Being Involved In Your Kids Life Matters
Leaving a marriage shouldnt mean leaving your kids
I'm sharing this for any Dads out there who "checked out". Maybe its not too late for you to try harder. Think.
I'm also sharing it for all you Dads and Moms who stayed in your kids lives even if you couldn't hack staying married to the other parent and even if being there only meant stopping by once a week or a weekly check and phone call, it beats nothing.
I'm sharing it for all the parents who were able to find a partner, have a kid or two or three or more and who managed to fight their way thru all the crap that comes with marriage, kids, LIFE! and who woke up one day facing grownup kids who succeeded despite the fact that you were sure that you had screwed it, and them, up so badly that you considered the witness protection program in case they did something awful.
This is also for you Mom's and Dad's who married someone with an already made family and while you may have been scared shitless, you stuck it out and learned and grew and love happened. Love isn't always defined by sharing blood. Love happens after all the middle of the nights when a kid was throwing up and love happens when you realize that even though you didn't give this kid life, you gave him love and acceptance. And love is what cements a family no matter who makes up that family.
And this is also for you, the Mom or Dad who stayed to pick up the pieces after your ex left. Thank God for you. Because of you, and despite the hurt of feeling abandoned, your child (s) has a shot at having a normal, productive, happy life and chances are good that your example will be what guides them as adults and ultimately.... as parents themselves some day.
Little girls and little boys need their Daddy's.
- An Open Letter To The First Man Who Never Loved Me | The Odyssey
I'm sorry. I thank you. I hope you're happy.