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Being a young mother, or being pregnant at a young age....
Love our children
Being a young mother can be difficult, but can be done. There are all sorts of different feelings, and changes we go through with this situation. First there is the reality of becoming a mother, then there are all of the other aspects that come to mind. Finishing school, how and if your ready for a baby, how can you take care of the baby, and what type of relationship you and the father have? Being a young mother of three at the age of 27 and had my first when I was 18, I am here to tell you that you can overcome all obstacles. I will not say that you should go out here and form pacts with your friends to get pregnant, what I am saying is that if this were to happen, you can get through this. There are all sorts of resources out here to help. I'm not just talking about financial support, which is important, but I'm saying support from therapist, schools, you name it. I know that there will come a time when you are alone with your baby and you think of everything that has happened. You break down and cry, and you just can't seem to get things together or down the right track. Well, seek help, find someone you trust to express your feelings. Talk with your parents, and let them know that there are things on your mind. The older generation has been there and done that, they know every bit of what you may be going through. I will say that there will be times when your parents tell you things that you don't want to hear, but remember they are telling you these things because they love you, no harm in that. Continue to strive for the best, prepare for baby, and think positive on this long journey you are about to take on. Nothing is impossible.
Love your life
Knowing that there is a baby on the way, would be the first obstacle to get over. Planning for a baby would be second. Buying baby clothes and every other needs is costly, and you should prepare for that as well. Since you are a teen and money may be short, there are ways to save. Open a savings account for you and your baby. I realize that you may be too young, so speak with your parents to come up with a plan. Also, work on coming up with a plan to work during the summer while your not in school. This would help with saving money for your newborn, and for your needs as well. Stay focused and determined to provide and give your best to your child because that baby needs you no matter the circumstances. Also remember, love from your newborn will be like no other love and you may be a little antsy at times, but the look in their little eyes will overcome all of that.
In the End, Love Yourself and Baby
As much as you may want to break down and cry, you should. Crying can be cleansing, and it is better to let go of all the pain rather than holding it in. Being a teen mother, you sometimes blame yourself, or your just disappointed with some of your actions. I understand, that feeling but soon after you have to continue loving yourself no matter the mistakes you may have made. The love you have for your baby, and the love that the baby gives back can be no greater. Tell yourself each and everyday that you can do it, and be strong for you and baby.