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Updated on May 15, 2009
Kids grow up happy with simpler rules
Kids grow up happy with simpler rules

Little kids need rules to go by when growing up as part oftheir education and to build a positive personality

It is an important factor for the parents to understand that your kid will grow to be an individual who will have his own ideas and opinions about things which may differ from your views. But sometimes you can help your child to polish his personality and confidence with a few rules set for you to follow when dealing with your kid as he steps beyond the age of toddlerhood and gains his independence with lesser dependency on you.

Do not underestimate your child

Your child understands more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of his abilities than you might affect his development and confidence.

Don’t use threat

a child never deserves to be threatened with negative consequences. Once threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn’t suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment or how the worst situation be like.

Do not bribe your child

Bribing a child to do a certain thing is even worse than threat. This will make him disregard the importance of learning and all he will get from this is the importance of getting toys and treats.

Do not make a small child promise something

You must realize the fact that small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that. You can always make a promise to your child and then do not forget to fulfill it. this is how he or she will learn to make a promise and keep it but in good time.

Do not keep them under a short leash

In order to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom and some privacy. Let him decide things for himself and exercise his choice in matters which do not have any adverse implications like which sleeping dress to wear tonight, selecting a bed time story etc.

Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child

Kids lose the meaning and the context of the entire conversation when it is extended, especially when being reprimanded or when giving out rules. Keep your talk very short and simple and do not give lengthy explanations about what he or she did. Saying it was wrong is sufficient as an explanation.

Do not expect immediate and blind obedience

it is not recommended, a child learns to think for his own and that he does by trying to things and not just by following orders. Sometimes they learn things the harder way but that is what learning is all about.

Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game

Basically playing games is a way to teach your kid how to apply and follow rules in a simple and fun way. That is actually the educative aspect of games. When playing keep rules simple and teach him to abide by them.

Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child.

Always consider this when imposing a rule as he will only learn that breaking a rule is ok if you keep revising your own rules.

Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously

Even for fun sake do not as your child to do something that you would not want him to do when you are serious. Your child will try to please you and giving him such an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order is a joke.


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      Owais Siddiqui 8 years ago

      Thanks for your comment :)

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      salma 8 years ago

      Great hub

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      Owais Siddiqui 8 years ago

      yeah your dad needs to read it

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      hasha 8 years ago

      interesting ... mayb you should mail this to dad :P

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      hasha 8 years ago

      interesting ... mayb you should mail this to dad :P