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Become a Positive Person and be Contented

Updated on November 14, 2015

This is a subject I'm very Familiar with

This is a subject with which I am very familiar.

Why? Because, I had to learn how to become a positive person. It was a long - learning procedure and took years for me to overcome the hopeless negative feelings I had. Garden of Contentment eBook: Jeanne Hoback: Kindle Store
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Be Positive

Now, I am a ‘positive’ person and I would like to share with you how you can become positive.

It's easy to do and doesn't take a lot of time.

It’s learning a new procedure, day by day. It’s re-programming yourself to look at a brighter side of life. It’s learning a new habit, one that will see you through in hard times and in low times.

It is one day at a time and there will be times it is from moment to moment, especially if you encounter a negative person who brings you down.

It’s staying on top of these feelings of negativeness and turning them around to being a positive feeling.

Living in Fear

I lived in fear; fear of what people were saying, fear of going anywhere; fear of meeting people; fear of failing; fear that I wasn’t good enough; fear of rejection, fear of disappointing people.

It’s a terrible thing to have to live with fear and self-rejection. It’s demoralizing, and makes you feel it’s hopeless to look forward to anything special or nice.

It was a long journey to figure out how to overcome these feelings that should not claim a single person.

No one has to feel or live this way. Stay with me and I will show you how to overcome these fears and become the person you want to be.

I wrote this self-help book, because I do not feel anyone has to live their life feeling miserable, bitter, resentful or have fear.

I want you to join me in my "Garden of Contentment" and have contentment throughout the rest of your life - just as I am enjoying.


Knowing a Positive Person

I knew that there were people who thought differently than me, because I married one. He was a person who saw good things in everyone he met.

Of course, I didn’t believe him! How could anyone see something good in every person?

Where did he come from and whom was he kidding?

I started believing him, when he saw good in people, of whom I couldn’t like or respect.
When things went wrong, he turned them into positive experiences.

He turned negative happenings into a positive experience and taught me there are new ways to think, grow and develop when you experience life's tragedies.


I was astounded at his perception and positive outlook – I wanted to be like that.
But, how does one go about this?

  • This was something that took a long time to figure out.

There was no internet at that time, so I searched out magazines, pamphlets and books. I read every book I could on positiveness and how to improve yourself.

I can honestly say none were helpful in ‘teaching’ me to learn how to become positive. But, they were a good source to see that there was hope in changing to become a positive person, they just didn’t say “How” to do this.

You would be surprised at how many said to ‘think’ the word positive and you would become positive. I can tell you this did not work, nor do I recommend it. You don’t go to bed thinking the word “positive” and wake up in the morning and you have made a dramatic change.

“It just does not work that way”.

One Step at a Time

What I found out is, you start at the beginning one step at a time and build step by step, much like climbing a ladder. Once you reach that step you climb up one more step.

You start each day with a goal for that day, until you reach your top goal.

I found out, when you try to start a new habit it takes a minimum of 90 days to make a change.
And I mean a continuous 90 days without a break.

Learning how to become positive takes time, patience and practice.

It takes effort and a desire to accomplish this goal.

This is not something you do for a few days and decide to take a break or decide you are already good enough or you don’t have the time.


You are making a life-changing pattern. You do this ‘each and every day’ for the rest of your life.

Is this hard? Nope!

I look forward to this every single day.

It’s something that makes me feel like I’m on the top of the world looking down on myself with pride and pleasure.

It takes very little time, and it is such a rush that it’s addictive and something that I not only love to do, but look forward to this time and I do this several times a day.

Why? It only takes a minute to do, and the feeling and result is so rewarding that I only wish I had discovered this when I was young.

It’s something that I have accomplished, because now I do have self-assurance, self-confidence, self-esteem and self-confidence. I have contentment! Contentment as the dictionary says: the condition of being content, or satisfied with things as they are.

This is more precious than anything I can think of.

Are you satisfied?

I ask you: How satisfied are you? Can you say you are contented?

Contentment is better than happiness, because happiness is a fleeting feeling, something that you can’t grasp or feel for long.

But contentment – aah – this is something worth having.


I wish I could tell you just how to become contented, as I am, in a few words, but - I can’t. It takes more words and your time. I can tell you that you can do this, with exactly 10 minutes of your time every day (to start off with) to become more positive and contented. But, you have to want and desire this and you have to comment to doing this each day.

There are several things you can do.

  • One: stay away from negative experiences and negative people.
  • Two: Think positive thoughts, say positive things, give compliments, and give hugs.
  • Three: Be kind to that special person in your life – You!
  • Four: Be cheerful – cheerfulness is catching.
  • Five: Smile: smiles are free and are contagious.
  • Six: Give hugs, for you give more than you receive.
  • Seven: My book “Garden of Contentment” shows you how to become positive in 90 days.

Help is Available

I will gladly help anyone who wants to become more positive. No more bitterness, no more resentfulness, just think you can be that self-assured, prideful person you want to become.
You can be satisfied and put sunshine in your life.

  1. You will be smiling more often, and you will see people smile back at you.
  2. Yep, you too can find your own “Garden of Contentment” just as I have.
  3. Yes, you will be that person everyone wants to be with.

Want to join me?

Go to the my link below to download my day to day instruction book.

I make it interesting, fun and you won't want to miss a day.

For a short time my book is available for free, check it out.


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      Jeanne Hoback 2 years ago from Rapid City, SD

      Thank you

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      Elena 2 years ago from London, UK

      Thanks for an inspiring and positive Hub. I enjoyed reading it.