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Advice My Mother Gave Me. We Laid Mother To Rest.

Updated on August 28, 2017
Mother and Me
Mother and Me | Source

She's My Mother

My Mother had lots of advice to give when we were growing up. She didn't always follow her own advice. Her advice was good and I followed most of it and then taught it to my own kids.

It seems like she said no a lot. I can't remember her ever saying be yourself.

She had her own sayings one of them I remember the most was "If I ate s--- you kids would want some." I never forgot that one. I think that was her only swear word.

My youngest sister says she doesn't remember being taught any of this. Maybe by that time Mother gave up.

She did try to raise good kids and I think she did. This hub is all about my mother's best advice.

She had plenty of parenting tips and I may not have remembered them all.

We all love each other and I think that's the best you can hope for with your children.

The Girls
The Girls | Source

Her List of Keeping Clean

Always stay clean. Wear clean underwear.

She did teach me how to take care of my clothes and do the washing. To this day, I have people say to me: "You have the whitest clothes."

Always wear ironed and clean clothes

Always separate your clothes before they're washed never put whites in with dark clothes.

Tide is the only soap that works.

My children are dryer babies they hate ironing. They get their clothes out of the dryer fast and hang them up right away. I was staying at my daughter's house not too long ago. She was going out that evening to an appointment she had. I told her to give me her sweater and I would press it. When she came home she said: “Mom I've never had compliments on this sweater, but tonight I got compliments. The ironing must make a difference.” *Duh*

She never taught me to cook she didn't want her kids in the kitchen except to do the dishes. We did plenty of those. I always made my sister dry. I was the oldest I could do that.

Daddy and Mother
Daddy and Mother | Source

The Advice I Never Forgot.

Don’t pick your nose.

Don't use the word hate.

Don’t fart in public.

Don't point your finger

Take your gum out of your mouth and throw it away if you're going to be talking to someone.

Stop sticking your gum on the bedpost.

Don’t scratch in public.

Be kind to the elderly.

Answer the phone politely and ask for the person's name.

Do not take the Lord's name in vain.

Be kind to everyone.

Don’t pick on anyone.

Stop hitting your sister.

Don’t stare at people especially if they have a disability

Don’t smoke.

Really don’t drink. It’s a sin “her saying.”

Don't kill.

Don't lie and cheat.

Work hard.

Follow the ten commandments.

Don’t dress sexy.

Don’t wear too much make-up.

Follow your instinct

Stay away from touchy men. When I was a teen I once told my mother that I didn't like the man across the street. He seems nice, but there was something about the way he acted. To touchy I thought and always talking to me. I told my mother what I thought and she said she understood what I was talking about. I made sure I stayed clear of him and my parents didn't ask this family to come around after that.

I use to babysit as a teen all the time. I babysit for a nice family and I had babysat often for them. Then one day when I arrived at their house. The man said to me: "I could see you coming down the sidewalk, I saw that pretty little mole on the side of your face." Me to self, "whoa." My antenna went up and I got a creepy feeling.

When they came home I didn't want this man to take me home. I said thanks, I'll walk and took off out the door. Well, there was a parking lot, school, playground and baseball field between their apartment and our apartment, but I could see the lights to our apartment. I had walked many times, M P's went by often and I wasn't worried.

I get to the playground and a man on a bike came out of the playground. I knew he was German and should not be there. He came right up next to me, just riding along beside me, never saying a word. I continued to walk. Got to our apartment and I could see my mom on the third floor sitting at the table. She wouldn't hear me if I yelled. I had a party to go to if I went in the house she would make me stay home. So like a foolish teen I kept going three apartment buildings down to my friend's house when I turned in on her sidewalk. The man said goodnight to me in German. Was he a creep or an angel?

Where were those MP's that night and was I lucky or what? I never babysit for those people again. The man wasn't touchy, but he was weird in my teenage mind.

I think my mother's advice helped me by telling me to go with my instinct if something didn't seem right.

Mother and Her Children
Mother and Her Children | Source

More of her advice.

Don’t marry a Catholic. Didn’t follow that advice.

Go to church.

Don’t talk with a dirty mouth.

Study hard.

Don’t hurt animals.

Never be rude to anyone.

Don't swear.

Don’t be loud.

Don’t talk to strangers.

Don’t get in a stranger’s car.

Don’t talk money to people, your finances are your business, not theirs.

Don't ask friends about their finances

Don't chew with your mouth open.

Don't talk with your mouth full.

Keep your elbows off the table.

Put your napkin on your lap


Wearing White

Wearing white shirts, blouses and sweaters will make you look great and clean.

Keep your canvas tennis shoes white. She still wears canvas shoes and, believe me, they are white.

Don’t wear white until after Memorial Day and not after Labor Day.

Mother and Her Friends
Mother and Her Friends

More Wisdom

Don't spit.

Cover your mouth when you sneeze or cough.

Don't steal if you didn't buy it, it doesn't belong to you.

Family comes first.

Don’t repeat what’s said in the house.

Don’t ask people how much something cost.

Don’t ask for anything when you're at someone’s house.

Keep legs down and off the furniture.

Don’t let boys get away with anything.

If boys call you at the last minute say, NO.

Respect yourself..

Don’t let people walk on you.

Keep your home clean.

Just because you're poor doesn't mean you shouldn't be clean even if it's just with water.

Never walk into someone's home without permission.

Call before visiting.

Get plenty of sleep.

My grandmother, my mother, all my aunts got up every day of their lives made their beds and got dressed.They did this even if they were not feeling well.

I suppose all mother's have given advice. We just can't help it. We're made that way. The last advice I gave my daughter "Don't put your kids in danger by taking them to Cancun."

I'm in my 60s and my mom is still giving me advice, you would think I was three.



We are planning a trip in two cars. A woman recently said she would ride with us and also wanted her friend picked up in another city. Only one person in this group knows this woman and she doesn't know her well.

I thought this was so rude you just don't ask yourself on a trip in someone else's car. The driver of the car had to say no because we need the room and on the way back there may be even less room. This is a fun trip and we should not have to cater to a stranger. If we could have we would have made room.

I told my mother about it and she said "How rude."

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Mother and Her Little Dog
Mother and Her Little Dog

We Laid My Mother To Rest.

We laid my Mother to rest on Saturday May 2, 2015. She would have been 93. We took her to her beloved little town to be buried next to Daddy, in the cemetery with her parents and other family members.

She could be tough and we weren't always happy with her but she raised five good children. She did her best with all of us. She made sure we were always taken care of, fed and clean. She was a military wife and packed us up many times and moved many times.

I wish her life could have been a little happier the last years of her life. I was shocked at how tiny and thin she looked in that big hospice bed.

I won't be back to our little hometown to far to go and nothing to go for now.

She will be dearly missed by all her loved ones.

Funny little lady giving advice. Now my mother would have said don't use bad words.



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    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      rajan jolly, Thank you and thanks so much for stopping by I appreciate it.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      7 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

      This is a lot of good and practical advice. Your mom certainly was a wise woman and mom.

      Voted up, useful and shared.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      rose-the planner, Thank you for stopping by I appreciate it. She is still full of wisdom.

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      rose-the planner 

      7 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Your mother imparted many words of wisdom to her children. It's funny how we appreciate what our mothers taught us even more as we get older. Great story! Thanks for sharing.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      gags3480 , Thank you. Thanks for the visit and for the vote.

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      7 years ago from Kanpur, India

      Mothers are like our shadow & throughout our lives they teach us a lot. Great that you created a hub about such wise advice's. Good Work.

      Voted up & shared.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      vandynegl, Your welcome thanks for coming by.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      tillsontitan, It was different and politeness seem to be very important to them. Thanks so much for stopping and for the vote.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      Paul Kuehn, Thank you for stopping by. My mother turned 92 yesterday. I appreciate the vote and share.

    • vandynegl profile image


      7 years ago from Ohio Valley

      A great list! Thank you for sharing!!

    • tillsontitan profile image

      Mary Craig 

      7 years ago from New York

      I'm glad this was shared so I could find this little gem. Seems like our mothers must've grown up together ;) A generation ago things were so very different. How nice to remember the things we were taught and how polite we were, just saying.

      Voted up, awesome, and interesting.

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 

      7 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand


      I really enjoyed reading this hub and your mother obviously gave you a lot of good advice. My mother also taught me many of the things your mother did. Voted up as very interesting and funny. I'm sharing this with followers.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      Peggy W, She still gives lots of advice. Thanks so much for stopping by. Today I gave her some advice. She was going to order a new bed quilt and pillow shams but decided not to because of her age. She figures she won't be here next year. I told her to live her life and enjoy it and order the quilt.

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      Peggy Woods 

      7 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Revisiting this hub. Your mother was obviously a smart and caring lady. Nice to know that her advice was taken to heart and passed along to others. :)

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      Better Yourself , Thank you and thanks so much for coming by and leaving a comment.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      vespawoolf, Thank you and thanks so much for stopping by. It is nice when mother's can pass out advice that kids listen to. Thanks for the vote and shared.

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      Better Yourself 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Great hub! Lots of good and familiar advice :)

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      Vespa Woolf 

      7 years ago from Peru, South America

      This is valuable advice. Thank you for writing it down for all of us to benefit from. Your mother was a wise woman and she raised you well. It's too bad not all of us have benefited from such motherly suggestions! Voted up and shared.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      PegCole17, Thank for stopping by. I'm glad I did walk home. He had seen me with a boyfriend while on base and had ask me lots of questions about my boyfriend. I thought that was strange too just another creepy feeling from him.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      prasetio30, Thank you and thanks so much for stopping by it was nice to see you.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      torrilynn, Thanks so much for stopping by. I appreciate it. Even at 91 she will ask "how's facebook?"

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      dahoglund, Your right their old days were different from ours. There was some advice my mother gave me that I wouldn't follow in a million years. She is still handing it out it's a little hard now days she just doesn't understand the new generation. Thanks for stopping by.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from America

      Peggy W, Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate it and thanks so much for the votes and sharing.

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      Peg Cole 

      7 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      Your mom is very wise and had a lot of good information to share with you. I think you were right about that man from the babysitting job. He sounds a little too familiar with a young girl. I did some babysitting too and some of the husbands were a bit creepy on the way home. It is good that you went with your instincts in that case.

    • prasetio30 profile image


      7 years ago from malang-indonesia have a great mother. I love her advice. Thanks for writing and share with us. Voted up!


    • torrilynn profile image


      7 years ago


      really great hub that you have here

      i see your mom has given you such great advice

      and that she really cares about you

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      Don A. Hoglund 

      7 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      I often had a hard time understanding some of what my mother said. Now I realize that much of it was because in the "good old days" men and women led different lives. She thought I overdressed because I wore a suit to a job interview.

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      Peggy Woods 

      7 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I can see that your mother gave you some good advice and that she cared about you and how you would turn out which is obviously very well. Keep passing the baton down the generations. Most of this is sage advice and should continue to be shared. I'll do my part with up votes and sharing of this hub. I wish my mother was still alive to hear her advice. I miss it!

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from America

      Maria, Thanks for stopping by. My mother is 90 now and we are seeing that her memory is failing. Thanks for the vote.

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      Maria Jordan 

      8 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      I also like your Momma's views much more than The View...!

      I love reading about Mothers and the wisdom they have imparted on us.

      Your Momma taught you well, my friend. This is UP and all the others!

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from America

      I Am Rosa, Thanks for stopping by. My mother could come up with some good ones. I actually do have a hub about my washer and there is only one thing I use on my whites and I never use fabric softener unless I absolutely have to. It clings to clothes and doesn't let the soap get into the fabric.

      Thanks for leaving a comment.

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      Rosa Marchisella 

      8 years ago from Canada

      Excellent advice.

      Love this one: "If boys call you at the last minute say, NO." Wish my mom would have told me this one. It goes hand-in-hand with respecting yourself. I actually use this with my brother, along with "Call before visiting" in an effort to get him to respect me and my time ...

      Now ... do you have a hub on keeping those whites nice and bright, because that's a secret that seems to have been lost!

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America


      Thanks for visiting my hub and for the vote. I know ironing is something my kids hate also. I'm not even sure if they know how. They always had me to do it for them.

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      Kelly Pittman 

      9 years ago from South Louisiana

      My MoM taught me the same things. I don't even think she realizes just how much of it stuck with me. Except the ironing, I still can't iron. If I have something that requires pressing, I'll take it my Momma. Voted up and beautiful, because all moms are.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America


      Thanks for visiting my hub. I was always a worry wart so I always worried over everything she said. My daughter was the same way. She has a daughter just like us.

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      9 years ago

      Makes sense that your sister doesn't remember the advice. My mom gave different advice to me and allof my siblings because we were all different. I hope my son remembers my words as much as you remember your mom's

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America


      Thanks for stopping by. I guess all mother's give the same advice. Glad you enjoyed the hub.

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      9 years ago

      A nice Hub that reminds me of when my mom gave me the same advice.

      I really enjoy this page!

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      kvargas816, Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. I forgot the one about the car my mother also gave me that advice. We also had don't talk to strangers.

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      9 years ago from New York, NY

      Its so funny to read this because I think everyones mom or grandmother has instilled this same advice (with a few additions of their own) to their children. Ive gotten a few of these especially the clean underwear, respect yourself and dont get into a strangers car. Although I never did get why we could never wear white after Labor day but I guess now that I read it being because of winter colors vs summer colors it makes more sense. Great Hub!

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Movie Master, that was funny she taught us that and then I also taught my kids that. I guess I figured it wasn't the neighbors business what we were talking about.

      I once had a neighbor kid walk up to me and say "My Dad says you have our ladder."

      We didn't have their ladder it was ours we had to prove it by the paint color that was on it.

      The kid had repeated what he heard in the house. His parents were embarrassed.

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      Movie Master 

      9 years ago from United Kingdom

      Hi moonlake, don't repeat what's said in the house, I love it that just sounds so old fashioned, your Mother had some wonderful standards, really enjoyed your hub thank you.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Seeker7, thanks for stopping by my and for your vote. She is a character.

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      Helen Murphy Howell 

      9 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      Great hub. Your Mum was obviously a star and a wonderful charcter. I really loved this hub! Voted up.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Mark Bronze thank you and thanks for leaving a comment.

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      Mark Bronze 

      9 years ago

      Your mother sure had some pearls of wisdom to impart. Brings back good memories too. Very nice hub, well presented.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Nell Rose, Thanks for stopping by. I think all mother's must tell their children that and it's really a good idea.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      ShanMarie87 I think your right. I know our youngest son didn't have to follow as many rules. The older kids say he's spoiled. I know my sister was spoiled. Haha If she reads this she'll kill me.

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      Nell Rose 

      9 years ago from England

      Hi, my mum always said always wear clean undies in case you had an accident! doesn't matter whether you have a broken leg, but your undies are more important! ha ha great advice from you mother, cheers nell

    • ShanMarie87 profile image


      9 years ago from USA

      Like your sister, my younger siblings don't seem to have to follow nearly as many rules as I did growing up. I think that's always how it goes-more is always required of the older children.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Thanks jpcmc for stopping by. My parents were from the south and have always believed you don't marry outside your religion. We even had a chaplain on the military base that said we shouldn't get married because we were different religion. We married anyway without him. It will be 49 years in the fall. He's Catholic our kids are Catholic.

      She gave lots of advise but some was not always right.

    • moonlake profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from America

      Cardisa, Thanks for reading my hug. Oh, she's still alive and still giving advise.

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      JP Carlos 

      9 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      Wear clean underwear - I'll remember that. LOL

      Lots of sensible advice, although some need explanation. Why not marry a Catholic?

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      Carolee Samuda 

      9 years ago from Jamaica

      Hi Moonlake, your mother was trying to raise the ideal child and I can see she succeeded.

      These are great notes your children should read.

      God bless your mother wherever she may be, and God bless you too.


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