ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Autism: The first two years from a Mom's perspective.

Updated on September 1, 2014
My husbands drawing of our 3rd son with his bear.
My husbands drawing of our 3rd son with his bear. | Source

Signs that I saw.

1.Constant ear infections

2.Crying all of the time

3.Resistance to loud noises

4.Speech delays

5.No response to own name

6.Putting every object in their mouth even, as they get older

7. Having trouble making eye contact

8. A tendency to want to be alone

9.Trouble adjusting to any change

10.Far behind peers in physical and/or mental developement

The Diagnoses

I came face to face with Autism on June 26, 2006. I should have been more familiar with it's appearance than I was. My brother suffers from Aspergers and while it is on the Autism Spectrum the symptoms can be different. My third son was born ,just like his brothers, after a normal delivery. He came out crying and he was healthy. He cried alot over the first two weeks and would almost fall into an exhausted sleep at the end of the day. Feeding him kept him quiet for about a half an hour but then the crying would start all over again. Nothing calmed him but quiet music dvd's called Praise Baby. I played these constantly. He hated going out to stores or restaurants. He would scream and cry whenever we went out. I stopped going out in public for fear of embarrassment. I declined all invitations to go out with friends for fear of what he might do. There was no consoling him when he worked himself up. For the first time in my life, I didn't know what to do with my child.

By the time he was two weeks old, I informed the pediatrician of our problems and she prescribed Axid for acid reflux. This calmed him down quite a bit but still he seemed discontented. He caught every illness that was sent his way. He had RSV and so many ear infections that I lost count. It seemed I lived in the doctor's office. At one appointment his eardrum had burst and I had no idea. At the doctor's advice we had ear tubes put in and this helped immensly. He was one year old. The doctor told me his ear infections, acid reflux , and now allergies were all inter-related.

By the time he was 18 months old, he was far behind his peers on his doctor check list. He was mostly behind in his speech. I was told to contact a state-run organization for testing and in home help. I resisted. I think when you hear that something is wrong with your child , you just don't want to believe it. Everything in me screamed that I could never handle a child like my brother. I did the mature thing and ignored the doctor's advice. After all , what did she know?

Two months later, he still couldn't talk. I started noticing kids in his class at church doing things that he wasn't even close to doing. I found the phone number the doctor had given me. The agency was called Sooner Start. They came to my home and ran a variety of tests on him while I watched. They also tested his hearing due to his lack of speech. His hearing was fine. I felt helpless and yet hopeful. They diagnosed him as DD. DD means developemently disabled. I thought good ,maybe he is just a little behind. They recommended speech therapy once a week until he turned three. They would come to my house and I was welcome to stay in the room. I agreed. Everything was free and everyone I met seemed genuine and kind. They then further recommended a trip to OU Medical Center for further testing by a team of specialists. I was told that early intervention made a huge difference.

Two months after his second birthday, we took the trip to OU Medical Center. The doctors were nice and understanding. They tested his gross motor skills and his fine motor skills. The tested him physically and mentally. I was asked to fill out sheet after sheet of questions concerning my observations of him. After all of the testing and many hours , they left my husband and I alone with our young son. They took their findings and talked amongst themselves. They consulted computer programs. They returned to the room. When they sat down , they began to tell us the good things. They then said what I didn't want to hear. "I am sorry but we find that he is autistic." The good news was he was high-functioning. The good news was that they had caught it early. All I heard, was the bad news. What was I going to do? I asked God how in the world could we handle this.

The weekly speech therapy started and the teacher was wonderful. He thoroughly enjoyed her coming and looked for her at her appointed time each week. Once he started getting basic words down his crying started to decrease. I guess he didn't know how else to express himself other than crying. The more he learned the happier he became. I began to hope. The disappointment of the diagnoses led to the hope and joy of a little boy learning to talk and to eventually finding happiness.

My advice to anyone, not wanting to listen to their doctor, is to take that leap of faith and get help. The diagnoses will lead to help and help is what you need. Help is what your child needs too. I also recommend the website for a more in depth look at the signs of autism.

My 3rd son having fun with his brothers.
My 3rd son having fun with his brothers. | Source

Update on Sam

Sam is now in the second grade. This is a picture of him with his brothers and sister on the first day of school 2014.
Sam is now in the second grade. This is a picture of him with his brothers and sister on the first day of school 2014. | Source


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)