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Abstract Thought: Is Humor a Helpful Learning Tool for Children?

Updated on August 9, 2014
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Larry Rankin attempts to discern the logic, or lack thereof, in various, topical social issues.

I don't think that's quite how that song goes.
I don't think that's quite how that song goes. | Source

As the song goes, “Time keeps on slippin into the future.” It seems like just yesterday my wife told me she might be pregnant, and now we are a mere three months away from the momentous occasion: the arrival of our first son or daughter to love and shower praise upon. I never knew anticipation of such an event could make one so happy, proud, nauseous, and scared all at the same time.

Like any new parent, I worry about all the variables in the raising of our child, from the complex to the mundane: cloth or paper diapers, time-out or the occasional spanking, education, and all the stuff that runs endlessly through a parent-to-be’s mind.

But as of late the thing that keeps cropping up in the old noggin is abstract thought. When faced with presenting an abstract thought to a child, do we avoid the topic, lie to our children, or push ahead as normal?

Child psychology books provide helpful insight into what a child can and can't process.

Abstract Thought and the Adolescent Mind

It is understood that children vary in their development of abstract thought and that all children start out understanding things quite concretely. As a result, a parent might, with good conscience, tell his or her child that the lifeless dog on the side of the road has simply gone to sleep.

But another school of thought will tell us that rather than fibbing a bit, we should do our best to explain the abstract concept, in this case death, as well as we can from the beginning and continue to reinforce the concept over time.

This brings us to our main focus: humor. Whether it is the basic joke, pun, sarcasm, prank, or metaphorical speech that enriches our life on a daily basis, all of these social institutions are, like death, a complex process requiring abstract reasoning to understand.

In my own upbringing, I can’t remember a time without humor. Many practical jokes have been brought down through the years as family tradition. I look back on them fondly, and sometimes laugh so hard I cry. The stories are a commonality to be shared with my family, a kind of oral history that is relived with every new generation.

Before we delve further into the right or wrong of these acts, let’s look at ten sources of humor regarding children within my family, some common and some not so common.

A good rule of thumb: for every 1 joke you let children figure out on their own, you should explain 10.

1. Mispronunciations:

Most all of us correct our children when they misuse language most of the time, but most of us do not correct our children all of the time.

Sometimes we just don’t catch the misusage. For example, until I was 15 or 16 years of age I had an Uncle Led. It wasn’t until my teenage years that I realized Led was an awfully strange name, and that it was far more likely he was my Uncle Ed.

This was through no fault of my parents. You simply can’t catch the difference. Try saying Uncle Ed and Uncle Led aloud. Unless you listen very carefully, you just can’t hear the variation.

But then there are other mispronunciations that parents just find to be “too cute,” and allow and even encourage. My older brothers and sisters referred to their pillows as “tillas,” and when they watched Dragnet the organization the co-stars worked for was the FPI not the FBI.

When I played a game of basketball, I would say the ball was “Out of bounce,” rather than “Out of bounds,” a misstep I still make on occasion today.

Most of us know of a song by the Beatles called “Ticket to ride,” but my wife and her siblings grew up singing a different version, “She’s got a chicken to ride.”

Yeah...I don't think that's what that means.
Yeah...I don't think that's what that means. | Source

2. Please Stand by:

This particular joke has become somewhat obsolete. The “Please Stand by” sign used to commonly appear on television sets when networks were experiencing technical difficulties. Although the sign is still used today, it is now a rarity.

At my household everyone knew what to do when the television said, “Please Stand by.” We would all stand in a line beside the television, and eventually this would correct things.

It would be a few years before I realized one’s physical relationship to the TV had no bearing on how quickly it returned to service.

3. Vehicle Dome Light:

When I was a kid there was one way to make the vehicle dome light work. You rubbed it like a Genie’s lamp, and more often than not this caused it to light up, but sometimes you just didn’t have quite the right touch.

With click-lights that actually do come on by touching these days, this, too, is a trick that is becoming lost to time.

4. Flood Buoys on Power Lines:

The following prank was executed by my mother at the expense of her children. It is one of my all-time favorites for two reasons: my mother still denies having ever done it and my mother did far fewer of these types of jokes than my father.

Have you ever noticed that there are large, orange balls on power lines, especially near airports? Well, as a child I did, and so did my siblings. At one time or another each of us asked about them, to which my mother matter-of-factly replied, “Those are to protect the power lines from floods.”

As embarrassing as it is to say, it was years and years later before I questioned my mom’s hypothesis. My thought process was as follows: Those power lines are close to 30 feet high. I think if we ever get that much rain, we’ll have far more to worry about than wet power lines.

As for the actual use of these orange balls, I don’t know for sure, but I would think they are a warning for low flying aircraft.

5. Traffic Lights:

The traffic light trick is an oldie but goodie. There are a number of variants, but the trick is to convince your children you have some unknown power over the stoplight.

As an adult, we know we can sometimes just make out the changing lights positioned for cross-traffic. We know this will result in our light changing soon.

The trick is to time out the beep of your horn or a whistle or hand gesture to the turning of the light to green, making your children think you have some power over it.

Something as simple as a stoplight can be an opportunity for tomfoolery.
Something as simple as a stoplight can be an opportunity for tomfoolery. | Source

6. Holidays:

There are a number of holiday traditions that involve having your children believe in a supernatural power. The most widely practiced is the existence of Santa Claus for Christmas. My fondest memories of Christmas are from when I believed. My saddest Christmas was when I was told otherwise.

A certain magic and mystery was gone for me forever after that, like the death of a dear friend, but if I had it to do all over, I don’t think I’d change a thing.

7. Bunk Beds/Teleportation:

Kids sleep soundly, for the most part far more soundly than adults. As a result, it is not uncommon for a child to fall asleep in one spot and wake up in another one.

My wife’s parents would tell their kids they must have teleported, denying any hand in the moving of the child from the living room to the bedroom or the changing of the child into pajamas.

A like-minded prank, when I was a child I had a bunk bed. My older brother and his friends would move me from the top bunk to the floor. Upon my awaking, they would tell me I must have rolled off in my sleep.

You're kid's hair getting bushy? Here's a trick to scare him into getting it cut.
You're kid's hair getting bushy? Here's a trick to scare him into getting it cut. | Source

8. Keep Your Hair Short:

As a child, I don’t remember having that much of a physical fear of having my hair cut, but I did like to keep my hair long and messy. My father was a fan of the burr and flattop for the young boy.

Growing up on a farm, there was never any shortage of dogs, and with farm dogs you have plenty of large dog ticks. During my haircut my father or uncle would pull one dog tick off after the other.

This was, of course, a slight-of-hand to discourage me from growing my hair long. The dog ticks were collected earlier from dogs and as my hair was cut, my father or uncle would pretend to pull them off.

9. Gum Takes 7 Years to Digest:

There are a number of tricks intended to keep children from eating things you think they should not eat. The classic is gum taking 7 years to digest. I was notoriously bad about swallowing gum and was reminded again and again to no avail that it would take 7 years to run through my system.

Another joke in this vein involves watermelon seeds. You tell the child that eating watermelon seeds will result in watermelon vines springing from their ears, belly button, etc.

As for myself, I thought this sounded pretty cool, so I ate the seeds anyway, but to my chagrin, I never grew any vines.

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10. They Need You to Play:

This last prank to round out our list of 10 was not perpetrated by my father or mother, but my brother Anthony. It is by far the meanest prank on this list, but makes me laugh to no end.

My brother Anthony was a lot older than me. He was visiting from college and went to the high school football game with the rest of the family. I was just a little boy, maybe in kindergarten.

The high school was raffling off a football, and my father had bought a ticket in my name. It was halftime and I heard my name over the loudspeaker. Anthony quickly turned to me and said, “They need you to go suit up and play.”

The scene that followed was me being dragged from the bleachers kicking, screaming, and crying to the prize: my very own regulation football.

Like the "Please Stand by" joke, the dome light trick is becoming obsolete.
Like the "Please Stand by" joke, the dome light trick is becoming obsolete. | Source

Conclusion:

Raising children is difficult. You never know how a concrete mind will react to an abstract concept. As for hard concepts, like death, you must be very careful. You must ask yourself, “Is this child ready for the whole truth or just a partial one?” “Will this child be better off going to the funeral or just staying home?”

The only answer is good judgment, and this can be very tricky.

Likewise, humor should be handled correctly. Abstract thoughts can be confusing and even potentially dangerous to the child, but that being said, with just a few guidelines such activities can be very beneficial.

The main thing you should ask yourself is, “Can the misunderstanding of this joke lead to any major problems?” If the answer is no, then go ahead.


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Let’s look at it this way, as a child my family constantly presented me with humorous, abstract ideas. It was my job to come around and make sense of them. I didn’t have to figure it out that moment, that month, or that year, but when I finally did, it represented maturation in my mental development—a reasonably safe and fun way for those who loved me to facilitate and gauge my advancement into adulthood.

Understanding humor is a sign of learning, and it is a good way to learn. It is a fun way to learn. It is a great way to develop bonds that last a lifetime. You may not realize it, but as a society, humor is one of the most complex lingual processes we engage in on a regular basis.

These little games we play with our children, if handled correctly, are actually learning tools and a barometer of maturation. Besides that, they are just good fun, and I can’t imagine not playing them with my own child.

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      John Hansen 19 months ago from Queensland Australia

      I enjoyed this hub Larry. It brought back some nice memories and offered good advice. My sister and I used to tell our younger brother that mom and dad weren't really his parents, and that the police brought him. He would say that our parents would have told him if that was true. We would rely, no they wouldn't. They just feel sorry for you, and if you are naughty the police will come and take you back. Cruel I know :)

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 19 months ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Larry, humor is definitely a very helpful learning tool for kids. It is also a great tool for learning new languages. Great hub! I am sharing this with HP followers.

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      Larry Rankin 23 months ago from Oklahoma

      Nadine: I'm so glad you enjoyed the article. And yes, I am a father. My little girl celebrates her 1st birthday in a few days.

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      Nadine May 23 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      I loved this hub reading about the humorous and entertaining way about your upbringing. So you are a young father!

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      Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

      Jill and Ms Lizzy: thanks for dropping by. I'm sure you have some great stories. I'd love to hear them.

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      Liz Elias 2 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Hahahaha! And congratulations on what, by now, is a new arrival! Best wishes.

      You are correct; some of those stories kids are told are virtually part of the culture. Everyone has heard at one time or another about fruit seeds and chewing gum and the terrible outcomes should you swallow either. Too funny.

      I had some pretty funny stories, as well, and gee--maybe rather than take up your comment box with them, I should pen a similar hub about my family's pranks. Naturally, with credit for the inspiration!

      Voted up, interesting and funny.

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      Jill Spencer 2 years ago from United States

      An entertaining hub that brought back lots of fond memories of similar silly jokes in our family. Voted up & shared. All the best, Jill

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      Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

      Frozen Ink: always glad to hear about other people's upbringing and how humor affected them. Thanks for the comments.

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      frozenink 2 years ago

      This is a interesting piece. I like the Please Stand By part and the gum story. Personally, I have been fed tonnes of those gum stories. If i swallow any fruit seed, they will grow in my stomach and i will suffer severe pain; If I swallow chewing gum, it will stick to my intestines and I will have to go for surgery. Stuff like that - I am unsure if it helped in my intellectual development, but looking back they definitely serve as fun memories.

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      Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

      Your father had a wonderful imagination. Loved your stories.

      Thanks so much for dropping by

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      Susan Deppner 2 years ago from Arkansas USA

      Great read! My dad has always been a rather quiet soul, but he fooled us plenty of times. I'm still not sure about a few of the claims he made. One I remember is his insistence that there was prune juice in Dr. Pepper. I actually think that's true, but whether it was or not, his occasional splurge of a bottle of Dr. P. was always safe from our little hands. (Prune juice? yuck!) He also told us that legs on one side of the cow are always longer so they can graze on the sides of the hills (we grew up in West Virginia). That I'm pretty sure was not true (okay, I'm positive) but we spent a good amount of time discussing how cows could ever turn around and go the opposite way when the long legs were on the up-hill side. Anyway, I'm thankful for the memories of my dad, a man of few words, laughing with us and I'm very happy that my kids have similar memories from their growing-up years.

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      Larry Rankin 3 years ago from Oklahoma

      FlourishAnyway: Thanks for the response.

      Love your examples of family jokes:)

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      I loved the dog tick trick. Absolutely gross but funny. My dad told me things like regular milk comes from cows and chocolate milk comes from bulls. He now tells that to the grandchildren. Weird stuff but good memories. When you see a heavy person who carries their weight in their stomach area, you need to point to them as proof of the watermelon theory. Congratulations on impending parenthood!