- Family and Parenting
Advice My Mother Gave Me. We Laid Mother To Rest.
She's My Mother
My Mother had lots of advice to give when we were growing up. She didn't always follow her own advice. Her advice was good and I followed most of it and then taught it to my own kids.
It seems like she said no a lot. I can't remember her ever saying be yourself.
She had her own sayings one of them I remember the most was "If I ate s--- you kids would want some." I never forgot that one. I think that was her only swear word.
My youngest sister says she doesn't remember being taught any of this. Maybe by that time Mother gave up.
She did try to raise good kids and I think she did. This hub is all about my mother's best advice.
She had plenty of parenting tips and I may not have remembered them all.
We all love each other and I think that's the best you can hope for with your children.
Her List of Keeping Clean
Always stay clean. Wear clean underwear.
She did teach me how to take care of my clothes and do the washing. To this day, I have people say to me: "You have the whitest clothes."
Always wear ironed and clean clothes
Always separate your clothes before they're washed never put whites in with dark clothes.
Tide is the only soap that works.
My children are dryer babies they hate ironing. They get their clothes out of the dryer fast and hang them up right away. I was staying at my daughter's house not too long ago. She was going out that evening to an appointment she had. I told her to give me her sweater and I would press it. When she came home she said: “Mom I've never had compliments on this sweater, but tonight I got compliments. The ironing must make a difference.” *Duh*
She never taught me to cook she didn't want her kids in the kitchen except to do the dishes. We did plenty of those. I always made my sister dry. I was the oldest I could do that.
The Advice I Never Forgot.
Don’t pick your nose.
Don't use the word hate.
Don’t fart in public.
Don't point your finger
Take your gum out of your mouth and throw it away if you're going to be talking to someone.
Stop sticking your gum on the bedpost.
Don’t scratch in public.
Be kind to the elderly.
Answer the phone politely and ask for the person's name.
Do not take the Lord's name in vain.
Be kind to everyone.
Don’t pick on anyone.
Stop hitting your sister.
Don’t stare at people especially if they have a disability
Really don’t drink. It’s a sin “her saying.”
Don't lie and cheat.
Follow the ten commandments.
Don’t dress sexy.
Don’t wear too much make-up.
Follow your instinct
Stay away from touchy men. When I was a teen I once told my mother that I didn't like the man across the street. He seems nice, but there was something about the way he acted. To touchy I thought and always talking to me. I told my mother what I thought and she said she understood what I was talking about. I made sure I stayed clear of him and my parents didn't ask this family to come around after that.
I use to babysit as a teen all the time. I babysit for a nice family and I had babysat often for them. Then one day when I arrived at their house. The man said to me: "I could see you coming down the sidewalk, I saw that pretty little mole on the side of your face." Me to self, "whoa." My antenna went up and I got a creepy feeling.
When they came home I didn't want this man to take me home. I said thanks, I'll walk and took off out the door. Well, there was a parking lot, school, playground and baseball field between their apartment and our apartment, but I could see the lights to our apartment. I had walked many times, M P's went by often and I wasn't worried.
I get to the playground and a man on a bike came out of the playground. I knew he was German and should not be there. He came right up next to me, just riding along beside me, never saying a word. I continued to walk. Got to our apartment and I could see my mom on the third floor sitting at the table. She wouldn't hear me if I yelled. I had a party to go to if I went in the house she would make me stay home. So like a foolish teen I kept going three apartment buildings down to my friend's house when I turned in on her sidewalk. The man said goodnight to me in German. Was he a creep or an angel?
Where were those MP's that night and was I lucky or what? I never babysit for those people again. The man wasn't touchy, but he was weird in my teenage mind.
I think my mother's advice helped me by telling me to go with my instinct if something didn't seem right.
More of her advice.
Don’t marry a Catholic. Didn’t follow that advice.
Go to church.
Don’t talk with a dirty mouth.
Don’t hurt animals.
Never be rude to anyone.
Don’t be loud.
Don’t talk to strangers.
Don’t get in a stranger’s car.
Don’t talk money to people, your finances are your business, not theirs.
Don't ask friends about their finances
Don't chew with your mouth open.
Don't talk with your mouth full.
Keep your elbows off the table.
Put your napkin on your lap
Wearing white shirts, blouses and sweaters will make you look great and clean.
Keep your canvas tennis shoes white. She still wears canvas shoes and, believe me, they are white.
Don’t wear white until after Memorial Day and not after Labor Day.
Cover your mouth when you sneeze or cough.
Don't steal if you didn't buy it, it doesn't belong to you.
Family comes first.
Don’t repeat what’s said in the house.
Don’t ask people how much something cost.
Don’t ask for anything when you're at someone’s house.
Keep legs down and off the furniture.
Don’t let boys get away with anything.
If boys call you at the last minute say, NO.
Don’t let people walk on you.
Keep your home clean.
Just because you're poor doesn't mean you shouldn't be clean even if it's just with water.
Never walk into someone's home without permission.
Call before visiting.
Get plenty of sleep.
My grandmother, my mother, all my aunts got up every day of their lives made their beds and got dressed.They did this even if they were not feeling well.
I suppose all mother's have given advice. We just can't help it. We're made that way. The last advice I gave my daughter "Don't put your kids in danger by taking them to Cancun."
I'm in my 60s and my mom is still giving me advice, you would think I was three.
We are planning a trip in two cars. A woman recently said she would ride with us and also wanted her friend picked up in another city. Only one person in this group knows this woman and she doesn't know her well.
I thought this was so rude you just don't ask yourself on a trip in someone else's car. The driver of the car had to say no because we need the room and on the way back there may be even less room. This is a fun trip and we should not have to cater to a stranger. If we could have we would have made room.
I told my mother about it and she said "How rude."
Would You Have Taken The Woman Along?
We Laid My Mother To Rest.
We laid my Mother to rest on Saturday May 2, 2015. She would have been 93. We took her to her beloved little town to be buried next to Daddy, in the cemetery with her parents and other family members.
She could be tough and we weren't always happy with her but she raised five good children. She did her best with all of us. She made sure we were always taken care of, fed and clean. She was a military wife and packed us up many times and moved many times.
I wish her life could have been a little happier the last years of her life. I was shocked at how tiny and thin she looked in that big hospice bed.
I won't be back to our little hometown to far to go and nothing to go for now.
She will be dearly missed by all her loved ones.
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Funny little lady giving advice. Now my mother would have said don't use bad words.