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The Vampire Diaries -- Damon and Katherine vs Stefan and Katherine -- Part One

Updated on June 19, 2011

The 1864 Years

Katherine says she loves Stefan and never loved Damon, but if you look at her actions with both brothers that doesn't really seem to be true.

1864 -- Stefan

She met Stefan, first, and in most of the flashbacks featuring Damon and Stefan, she appeared to have eyes only for Stefan, while ignoring Damon. However, the first time Stefan kissed her, she pushed him away and didn't seem pleased, even though you'd think that was what she wanted most. Especially, since she claims she always loved Stefan. She even tried to tell there are things he doesn't know about her. Their first time having sex, she decides to snack on him and reveal to him that she's a vampire. She really must have sucked the guy dry, because he wakes up the next morning horrified by what she is, and she compels him to continue on with her as they are. She also tells him she has plans for him, her and Damon. She's once again snacking on Stefan when she gets a mouth full of vervain and gets taken down.

Damon and Stefan are killed trying to rescue her. Damon is killed right out, but Stefan is still lingering and Katherine says something to him. I say something, because Elena's voice in the present is heard as Katherine is moving her lips. So both could have been simultaneously saying, "I love you, Stefan." Or maybe not. After she fakes her death, she comes back to Stefan's body and declares her love and promises they'll be together again. The scene cuts away before she's seen leaving, so we don't know if she left without even going over to Damon.

1864 -- Damon

We don't know how Damon and Katherine first met. We don't know how they shared their first kiss and how she reacted to it. We don't know when they first made love, but we do know that unlike with Stefan, when she and Damon first made love, she didn't feed on him and reveal herself to be a vampire. By the Founder's Ball they were lovers, and Damon didn't know she was a vampire. We also know that Katherine made Damon promise to return from the war quickly, so may have played a part in Damon deciding to become a deserter.

Damon was waiting for Katherine in her room as Stefan brought Katherine home from the ball. When he kissed her, she pushed him away. And when he asked if his love wasn't enough, she compelled him to leave because she was tired and wanted to be alone. That wasn't the end of their relationship. Quite the contrary.

At some point Damon found out the truth and accepted it. Katherine took Damon out hunting with her and got him to kiss her while her mouth was covered with the blood of the two victims she had just taken down. He even helped her dispose of the bodies of her victims. Sometime after that, they're seen being playful in bed together. Katherine bares her fangs at Damon but doesn't try to bite him and feed on him. She even takes Damon to a vampire meeting she has with fellow vampire, Pearl. When Damon asks her to feed him her blood, she opens her neck and has Damon feed on her like a vampire would.

1864 -- Analysis

The two relationships are very different. While Katherine claims to love Stefan, she doesn't treat him as well as she treats Damon, who she claims she doesn't love. With Stefan, she takes all his freedom of choice from him by compelling him to continue on with her as if nothing happened, when he was repelled and scared of her when he learned she was a vampire. We see two bed scenes with them, and both are the same, she kisses him a bit, before feeding on him. Compare that to her and Damon's bed scene where they're playing in bed and although she bares her fangs, she never tries to feed on him.

This is one of the points that makes you doubt Katherine's claim to not love Damon and to love Stefan. She apparently concealed what she was from Damon for a time, since they became lovers, and he didn't know what she was. While feeding on Stefan right from the start. Shouldn't that have been reversed. Shouldn't she have hidden her true self from the man she loved, and just fed on the one she claims to have never loved?

Another point is feeding on someone you supposedly love is considered a bad thing. Stefan was afraid to be with Elena because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to control himself and feed on Elena. He could have compelled her afterwards to forget, but that was also considered a horrible thing to do to someone you love. Caroline was also horrified when she bit Matt in the neck, and afterwards she broke up with him. But when Katherine is feeding on Stefan, she doesn't seem overcome by her emotions and not able to stop herself. She just seems to be hungry for a snack the way Damon was when he was with Caroline and using her as a convenient food supply while he compelled her not to be afraid of him and they were carrying on a relationship very similar to what we've seen between Stefan and Katherine. Only Damon never claimed to be in love with Caroline.

Conversely, instead of taking blood from Damon, which is what she's doing to Stefan, she actually is giving blood to Damon. She could feed Damon the blood, but she wants him to take it from her like he's a vampire. Which seems to be something she's never done with any other man but Damon. The question is why when she claims she never loved him. To be honest, everything she did with Damon in regards to the vampire thing seems to be something she's done with no other man but him. And you've got to wonder why that's so when she claims she never loved him.

To recap: She feeds on Stefan, but lets Damon feed on her. She takes all choice away from Stefan, but always gives Damon a choice. So which one does it sound that she really loves?


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      LittleVillain 5 years ago

      This is EXACTLY what I thought too for the exactly same reasons you said! So, I was very surprised while reading your theory, which is the same as mine! But I think something else can be said about it. You wondered why, if Katherine loves Damon, she told him she never loved him. I wondered the same thing too... I thought about all that we know about their relationship and about all that happens in Season 2 between the two and i finally understood why: She didn't know. Katherin didn't lie to Damon when she said that, she really believed that she doesn't love him but Stefan! Why? Because Stefan was a challenge. She wanted him because he was the type of person who couldn't accept to be with, well, a serial killer no matter how much he loved said serial killer. The fact that she was an evil vampire destroyed completely his love for her. In fact, when Katherine was taken he didn't try to save her. He LET her be taken away and he even believed all that his father told him, that he never loved her, that it was all fake, that she deserved to die(he believed it so much that he repeated the same things to Elena when he explained her what happened with Katherine). He later went to her rescue but not because he loved HER but because he loved DAMON and wanted to help him so he wouldn't die. So he felt nothing for her. That's why she colpelled him, he was a challenge. But I don' think this means she didn't love Stefan, in fact it wasn't only because he was a challenge but alse because she din't want him to leave her, to hate her. She did but in a twisted way. So she loved him but she loved Damon more. The difference is that with Stefan she could notice her feelings: the fact that he couldn't accept her and she would lose him made her realize that she was in love with him. But Damo accepted her, she had nothing to fear so she din't realize her feelings for him! The proof is her reaction when he was dying. She was scared, hurt. And it was in this moment that she realized her feelins for him, in fact it's after thinking he would die that she told Elena "It's ok to love them both. I did." She never, never said before that she loved Damon. Never. She always behaved like she only loved Stefan but she says something like that... right after Damon nearly died. And after this her behaviour towards Damon changed: when Damon in Season 3 decided to go back in Mystic Falls to save Elena she was worried about him, she told him, rather anxious, that he would risk to die and when he told her "I wouldn't have done it for you" (Ah, Damon, Damon. What a liar you are! You did it for her! And you died too!) she was clearly hurt. She never was before and he had told her similiar thing. But now she is? And, it's after he risked to die...

      So, in the end Katherine is just stupid when it comes o her feelings. Damon too, since he is so sure that Katherine doesn't feel anything for him even if she is the one who saved him from the werewolf bite and later, in season 3, she also saved Damon from Klaus with Stefan denying that she had done it for Damon, of course. She said she did it because "Stefan wsould suffer if Damon died". Right. Am I the only who doesn't buy it?

      So, Katherine loves both of them. But, as you pointed out, to Damon she always offered a choice, a way out, which means she cared about what HE wanted and we are talking about Katherine here, the most selfish person in the world so this really means something. This means that while she does also love Stefan- after all she din't protect oly Damon but Stefan too every time: that time with Mason when she reminded that nothing had to happen to Damon and Stefan, when she turned Caroline so that Klaus would have used her and not Stefan or Damon as Vampire Sacrifice... She showed her love for him when she followed Ripper Stefan who was with Klus, the one she fears the most, and not just once as we saw in the flashback.

      I don'r remember that she did say "I loved you but I also love Damon" as Neno says. I should rewatch that scene.

      Heh, I just wanted to say few things and it turned into an essay! lol

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      Neno 6 years ago

      idk if that how it was but thats how i heard it, in homecomming, the last scene with stef and kat in the car, she says "i loved you stefan, but i also love damon" or something along those lines but what i saw was, passed tense with stef and present with Damon, but hey thats just my hearing.