- Family and Parenting
A CONVERSATION BETWEEN FRIENDS...
SAD, BUT TRUE...by b. Malin
A friend stopped me on the street the other day...she had such a sad look in her eyes. "Are you all right"? I asked gently. Seeing the tears forming in her eyes.
"No not really" she replied with a deep sigh. "Oh, I feel INVISIBLE and I don't know why...I know they don't mean to ignore me...and other friends tell me the same story...But Oh god it hurts, way deep inside. When it feels like "family" has cast you aside".
As I listened to her, I was reminded of when my kids were small and older women would stop to admire them...and say with a sigh...that very sad sigh, "Enjoy them while you can, they are "boys" and boys love their mothers until as a man, they take a wife...and you could be ignored for the rest of your life"!
Thank goodness I didn't find this to be true...but I learned my place as most mothers do...and learned to enjoy them, and the grandkids too.
My friend continued to speak. "Time flies...they have kids of their own and all those gadgets, especially the phone...but do they phone? NO they do NOT! But the grandkids are worse, they IGNORE...they TEXT everyone...They Facebook everyone...just not me...they ignore me.
"Oh they get involved with their "peers" and homework and...I tried to go on, but she put her fingers to her lips to say "stop" to me.
"No excuse is good enough for me she replied...My grown kids, I guess they do call every now and then...It's the grandkids, that have no time for me. So if I "croak" would they think it's a joke, to TEXT to their friends over and over again"? Once again, I could see tears in her eyes.
"I don't know what to say or how to comfort you" I replied..."A lot of people probably feel like you do...I'm sure at times...I do too. But I try to understand from their point of view".
"Oh crocodile tears...CROCODILE TEARS...let's see how they react when my "will" is read, after I'm dead...and they are left out... enough said. INVISIBLE to me....INVISIBLE TO ME"!