taking notes in the meanwhile of everyone's preferences.

      Ruby, I can feel Mike smiling as he reads your comment - I know I am, dear friend.

      Ann1Az2, Very nice to meet you and thanks for your kind comments, insights and votes.

      Thanks for stopping by, Alicia. I think you would enjoy Mike's work very much.

      Audrey, Your remarks are warm and genuinely lovely. I agree that patience and love are intimately connected.

      Wishing you all a peaceful evening. Love and hugs, Maria

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      Audrey Hunt 

      6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      I have no idea where my patience comes from. It's just always been there. It's no big deal because it's just part of my make-up. It's easy, just like singing is easy.

      I can't even imagine the harrowing experience you lived through, being held captive for 46 hours with a gunman. And with all this you were injured badly as well?

      Only you, my brave friend, would find something positive to come from such an experience. Patience! How I admire you for your high character and marvelous attitude.

      You are a born teacher. Your hubs reflect your strong desire to help others. As does your nursing.

      I love this hub on patience. I have always felt that patience and love are connected. You are both!

      Thank you for sharing a part of you through your writing. What a gift for us all!

      Love, blessings and hugs to you dear Mar.


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      Linda Crampton 

      6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Your Project Good Words hubs are always interesting and thought provoking, Maria. This one is no exception! Thanks for introducing me to some of Mike's work.

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      6 years ago from Orange, Texas

      Patience is hard thing to come by in these times we live in. Mastering it I'm afraid is a lifetime struggle. Like you said, the lines we wait in, the traffic we drive in, all try our patience. I like the way you wrote about your frightening experience, one that most of us, thankfully have not gone through. The fact that you came out of it without succumbing to bitterness and anger says something about your character, and I love that. Well done and voted up.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Now you ' went and done it again. ' Just when I thought I could survive without Emerald Wells, you mentioned it, and now I'm missing it all over again. I must tell you that I loved his Quinn Moosebroker mystery series just as much, the last one was so beautifully written I was in awe. then, his story last week, ' The carriage driver- The Eliots was so dreamy and magical it put me into the Christmas spirit like no other story. He truly is a wonderful writer and dear friend, I might add that you my sweet friend are special in so many ways. Loved this! Take care. Love you..

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      6 years ago from Carson City

      I am a trip.....but I'm a s l o w trip.......LOL Me game? I rarely say, "No" to any kind of fun and socializing! In fact those are 2 of my favorite things! :)

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Paula, you're a trip. I was referring to the job world. Frankly, you'd be the perfect guest. I prefer to socialize while I cook. I take lots of breaks and prefer to eat around 8 or 9. You game?

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      6 years ago from Carson City

      And then there are those of us who are so incredibly patient 98% of the time that people feel the need to check our pulse. Absolute patience can be terribly misinterpreted.

      I have had people actually get in my face and scream...."How can you be so calm and unconcerned???!!! Why are you not freaking??!! My stock answer for those frenzied freaks is usually, "Oh, I think you're doing a fine enough job at that for both of us."

      How strange we humans are, don't ya think girlfriend? I'm the person who stands intentionally in the longest check-out line ....AND, lets people with fewer items get ahead of me......(especially if they are toting a baby) I read magazines and talk to with babies.

      If you asked me what I hate most of all.......I can think of dozens of things to say......but above all else, I HATE rushing, being in a hurry, trying to beat the clock......Am I late a lot? Yes, I am. But the only important people are the people I love and who love me. They know me and they KNOW I'll be late. Not only because I don't rush....I also NEVER speed. Some of these silly people I love think they're fooling me when they tell me dinner is at 5......see, I know it's really at 6. They just don't trust me to be on time.

      Sure...I suppose now everyone reading this is thinking....."OH UGH! a PROCRASTINATOR! She must drive everyone insane!" Well, I suppose, if you insist upon referring to my patience with myself as procrastination, so be it. As for driving people insane.....It's not my problem that they are impatient, now is it? LOL

      I LOVE this hub, Maria my little worrier......slow down, breathe deep, Take more time to do everything.....I promise will not only have more will all work out in the end and you'll have energy to spare. :) Love & Hugs.....Effer ( P.S.....BTW my dear friend Sha.....I promise I would never hold up your go right ahead and start without me...and oh yeah, you might have to finish it too...I'll clean up..promise! LMAO!)

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Those defining moments do have a way of changing our way of thinking about life, don't they? Beautiful thoughts. Every time I hear the word "patience" I think of an old cartoon I saw with a frazzled cat that looked like it wanted to kill someone, and the cat said "patience my ass....I want to tear something to shreds." :)



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      6 years ago

      yea! I really loved this! And for so many reasons. You are truly a beautiful woman with so much wisdom and have the kind of heart, I feel so blessed to know. I appreciate you for being *real* and all the wonderful lessons you share with us. Mike is another "one of a kind" as I second your statement about how "he inspires me".

      This was awesome, beautiful and interesting! Voted this way and Up.

      Shared on HP and tweet. ((((((( Maria ))))))

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      Martie Coetser 

      6 years ago from South Africa

      Patience is definitely not one of my virtues, and on top of that I have a fiery temper. My only salvation is, and in this order - good manners, self-control and the ability to understand and accept reality. Well, sometimes I just lose it: the good manners, self-control, the works......

      Mckbirdbks' stories are worthy to look forward to.

      Voted up, profound, useful and awesome :)


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      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Mar, I had no patience either until I became a mom in 1992. Raising a child requires a lot of patience, among other things. However, I still lack patience for people who are notoriously late or those who hold up my progress because they're not completing their part of the equation in a timely manner.

      Nice shout-out to Mike. I, too, look forward to his Friday posts. He always ends the week on a pleasant note.

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      Randi Benlulu 

      6 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Before I began to read this, I thought, "Wow, patience is one I'm not very good at! " really nice job with this, Maria! I couldn't agree more with your choice and logic behind Mike's Friday series! I am always excited on Fridays and was pleasantly surprised to see a new one!

      Great mishmash choices and writes to. Thank you, Maria! Beautiful words and thoughts!

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      6 years ago

      Hopefully your Christmas preparations will not be a source of impatience! Love the quotes!

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      6 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Well, Merry Christmas, Mike. Thank you mar. This is such a nice gift. I am waiting for a Proof copy of The Quinn Moosebroker Mysteries right now. They have been ordered and I am patiently waiting there arrival.


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