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Are you still being the Overly Strict Parent?

Updated on November 8, 2016
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Are you still the Overly Strict Parents?

Are you the one sitting at home and not going out with friends?

Are your parents or parent getting on your nerves?

Are you the child who is often left out from your friend's parties?

Trusting your child is difficult.

Every child is different and should be treated with love, care and respect.

Any teenager requires the honest attitude from their parents. Be to the point and open up easily.

There is never a right or wrong time for any conversation with your child.

''Not now, I don't have the time.''

Often the line heard from many parents.

When you use such words your child is pushed to another level, and can feel as an outsider.

If not now then when?

Parenting is tough if the parent sees it in that way.

The sense of direction is important.

For example:

A woman married at a very young age and had three daughters and two sons.

The daughters did not make her the happiest. The sons were her priority.

Having three daughters made the woman feel disappointed.

The overly strict parenting ideas did not work out for her, or for the daughters.

This woman had planned the lives of her daughters the moment they reached their teen years.

A sad situation!

Unfortunately, none of these girls followed their mother's plan.

In turn the mother lost interest in her daughters.

The mother wanted for her girls the life that she never had.

Planning another person’s life is not a good idea.

Individuals are capable of thinking for themselves. No matter what one plans nothing can be changed as you wish for it to be.

I won't allow any one to think for me, or do for me, as long as I am able to do, I have to follow through my goals.

Taking away privileges from teens don't make the parenting any easier.

Communication is key.

Too many restrictions spoils the relationships between child and parent.

Allowing your child freedom at a very young age is not the answer to a well-disciplined individual.

A child needs freedom but only when there is a fair amount of understanding between the parent and child.

Don’t lose interest in your child after their first mistake.

One learns from all mistakes.

It is easy to yell at your child.

Think twice before you get into that mood.

You were once in that situation so now try to change that old traits.

If you have trust issues from your past don't bring that on in your weak parenting.

Start all new and don’t make the same mistakes your parents made with you.

Change is good for you!

Most people don't like change but try go with the flow.

Modern times have given children more leash and you are still living in the time that suits you best.

Old-fashioned parents want to stay in their own worlds and that makes parent even harder to cope with.

When you don't understand the modern times parenting can be tough.

Whether you have a four year old son or daughter treat your child alike.

No child in any family can be the same. You as the parent should love your children no matter what.

Too many rules can ruin family relationships.

Even to this day parenting feels a nightmare for many overly strict parents.

Sometimes the threats you make can make your child hate you.

Think about your threats before making any.

Overly protective parents can be annoying.

Repeating themselves over and over to their child about going out, when to get back home, and dos and don’t 's.

A young woman in her twenties shouldn't be treated like a five year old.

It may sound weird if a twenty something year old is still living with their parents.

It could be for the following reasons:

Culture.

Financial reasons.

Safety.

Being the youngest child can be another reason.

A woman living on her own in some violent places is not a good choice.

Parents are mostly overly strict with their daughters.

Going out is like a crime.

Why overly strict parenting can cause bad behaviors in children?

You may think the stricter you are the more disciplined your child will be, you are wrong!

When parents are showing rules and a stricter attitude they are pushing their child away.

The too many restrictions are depriving your child of life itself.

It shows too much of control.

A child who is often yelled at sees life differently from the child who has not been yelled at.

The more you choose to yell at your child that child would become aggressive, and yell at others in public places.

They eventually become bullies.

Showing authority in raising your child is not how you should go about parenting.

Teenagers become lonely and feel left out from reality.

Any child would feel driven over the edge with such overly strict parents.

Children raised with overly strict parents don't take on responsibility very well.

A strictly parented child shows resentment and anger.

For example:

An individual who does not follow through their chosen diet would instead eat when they are not supposed to.

This allows for obesity.

Do you think your overly strict tips would allow for your child to be the most disciplined?

The overly strict parents don't see how wrong they are in their own steps.

Raising a child in a strict way allows for telling lies. Your child will get up to mischief when you are not around.

They wait for you to be out of sight before getting into trouble. In the presence of you they will be such angels.

All will seem good on the surface.

Most overly strict parents want the best for their children but, with such authority they are doing is ruining the parent and child relationships.

The fact that strict parenting causes hard managements, and dissatisfied relationships with child and parent, it is far more difficult to cope with in many families.

You want to raise your child the way you were raised.

Get over it times have changed!

The constant arguing and trying to see right from wrong can make both child and parent most unhappy.

In such cases when the child gets older they find love in the troubled places, and with troubled individuals.

Why does this happen?

The child feels restricted all the time, and wants to get out of that circle.

The only way out is to find someone to feel loved and that can be anyone the parent disapproves of.

Most parents don' t understand the reasons for why all of this happens and continues to blame their child for their wrong doing.

The overly strict parenting doesn't show the best behaved children.

What happens to children when raised with overly strict parents?

Everything a child thinks and feels leads to a negative mental block.

The child feels down and depressed.

The child fails in achieving goals.

When the parent constantly tells you what to do rather than guide you that is not good parenting.

There comes a time when you have to let go and let be!

A child has to take responsibility of their own actions at some point in their lives.

No parent can be there for their child at all times.

Mistakes are meant to be made and learned from through out your lives.

If you are looking for perfect forget it!

Sometimes one of the parent has a better understanding than the other.

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      Devika Primić 22 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi poetryman6959 each individual should think for themselves. Parenting may never end for some parents but when you look around you see how others choose to be that puts many thoughts into ones minds. One needs to show responsibility and trust to become their true-self. You are not always wrong if others think so. An interesting comment thank you

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      poetryman6969 22 months ago

      When I look around the world I see there are entire cultures where the lives of young people are rigidly controlled and the consequences for stepping out of line can be harsh and even violent.

      In United States we have been far too permissive for far too long. My chief evidence for this is the college students who are saying in effect that if their feelings are hurt then they must be right in what they are saying and doing however harmful or foolish what they are saying are doing is. We appear to have a generation that is totally ill equipped to deal with the real world. Most of us most of the time do not get to have everything our own way. It's horrifying to see that we have some college students who seem think they have been greatly wronged if a authority figures says: "No."

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      Devika Primić 23 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader So nice of you to stopped by here I appreciate your comments. Thank you.

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      jtrader 23 months ago

      Good to see you DDE,

      You've given us a lot to think about here.

      Parenting is not an easy job.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi peachpurple you are not the bad one. You are just being a concerned parent thank you for stopping by.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      I always rush my kids to finish their homework. Am i thebad one?

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      pstraubie48 thank you very much for sharing your comment here. I appreciate your kindness.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan, You are so right! Thank you for sharing your valuable comment.

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      So many important points you have made DDE ....when my daughter was growing up from age 9, I was a single parent. So I learned to be the best I could be....did I make mistakes? yes. But I learned to try to balance my wishes for her with wisdom I learned from others, especially my parents.

      Thanks for sharing this with us. Angels are on the way ps

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Interesting and insightful hub!

      I have never been overly strict parent or should I say I did not need to be. I have always believed that children follow and imitate their parents. The best way to teach them good habits or good manners is by setting good standards and examples yourself.

      A very well written hub and useful for parents. Thank you!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell Rose I am blessed with a 22 year old that respects us and was able to be responsible from his teen years. That is rare as I have observed the teens around my neighborhood and haven't yet seen anyone like my one. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      Interesting stuff DDE no, I think I was a pretty cool parent, only putting my foot down when he was really bad. Mind you he was quite quiet when he was small so I didn't need to yell and scream, but some parents are not so lucky, great read!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      georgescifo thank you very much for sharing your tip here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L, so kind of you to stop by. I appreciate your comment. I believe the too strict tip is not the answer. All my best to you. Thank you

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      georgescifo 2 years ago from India

      I am not a strict parent, but tend to take action when kids are going in the wrong direction.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      hello Devika, this is a complex subject which you have covered very well in your professional, no nonsense manner. Parenting as always been a two way thing and it has always been difficult to balance discipline with the love children need to grow into young adults with a clear outlook on life. I think here in the west the whole cycle has changed from being to strict to becoming far from strict enough. A lot of children today know no other way but their own and rebel against any alternative way. Great article, well done.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      travel_man1971 thank you for a true and helpful comment so glad you stopped by.

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      Ireno Alcala 2 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      Family is the basic institution of every country. Its upbringing will bring the country's image into world's attention.

      Thank you for this very enlightening hub. Parenting is a lifelong but a satisfying career in our lives.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Cris Sp thank you for sharing your views here always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AudreyHowitt thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko Thank you for sharing your experience. I was not strict with my son and he is grown into a well-mannered young man and so much more. We learn from our mistakes and know when to let go. I appreciate you comment. All my best to you.

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      CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      My parents weren't that strict with me and so, I guess I inherited that trait. I allowed my daughters their free will provided they are not doing anything immoral. I also have an "open-door" policy in the house and I mean literally, open door. :)

      Good, useful hub for parents and parents-to-be.

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Devika, this is useful, and interesting. I made a lot of mistakes raising my 2 sons, but I did my best and I am proud of the men they became and I hope they have forgiven me for anything they resented that I did or said.

      Blessings and Hugs

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      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      I think parenting is on my brain today--it takes a lot to be a good enough parent

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sujaya venkatesh thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you greatly for stopping by take care now!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      denise.w.anderson thank you for sharing your thoughts here.I so agree with your comment.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you for stopping by always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MarleneB thank you for sharing your opinion here it is always interesting to know what others feel about such topics.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Well said. Me too more of a lamb myself. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello word55 my parents are overly strict and now that I have a younger sister at home I feel for what she had to go through even in the time of today. I was not overly strict with my son and he has grown into a pleasant young man. Well-disciplined. Thank you for stopping by.

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      sujaya venkatesh 2 years ago

      attention is required at every stage

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      "Too many rules can ruin family relationships." Well said, Devika. Family life should be very different from army life.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Being a parent is the most difficult job we will ever have! Each child is different, and we have to try different things to see what helps with that child. Rebellion can happen when we are overly strict and when we are too lenient. It is important for us to assess our parenting often to see where we are currently at with our children. As we do so, we can make adjustments to help things be better.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      My son will tell you that I was too protective, and I probably was. Great tips...

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      Marlene Bertrand 2 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I enjoy the tips you provide to help people understand and become better parents. I grew up with overly strict parents and I think that had some influence in making me a strict, but not overly strict parent myself.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm sure my son thought he had a strict parent, but compared to my parents, I was a lamb as a parent. :)

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      This was very encouraging Devika. Job well done. thanks for sharing!