Are You Still Being the Overly Strict Parent?

Are you an overly strict parent at an older age?

Are you the child sitting at home and not going out with friends?

Are your parents or parents getting on your nerves?

Are you the child who is often left out of your friend's parties?

Trusting your child is difficult. Every child is different and should be treated with love, care and respect.

Any teenager requires an honest attitude from their parents. There is never a right or wrong time for any conversation with your child.

''Not now, I don't have the time.''

Often the phrase is heard by many parents.

When you use such words, your child is pushed to another level and can feel like an outsider. Parenting is tough if the parent sees it that way. A sense of direction is important.

For example:

A woman married at a very young age and had three daughters and two sons. The daughters did not make her the happiest. The sons were her priority.

Having three daughters made the woman feel disappointed. The overly strict parenting ideas did not work out for her, or for the daughters.

This woman had planned the lives of her daughters from the moment they reached their teen years. Unfortunately, none of these girls followed their mother's plan.

In turn, the mother lost interest in her daughters. The mother wanted her girls the life that she never had. Planning another person’s life is not a good idea.

Individuals can think for themselves. No matter what one plans nothing can be changed as you wish for it to be.

I won't allow anyone to think for me, or do for me, if I can do, I must follow through with my goals. Taking away privileges from teens doesn't make parenting any easier.

Communication is key in any relationship including a parent and child relationship. Too many restrictions spoil the relationships between child and parent.

Allowing your child freedom at a very young age is the beginning of a well-disciplined individual.

A child needs freedom, but only when there is a fair amount of understanding between the parent and child.

Don’t lose interest in your child after their first mistake. One learns from all mistakes.

It is easy to yell at your child, think twice before you get into that mood. You were in that situation so now try to change that old trait. If you have trust issues from your past don't bring them into your parenting.

Start now and don’t make the same mistakes your parents made with you.

Change is good for you!

Most people don't like change but try to go with the flow. Modern times have given children more leash and you are still living in the time that suits you best.

Old-fashioned parents feel their way is better in parenting than modern parenting, and that makes parenting even harder to cope with.

When you don't understand modern times parenting can be tough. Whether you have a four-year-old son or daughter treat your child alike.

No child in any family can be the same. You as the parent should love your children no matter what. Too many rules can ruin family relationships.

Even to this day, parenting feels like a nightmare for many overly strict parents. Sometimes the threats you make can make your child hate you.

Think about your threats before making any. Overly protective parents can be annoying.

Repeating themselves over and over to their child about going out, when to get back home, and dos and don’ts.

A young woman in her twenties shouldn't be treated like a five-year-old. It may sound weird if a twenty-something-year-old is still living with their parents.

It could be for the following reasons:

• Culture.
• Financial reasons.
• Safety.
• Being the youngest child can be another reason.
• A woman living on her own in some violent places is not a good choice.
• Parents are mostly overly strict with their daughters.
• Going out is like a crime.

• Why overly strict parenting can cause bad behaviours in children?

• You may think the stricter you are the more disciplined your child will be, but you are wrong!
• When parents are showing rules and a stricter attitude, they are pushing their children away.
• Too many restrictions are depriving your child of life itself.
• It shows too much control.
• A child who is often yelled at sees life differently from a child who has not been yelled at.
• The more you choose to yell at your child the child will become aggressive, and yell at others in public places.
• They eventually become bullies.
• Showing authority in raising your child is not how you should go about parenting.
• Teenagers become lonely and feel left out of reality.
• Any child would feel driven over the edge with such overly strict parents.
• Children raised with overly strict parents don't take on responsibility very well.
• A strictly parented child shows resentment and anger.

For example:

An individual who does not follow through with their chosen diet would instead eat when they are not supposed to.

Obesity gradually increases in troubled families.

Do you think your overly strict tips would allow your child to be the most disciplined?

The overly strict parents don't see how wrong they are in their steps.

Strictly raising a child allows for telling lies. Your child will get up to mischief when you are not around.

They wait for you to be out of sight before getting into trouble. In the presence of you, they will be such angels.

Everything will seem good on the surface. Most overly strict parents want the best for their children but, with such authority, they are doing is ruining the parent and child relationships.

The fact that strict parenting causes hard management, and dissatisfied relationships between children and parents, is difficult to cope with, in many families. You want to raise your child the way you were raised.

The constant arguing and trying to see right from wrong can make both child and parent most unhappy.

When a child gets older, they find love in troubled places, and with troubled individuals.

The child feels restricted all the time and wants to get out of that circle.

The only way out is to find someone to feel loved and that can be anyone the parent disapproves of.

Most parents don't understand the reasons why all of this happens and continue to blame their children for their wrongdoings.

Overly strict parenting doesn't show the best-behaved children.

What happens to children when raised by overly strict parents?

• Everything a child thinks and feels leads to a negative mental block.
• The child feels down and depressed.
• The child fails in achieving goals.
• When the parent constantly tells you what to do rather than guide you that is not good parenting.

There comes a time when you must let go and let be!

• A child must take responsibility for their actions at some point in their lives.
• No parent can always be there for their child.
• Mistakes are meant to be made and learned from throughout your lives.
• If you are looking for perfection forget it!
• Sometimes one of the parents has a better understanding than the other.