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28 Easy Ways to Make Your Children Feel Special

Updated on February 19, 2014
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Kristi graduated from the University of Kansas with a degree in Human Development and Developmental Psychopathology of Children.

Laughing with kids makes your kids feel special.
Laughing with kids makes your kids feel special. | Source
Fun times at a family farm.
Fun times at a family farm. | Source

Kids Don't Come With Handbooks

Before children are born it seems that the big question mommies-to-be are always asked is, "are you ready?" How can you possibly prepare yourself aside from having diapers and wipes? Everything else is a learn-as-you-go process. From the very first moment you lay eyes on your beautiful angel, you realize that you will scale any mountain or lasso the moon just for this little soul that you are holding.

As that little amazing life evolves and becomes a toddler and a child it's important for them to know how much you love them; how safe and loved they are. There are numerous ways you can help your children understand how special they are. The relationship that children have with parents will determine how they relate to every other person for the rest of their lives. It's a fact: greater than 95% of all socialization comes from parents. When you hear people say that kids are like sponges, it's absolutely true. Kids look to parents for:

  • How to act or re-act
  • Who they want to emulate
  • What to do in situations
  • What types of choices to make (life,friends,spouses)
  • Ethics
  • Responsibility
  • Role models
  • The type of job they may eventually get

If you want your child to be strong (mentally, physically, emotionally) then you provide them with exercises and tools to be strong. If you are passive and do nothing, your child will follow suit.

Spending quality time with kids is a great way to make your kids feel special.
Spending quality time with kids is a great way to make your kids feel special. | Source
Starting a tradition with your child is a wonderful way to make them feel special.
Starting a tradition with your child is a wonderful way to make them feel special. | Source

Active Listenting Skills

One of the easiest ways you can communicate effectively with your child and let them know how much you care about them is to actively listen to them. This involves some very easy behaviors.

  1. Notice them with a verbal greeting using their name.
  2. Make eye contact with them and smile at them.
  3. Ask them about their day, every single day, and make sure that you recall what is going on in their lives. If they're having trouble with a particular situation, you may want to find out how things are going. If they're doing something fantastic and special, ask about that.
  4. If they are telling a story or talking about an event, listen to them and don't let anything interrupt. This is especially true if they are upset.
  5. Notice when they seem to be having a bad day and quietly, away from others, ask them if they are okay.
  6. Ask for their opinion about things that are appropriate.
  7. Get to know their friends.

50 Ways To Verbally Praise

  • Wow
  • Awesome
  • Cool
  • Super
  • Great
  • Way to go
  • You're special
  • Outstanding
  • Excellent
  • Neat
  • Well done
  • Beautiful
  • Phenomenal
  • Hotdog
  • Dynamite
  • Spectacular
  • You did it
  • Looking good
  • I knew you could
  • Now you've got it
  • Bravo
  • You're a superstar
  • Hurray for you
  • You're smart
  • Fantastic
  • Halleluiah
  • Bingo
  • Magnificent
  • Marvelous
  • Sensational
  • That's terrific
  • Thumbs up
  • I love what you did
  • You did great
  • Thank you for doing that
  • Perfect
  • Right on
  • Super duper
  • Very creative
  • Wonderful
  • I love it
  • That's the best you've done
  • That's A+ work
  • Outstanding performance
  • You are important
  • This is great
  • Good job listening
  • Thank you for being here
  • Hotdog and Halleluiah
  • You are special
  • You made my day

Play, Delight and Laugh all Night

Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you should stop having fun, being silly and laughing like you did when you were a kiddo. Some of the best memories you will ever give your child will be as simple as quality time.

  1. Play outside together whether it's playing catch, having a water-fight, looking at the stars, washing the car together, planting a garden or some flowers, having a lemonade stand, riding bicycles, walking the dog, walking the llama (ha ha ha), catching fireflies, raking leaves, having hot cocoa, making a snowman or just sitting on the porch enjoying the breeze.
  2. Build a fort with every available blanket and let the kids sleep in it. They'll love it!
  3. Have a talent show and video tape it.
  4. Sing songs with your kiddos every time you are in the car.
  5. Take time with your kids when they are learning to read. Pick out books together - such as a series of books, and read every night.
  6. Teach them how to make their favorite meal.
  7. Make kiddo coupons for them when they have done something exceptional. Place them somewhere they will find when they wake up. (kiddo coupons are things such as: this coupon entitles bearer to 1 trip to the ice cream parlor for a double scoop of your favorite ice cream)

Be Their Biggest Fan!

If you believe in your kids, champion your kids and let them know they can climb any mountain, they will know that you support them, that you think they can accomplish things and they will scale Mount Everest! Kids are amazing and once they spread their wings, they fly like eagles! Some great ways to promote your child's confidence are:

  1. Discuss their biggest dreams in life, what they want to be and how they want to achieve those dreams.
  2. Make a collage of cutout words and pictures that details the things about their life that they love and cherish the most.
  3. Start a tradition with your child and see that you follow through with it.
  4. Catch them doing something right and praise them, hug them and remind them that they are loved.
  5. Allow your kiddo to solve problems and use each situation to either praise and love or teach and love.
  6. Help your child to become an expert at something and be excited for them when you see small victories.
  7. Inspire your kiddo's creativity and understand that it's okay to have a difference of opinion about certain things.

Giving Praise is a wonderful way to make your child feel special.
Giving Praise is a wonderful way to make your child feel special. | Source

PRAISE PHRASE

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Things Kiddos Need

  1. Encourage your kids to help others in community service. Teach them the importance of volunteering and sharing.
  2. Help your kiddos look at situations with a cause-and-effect understanding. Explain the importance of thinking things through from start to finish.
  3. Don't expect your kids to tackle big problems alone. Guide them and teach them.
  4. Teach your child how to take a stand and stand up with them. Refrain from using issues of ethics that kids don't have the capacity to understand because the purpose is to teach them how to think for themselves.
  5. Expect a lot from your children and teach them excellence. When they seem stressed out, teach them how to "shake it off."
  6. Introduce your kids to as many new experiences as life has to offer.
  7. Be consistent, be open, be honest - always.

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      shai77, Thank you for the lovely comment. Kids are so cool and when you make them feel good it's like an insurance policy for their well being. Great to see you again and I appreciate you reading and voting. -K

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      Chen 4 years ago

      This is wonderful information that every parent needs. So many get wrapped up in life, only to give kids attention when they're not behaving. Kids need more attention in a positive way. Great hub, voted up.

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      ahorseback, thank you. I haven't published anything and I haven't quite earned my wings but that's an awfully nice thing to say and I sure appreciate it :). I've been working with kids since I was a teenager - that's a long time ago now....it's all I really know how to do.....and now I'm writing about it. -K

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      DDE, Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I agree that kiddos need to feel special. It makes a world of difference when they are made to feel important and needed. -K

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      krsharpo5, if this is your ideas and guidelines ....You should be published somewhere , have you written any books , you seem soo active about family and especially children ....are you an angel?.....:-}......+++++

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Awesome Hub with great points for child and parent. Every child requires to feel special no matter what.

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      epi, this might be the best comment and compliment I have ever received and coming from you - who I respect so much, it means even more. This couldn't have arrived at a better time for me. It's been a difficult couple of weeks and you just lifted me up. I needed that. Thank you for taking the time to read and for the blessing. I appreciate you being here. -Kristi

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      ignugent, thank you for reading, voting and sharing. I love working with kids and I really enjoy my own. -K

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Cassylu, Thank you for the great comment. I always think of you as being the supermom and superwife so coming from you, this is such a great compliment! Laughing with kids is the best! Thanks for the votes. -K

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      krsharp05 4 years ago from 18th and Vine

      lindacee, thank you for reading and commenting. Singing in the car is great. My kids are at the age that they are discovering rock music and they actually love Ozzy Osbourne's "Crazy Train" so we sing it all the time. The video makes me laugh every time! -K

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ...I would say that you are such an important writer and a real treasure here at the Hub and to receive recognition from you means a lot to me because I admire your passion and intellect as a writer, thinker and communicator.

      Your hubs offer such depth and heart and inisght and always provoke your readers - and not always with answers but perhaps even more questions - this particular hub subject although directed towards the kids in our lives could also apply to the adults in our lives too because let's face it - adults are just kids grown up - sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 10:30pm

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      ignugent17 4 years ago

      Outstanding ways! Kids will really love you. Thanks for sharing! Voted up and more.

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      CassyLu1981 5 years ago from Spring Lake, NC

      I love your ideas :) I'm a huge fan of my kids, we are always finding new things to do and new ways to have fun. Making them laugh really makes my days. Love the video too :) Voted up and shared!!!!

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      lindacee 5 years ago from Arizona

      Wonderful ideas to build the young-uns' self-confidence! My favorite is singing in the car -- really all of your suggestions are great ways to stay engaged and let your children know just how special they are! I really got a kick out of the cheerleader dad video -- priceless!

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Robert, thanks for reading, commenting and for the laugh! It's usually the opposite - I'm laughing at your great hubs! This is my favorite hub so far. Great to have your input. -K

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      Robert Erich 5 years ago from California

      Hahaha! This is a great article and you were absolutely right. That video is hilarious! I love videos that make a good point in an entertaining way. Well done on presenting your content. ;)

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      watergeek, I would love to say that my kids are perfectly adjusted however, we are hopelessly flawed here in mighty Missoury :) A work in progress, you know? I appreciate your comment and thanks for taking the time to read. -K

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      watergeek 5 years ago

      When I was 30 years old I got very depressed one day, realizing I hadn't learned anything growing up about how to fix things around the house or how to take care of the lawn. I had six younger brothers, and that was their job. But I had learned how to clean house and cook - girl things, but very useful. They helped me feel competent anyway. I immediately sign up for a car mechanic class at the local community college.

      Meanwhile, one of my brothers told me he was grateful for having learned to wash dishes and make beds, although he used to complain a lot. It meant he didn't have to get married right away to the first willing girl, because he could take care of himself. Teaching kids chores is a wonderful thing to do, as long as there's love and lots of hugs there too.

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      Lovelovemeloveme 5 years ago from Cindee's Land

      Krsharp05, it was my pleasure. Very good hub.

      I read it after watching bubble wrap kids. The parents basically shield their children from everything and anything. Like no chores (can't vacuum, chew gum, ride bikes, join after school activities). I think it's a little absurd. They're scared their children will be harmed by doing really any activities. I mean, chewing gum or doing dishes, or vacuuming? How are they going to die doing any of this unless they go to the extremes of idiocy.

      After watching it I read some articles stating the facts that children who don't get enough social skills early in life grow up introverts who lack social skills, thus they can't make friends, have few friends, seldom go out doors or do any activities. So they're more prone to obesity. And all of this makes them more prone to depression/mental illness.

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      watergeek 5 years ago

      I wish you had been my mommy! (lol) Great photos of your kids. They look really happy and well adjusted.

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Teddi20, Thank you for the excellent comment. You are absolutely right. It goes by so fast. My toddlers are teenagers now. What used to be their first words are now our shared inside jokes and I'm trying to photograph and document as much as I can. I don't want to be standing at their graduation or wedding feeling like I missed out on anything. I appreciate you taking the time to read and leave your input. -K

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      teddi20 5 years ago

      Great ideas! I get so mad when I see parents who do not pay attention to their children. I do my best to be involved with my kids. Even with a busy day I stop and take the time to listen whether it was about their day or name all their friends at school or tell you all about the episode of Spongebob they watched.

      My husband pointed it out the other day that right now our lives are so busy with work, school, the kids and activities that it would be nice to have some down time. Then he realized that one day they will be grown and gone and we will wish that our lives were busy again. SO we cherish every moment.

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      lovelovemeloveme, I had never heard of it until you mentioned it. In gymnastics we call it "helicopter parenting" but I intend to read more about it. Thank you for introducing it to me. I couldn't agree with you more. Kids who have the opportunity to explore the world lead a life filled with doors of opportunity. I appreciate your comment and thank you for reading. -K

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      Lovelovemeloveme 5 years ago from Cindee's Land

      thank u! I love the list.

      Have you seen bubble wrap kids? I think sheltering away children is a horrible idea. Statistics say social children who get to experience more in life grow up to be people less prone to depression or mental instability.

      thanks for the hub.

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      teacher stories, You are absolutely right! Kids love to feel good about themselves even for the smallest reasons. Great comment. Thank you for reading. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Hi leah, It's awesome that you spend time with each of your kids alone. I love high-fives and foot-fives. Recognizing the specific triumphs of each individual child makes them feel great. Thank you for reading and for the great comment. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      pringoooals, thank you for sharing and voting. Best of luck in using these ideas. Once they become a part of your vocabulary, they're a lot of fun to use! I appreciate you reading. -K

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      teacher stories 5 years ago from San Diego

      Great ideas! If more parents would do these things, there would be less kids with problems.

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      Leah Lefler 5 years ago from Western New York

      I love this! We try to take each boy out on a one-to-one basis to give them some dedicated time with each parent. And I always try to give them props for the awesome things they do - whether it be for learning a new song on the piano (my six year old) or scoring a soccer goal (my four year old)!

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      Karina 5 years ago from Edinburgh

      Super tips! I'll try to follow:). Thank you for sharing ! Voted up!

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      KristenN4Boys 5 years ago from North Carolina

      Loved this! Thanks for sharing!

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Robert, thank you! I appreciate you reading and sharing. This was a fun hub to write. Thanks for your input. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Riverfish, thank you for reading and commenting. I love the praise phrases and try to use them all the time. :) -K

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      Robert Erich 5 years ago from California

      Fantastic Hub! Definitely something everyone should read. These are valuable tips and words for adults as well as kids. Thanks for writing. Definitely sharing this hub.

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      Riverfish24 5 years ago from United States

      Awesome hub K. Very important and lucky are those kids who have loving and caring parents.

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Om, thank you! That one is my all time favorite - I use it all the time! Thanks for reading and commenting. -K

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      Om Paramapoonya 5 years ago

      "Hotdog and Halleluiah"? hehehe I've never used this phrase to praise any kid or anybody. I love it, though! Thanks for this lovely hub. You certainly sound like a cool mom!

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      LA Elsen, Thank you for reading and voting. Kids do love to be the absolute center of our worlds. I can imagine your son turning your face to look you in the eye and it's truly sweet if you think about it. It's a loving gesture. Thank you for your input. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Joy, Great idea with private dates! I bet your girls love their special days! I might have to try that. Thank you for reading and commenting. The video is absolutely wonderful!

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      greatstuff, You're right! It can be very difficult to actively listen at times. My youngest son is a premier story teller. He makes up the most wonderful and elaborate fictional stories and would like to share them with the entire world but gosh, they are LONG. At times I find myself struggling to hang on when listening but I know that one day I will cherish those moments. Thanks for reading and voting. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Emma, thank you! It's always great to have a good relationship with your kids. They will be able to share anything and everything with you if you are close. One of the greatest things about my relationship with my kids is the honesty we share. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Mhatter, that's so great that you broke the cycle. Being a zany parent is awesome. Your kids will love that behavior when they bring home your grandchildren. Thank you for reading and commenting. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Melis Ann, I think eye contact helps develop mutual respect between you and your children because when I am speaking with my kids, I make sure they are looking directly at me. I appreciate your sharing and voting. Thank you for reading. -K

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      krsharp05 5 years ago from 18th and Vine

      Glimmer Twin Fan, thank you very much. We love building forts and now that my kids are older, the forts are massive and really cool! Plus, they are responsible for the clean-up. Thank you for reading. -K

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      LA Elsen 5 years ago from Chicago, IL

      Great advice for any parent. Active listening is so important to young ears. My son often turns my face so he can see my eyes when I am talking to him and trying to do something "important." That's always a wake-up call to me. voted awesome!

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      Joy M 5 years ago from Sumner, Washington

      Great hub! We try to do private "dates" with each daughter so they can have their own special time. The multitude of ideas is great because each child seems to experience love differently. Loved the video at the end. :)

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      Mazlan 5 years ago from Malaysia

      Good advice here. I do agree that we should actively listen to them. It may not be easy for some of us but it is worth the efforts. Voted useful.

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      Emma Harvey 5 years ago from Berkshire, UK

      I love these ideas! It is so important to build a special relationship with you children to make them feel special and build up their confidence. You will probably end up with happy and well behaved kids that way.

      Great hub - voting up and awesome.

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Great report! I was a product of one's worst childhood nightmares. I was determined my children never shared a minute of my youth. I am sure if asked they would say I, though a bit zany, was a great father.

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      Melis Ann 5 years ago from Mom On A Health Hunt

      What a fantastic list...one to come back to for inspiration anytime. I like that you pointed out that kids need your undivided attention. So important in a world where we jump to every text or ring. Making a blanket fort is on my short list:) shared and voted up!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 5 years ago

      Great ideas! I still remember the forts I built with my brother. I build them with my daughter now, but my back doesn't seem to appreciate the floor as much. I think it's so important to support your kids. Great hub!