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Benefits of Having Children After 30

Updated on August 30, 2011

Being A Younger Or Older Mummy / Mommy?

As a subject very relevant to me, I feel quite strongly about the concept of having children over 30. I'm in my early thirties now and though I don't currently have children, I can certainly relay the benefits of waiting until you are over 30 to start a family.

I was born to a woman who was 39 when she had me. My mum didn't choose to have a baby later in life, it was just what nature intended. As a child growing into a teenager, I was adamant that I would never have children.

At 18 I saw my best friend of the same age fall pregnant from a split condom. There was never any question about keeping the baby, as in the 7 years that I had known her, I knew that all she really wanted was a big family. Her mother had given birth to her older brother at 17 and her at 19. I admired her for being so maternal, but at the same time I thought she was crazy to commit to such a huge responsibility at such a young age.

Her boyfriend left her 2 weeks after the baby was born, and like her mum before her, she was now a young single mother.

No To Babies!

I was brought up in a very stable family life. My parents had been married for 17 years when they had me, and at school I was very much an outcast in terms of having a traditional family. Most of the kids I went to school with were from single parent families, with much younger parents then mine.

A year after my best friend gave birth, my oldest friend whom I had known since I was 5, gave birth too. Again, I admired the fact that my friends were mothers, but I personally couldn't understand why they would choose such a life changing path so young.

From my teenage years until my late 20's you could say that I saw life. I was heavily involved with the music industry and I certainly made the most of it. While I was travelling around on tours and partying hard, my two closest friends were stay at home mums with 6 kids between them. I didn't get it. I knew that they were great mums and that they were happy with their decisions, but I thought they missed out on a lot of different life experiences.

When Everything Changed

When I was 28 I met my match. Completely out of the blue I met the most wonderful person whom I pretty much instantly fell madly in love with. And that's when everything changed. I gave up my career in music, quit partying quite so hard and settled down. That's when I started thinking about having children. Then I went from thinking, to wanting.

From a little girl I had always said, no children! To be honest, I'm not terribly maternal in terms of other people's children. I don't see babies and want to pick them up and cuddle them. But then it dawned on me, I'm like that with cats. The cat that you see as my avatar is, and has always been my baby. She is spoken to like a baby, cuddled like a baby and pampered. Well spoilt actually. But I don't see other cats and want to stroke them, or even have them near me. So I am maternal really, but only for what's mine.

Why Having Children Later Is Great

Meeting the most wonderful person and sharing a life with them has made me broody. I'm not quite there yet, but I now know that I will be. After so many years of not wanting to have children, here finally at 31 years of age I'm nearly ready.

I've done my partying, I've travelled, I've studied and I've lived a really colourful life. Now I just want a happy home filled with a little family.

I think the benefits of having children after 30 are great.

  • You've hopefully found your life partner by then
  • You have a strong relationship
  • You've built a stable home to bring a child up in
  • Hopefully you will have accomplished career goals and success in whatever personal form
  • You know yourself much better then when you were younger
  • You have had more life experience
  • You aren't as selfish
  • You're able to manage a household
  • The little things that mattered when you were younger don't anymore
  • You have more patience
  • You know what you want from life
  • You've done the things that your kids are going to try!


It appears that more and more women are waiting until after 30 to become mothers. Being a single woman through choice in this day and age is a common thing, we aren't expected to marry young anymore. Career is also a big aspect of why women are choosing to wait.

Look at the celebrities who have become mums later:

Madonna 41

Liz Hurley 36

Susan Sarandon 46

Christie Brinkley 46

Geena Davis 46

Courtney Cox Arquette 39

Sarah Jessica Parker 37

Jennifer Lopez 38

Plus I'm sure many others.

3 Friends, 1 With A Very Different Life

The two friends that I wrote of earlier both say that they envy the life I've led and wish that they could of experienced some of that too. They wouldn't be without their children, but over the years they have come to realise that maybe, just maybe, they were a little too hasty in having children so young. That they have missed out on their 20's in some ways.

At 31 I'm very pleased that I never considered having children until later. Being a younger mum wasn't something that ever appealed to me, and I'm happy that I've waited. As the child of parents who had me in their late 30's, it would seem that I am following in their footsteps to a degree.

The Downside

I do think that there is a downside to having kids later. From personal experience, I have always worried about my parents being so much older than my peers parents. I don't want to transfer how I've felt my entire life onto a child of mine because I choose to have them later.

I didn't want to have children prior to meeting my match, so the earliest I would have had a child was at 28. I don't want to be selfish and at 38 decide that I'm ready, and either concern a growing child as I'm an older mother, or on the other hand, leave it too late to actually have a baby. It's not a decision I'm taking lightly. For me personally, I'd rather have a baby in my early to mid thirties than any later. But I guess I'll have to wait and see what happens!

Something that does really bother me is when you hear in the news that a woman has had a baby via IVF and is in her 50's or 60's. Just from personal experience of older parents, I don't think that age gap is fair on the child, especially if like me it is the only child in the family. I heard a really poignant quote a few years ago, and that is "you are never too old to be an orphan". I really believe that to be the case, but I'd rather be an orphan at 50 than at 20. I think that these older women who are having children at such a late maternal age are selfish. A child should not be born to be a carer, and that's what they are sure to become.

Ultimately, it's a very personal choice. I don't think there is a perfect age to have a baby, but I would certainly recommend living life to the fullest, whether you choose to have a baby at 18 or later in life. I guess you just know when you're ready.

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      5 years ago

      wow kitkat, maybe instead of asking people to spew their jealousy elsewhere, you should take a freakin xanax. You completely misinterpreted what carole was saying. She's not pitying your sorry ass, she doesn't understand why some people see having kids as an end to all their freedom and fun. You say you're 29... probably 30 by now and you sound like an ignorant fool. Hopefully you grow out of it before you have your own kids.

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      6 years ago from Chicago

      I was 33 when I had my son. What a miracle he was and still is. We adore the man he has become. He was never embarrassed by our age because we looked really good for our age! LOL

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      7 years ago

      I googled about having kids after 30, because it's all my older co-workers talk about. I have to say I disagree somewhat with this article. I had my first daughter at 20, second at 24, and last at days before I turned 26. I'm grateful I had my children younger. My brother passed away when my youngest was 1 - at least he got to meet all my children. My husband's mother passed away when my second daughter 7 months, my grandparents passed away within 3 months of each other after my second was born. My family just fell apart after the our family started passing away. I'm so grateful to have had the opportunity to start a new generation younger rather than later. I have several co-workers having a hard time trying to have children and ba few friends having a hard time having children... they are all 31 and above. I really feel bad for them listening to their stories about trying to have children. One husband is taking sperm count vitamins, while another is hanging upside down for a half our after sex, another one using ovulation calculators and calculating temperatures, another one is going to a fertility doctor, miscarriages, these are things I never had to think about at a naïve young age. I also learned after I had my children about autism and other disabilities on my father's side, honestly it would have made me scared to have kids at an older age. My husband and I were very fortunate in our 20's, both have engineering degrees, both are successful. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years, and was very fortunate to get back into the workforce with good pay. To each their own, I guess, but what works for one family, might now work or go as planned for another. So it's another thing to think about for people planning to have kids over 30, it might take longer than you think to conceive.

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      7 years ago

      Carole, you're a moron. You "pity" others for waiting to have children? You pity others because they choose to live a life that differs from your own? You're a total b*tch, go spew your jealousy somewhere else.

      I am 29 and my husband is 33 and we are waiting a couple more years to have kids because frankly, we want to do lots of tropical vacations without having to worry about kids, or have to cover my body because of stretch marks. I really enjoy having a perfect body to walk down beaches.

      I think this blog is great and i think it speaks to a lot of people. Thanks for posting!

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      Luna Fae 

      7 years ago from UK

      Sorry Snowflake, not too sure about that one. Maybe try having a look on Amazon?

      Hope you find something to help.

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      7 years ago

      Greetings moonbun, found this article in a search trying to help explain my apparent "profound" writing style to some one who observed it as such. Not easy to find how to explain how an adopted child raised by older adoptive parents is different later in life. Are you aware of any books on the subject ?

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      7 years ago from The Great White North

      I think nature has gotten it backwards a little. While younger women may be more physically able to have children, many do not have the emotional capacity and maturity needed to patiently raise children. So while their may be more medical involvement when babies are born later in life, the benefits for the child and parents are definitely there. Awesome hub.

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      7 years ago

      moonbun! Love you very much!

      I can say that my life and thoughts have been quite identical to what you have written...Felt WOW reading through it.

      Thank you so much for writing so beautifully. Wish you all the best always...

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      7 years ago

      very nice personal opinion of all. start to think about having child after 25 and done by 34 is the best age in my opinion but things do not go as we plan and said. whatever work in own condition could be never come as we planned. only few people get financially satisfied so better to plan as priority basis. we can always earn more money later in life too. Having a child really do not really make huge financial demand in family.Some couple get more responsible, better relationship, caring, earn more and save more even just for the sake of kids. So I think bringing a new little person in a family will always add happiness in everyones family. As long as both partner are healthy, can always have child before 40. It is always not a bad idea to adopt baby, which i will say is real parents and love.

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      7 years ago

      I think this is something we have no control over! Ive been in uni since I was 19 and Im 29 now and I graduate this year! school and my family has been all I have focused on and now,i will be 30 in 4 months,I don't have a home but I do myself more,i am more confident and well more patient.I think Ive put life on hold since 19! specially the fact that we have left our country ,so I did a big chunk of uni in the country we moved to then I went for more,to another country ! all sounds so crazy but I wasn't thinking of it at the time! and what do you do anyway?! I don't go out much..well not at classmates are all younger than me (8 yrs) and I move around so much that I don't stay anywhere long enough to even be noticed! I bet everyone is just feeling so much better about their lives! but above all, the mixed standards that moving around have given me together with what my parents standards are!...I never thought of it this way but we may have a problem in hand!...true,its better to wait till you are older,but I think Ive become more picky,more cautious and the experiences of your married friends/family around is never so positive! my mom thinks anyone who thinks of having kids is crazy!..I don't think I agree with that!..sorry to bore you all ! I guess it will happen when its meant to happen!x

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      7 years ago

      Yep, I think 30-34 is the best time to start your family.

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      7 years ago

      There's something sexy about having a baby in your late 30's/40's. I guess its become 'trendy' because of the high profile celebs who wait that little bit longer because of their careers. But, I think there's something more to it. Obviously there are pros and cons, but the older woman has [hopefully] gained more life experience, wisdom and patience which she can share with baby. I guess there's no right time except when is right for you.

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      7 years ago from Bartlett, TN

      Enjoyed your article. I have 4 children. I had 2 in my 20's and 2 in my 30's. I was 37 when my youngest was born. I feel as though I have been a mom every since I've been alive. They are great people though. I am very blessed. When you have time go read some of my hubs. I think you will enjoy.

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      7 years ago

      Whilst I agree that women should have children younger. I also think it is circumstantial. Not many people these days are priveleged enough to meet their life partner until their 30s. Not everyone gets to have it all. Then, as in my case, you try to get pregnant only to find that your husband has a very low sperm count. I am 35 next week. I have had one IVF that has failed but hope to have a successful one. If I have to I will adopt. I will say that I am much healthier in my 30s than I was in my 20s. I go to the gym, eat organically, I am very fit. Also I don't look my age. In my 20s, I was overweight, smoked and drank alot of alcohol.Mainly I haven't got a choice about when to have a child, but I have hope. Thanks for the article. I agree with all of itxx

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      8 years ago

      Don't paint all people who choose to have kids young as immature and not ready for parenting. My husband and I had our son at 22 and our daughter at 25 (We are now 32). We have been married for 12 years and are better off financially (My husband makes over 150K and I don't have to work). I stayed at home with the kids while I got my masters and my husband is studying for his doctorate. We also have a fantastic marriage life and social life. I am glad I had my kids young. I am able to enjoy life with them. We include them in everything we do and still are able to go out with friends if we choose. I don't see why people choose to "live life" before they have if kids end any life you have. I pity the people who see it that way.

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      L a d y f a c e 

      8 years ago

      Awesome hub! Thank you for sharing your insight.

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      nikitha p 

      8 years ago from India

      Great hub, very well written and I also agree with you.

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      Granny's House 

      8 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

      This is vert true. Too many single parents out there. I think 30 is a perfect age to start having children. You should by that age done a lot and be set in a good job.There is a lot of stress trying to raise children

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      8 years ago

      I find it soooooo funny how people always have an opinion when it comes to a woman's reproductive choices. Unless it's your body, you really have no say when a woman should and shouldn't have a baby.

      As some would suggest, if you're not ready to have kids in your 20s, don't. You're the one who is ultimately responsible for that little life.

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      8 years ago

      I totally agree with Kris. Children especially young children, infants and toddlers, require so much time and attention. I could not imagine planning to start that journey right in the middle of an established career. I am married, 26, with a two year boy and number two on the way. My husband and I met in college and he has a great job that has allowed me to stay home with our son and also with our second child while I finish my masters. Although I worked for a few years, I am so glad to get the infancy period out of way before really diving into my career. It just seems inherently like the wrong time to decide to become a mom.

      I partied and traveled in college and into my early twenties, but that truly got old fast. How someone can want to live like that for over 10 years is beyond me. Why does it take so long for people to grow up these days?

      Anyway I think if you have the proper arrangement, decent income and a loving partner, doing it earlier than your thirties is best. Trust me, when you go into the doctors office at 35 and they start recommending all kinds of additional screening because of your age, you might second guess your decision.

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      8 years ago

      I respect your opinion, but I do not agree with your article completely. I hate that as a society we are taught to make an "either or choice." Either have a child early or have one later.

      I am a 3rd year law student. And I recently attended a forum that discussed women in the profession. Many of the older women did not have any children at all because they believed that they had to choose between a family or a career.

      And this has evolved into present day because not most women in the legal field establish their careers first and then start a family.

      I am different. I was fortunate enough to meet my husband at an early age. By age 22 we owned our home and started to make plans for our careers.

      I delayed attending law school because my maternal clock desired a baby at the age of 23. When I started law school my son was 1 years old. This decision has not affected my grades, participation, or freedom. I am so happy because my son is my heart, motivation - my everything!

      I have it all. I am at the top of my class, on law review, moot court, I am on the way to a competitive career and I am now 3 months pregnant with my last child.

      I am not judging anyone. I just hate when people believe that you cannot have both a fulfilling life (I've traveled around the country and overseas and partied hard) and I have a family before thirty, with a career.

      My mother had her first child at 17 and I had my first child - by choice- at 24. I am so happy. I pride myself on following my heart and not following the pack.

      I do not think of myself as the exception, but maybe the new trend.

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      8 years ago

      Thanks for your article, it was very interesting to hear your thoughts and reflections. The only thing I take objection to is the use of the word selfish. You said people in their 30s are less selfish, but people who have kids older are selfish too. Sounds a bit like the "everyone driving slower than me is an idiot and everyone driving faster is a maniac". I don't think you meant it like that but I think in reality we are all selfish, whatever age, but people at any age can choose to have children for reasons that are more or less self-focused.

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      8 years ago

      What about people who marry at the age of 31 and their husbands do not make enough money to afford children. I have now been married for 2 1/2 years and would like to have children, but we can't :(

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      8 years ago

      What is a "stable home" Is it one does not collapse on you? Is it bought or rented? I agree with a few of the pros of having them over 30 but I still believe it's a young woman's game providing the child has the support of loving parents.

      Sounds as though many older women are fooling themselves.

      25 yr old mum of two yr old happy boy!

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      8 years ago

      Down syndrome can be taken care of early on if a woman finds out like it or not! Also, Autism=Vaccines.

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      8 years ago

      Down syndrome, autism, etc.

      Having kids too old increases the incidence of many conditions.

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      8 years ago from London

      Wow Moonbun, what an honest and heart-warming story. Keep writing!

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      8 years ago from Chicagoland

      Beautiful! I also was raised by parents much older than those of my peers. I have also decided to wait as long as physically healthy to have children. However, I also agree with the drawbacks you stated.

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      bob smith 

      8 years ago

      waiting until later in life increases the risk of your kids being retarded and various other genetic defects. men having children after the age of 30 are already increasing the risk of dwarfism and possibly autism. we live in an extremely family un-friendly society that visits extreme financial and social consequences on people who have children at biologically appropriate ages and morons like you are the reason why. it's simply not feasible politically nor is it even responsible morally to have children so late in life. it's irresponsible and the fact that people pretend as though it's somehow responsible is purely a product of ignorance and stupidity, not maturity.

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      8 years ago

      Great hub! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I know everyone is different, but I strongly agree that it can be very beneficial to wait to have children. I don't know if it has to be after 30, but I just don't like the idea of couples having children so young. I think having children early on takes away from the special years of marriage you can spend with just your spouse. That is time you can never get back, and I think more people should continue to build their relationship with their spouse before they bring children into the picture.

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      8 years ago

      Thank you for your thoughts. I started having children at 29 and I am almost 37 with 4 kids - 7yrs, twin 4 yrs. and a 3 month old. I love children and I do not fault anyone who chooses not to have children or those that were thrust into parenthood. Everything happens for a reason and there are no accidents. I am very passionate about teaching parents how to raise optimistic children through play and I love being a mom. Variety is the spice of life and some have kids and some do not!

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      Portia Briton 

      8 years ago

      My mum had me at 40 and was able to offer me stability, routine, wisdom and a fulfilled life that I felt very much a part of. She was my mum and not my friend as I think younger mums can be, i will always be grateful for that, i needed a role model, not someone who could pick my clothes out or choose my makeup - I had friends my own age for that. I have chosen to be a younger mum and had my daughter at 21, i do feel inadequate in some ways because I feel i am growing with her and now at nearly 30 I am a different person to who I was at 21. I didn't have the wisdom of just living that my parents were able to share with me. So, fertility may reduce and conceiving may become harder, but there is nothing more difficult than raising a child before you are ready.

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      8 years ago

      I do think there is something to be said for living a full life before having children and to take the time to build a solid relationship before raising children. The upside of having children before 30 is that childhood does not feel so far away and you can relate, run and play. The upside of having children in your early 40s is that you have lived life and your patience and experience is greater. But all of it, at any age, is a sacrifice for both parents. I do not think a woman in her 40s is being selfish if she choose to have a child. Some women at 40 are younger in spirit and in better health than some women in their 20s.

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      8 years ago

      Fertility starts declining at 27 years old. It's a fact. It's a painful fact for some women to admit, but it's a fact nonetheless. If you are going to have children after your late 20's, you should go to a reproductive specialist and have an ovarian reserve test done to see what your ovarian capacity is (basically how close you are to menopause). If you have relatives that experienced menopause early, you should be especially concerned. It really doesn't matter if your 30s are a better time to have need to make sure that Mother Nature will let you plan that.

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      Wombat Queen 

      9 years ago

      I agree with what you have said. I've always thought I would have kids by now, but due to not finding the right mate and issues of financial stability that wasn't to be. The longer I have to wait the better mother I think it will make me.

      Although I think there is a truth to nature that even though it is unfair and sexist it is still for the best women can't breed indefinitely like men because everyone needs their mum. However a little known fact is men over the age of 35 have the same high risks of having a child who develops schitophenia as a woman over the age of 40 does to a baby with down syndrome. Not that I am suggesting that either of these illnesses/syndromes should discourage people from having children, because to imply that would say people with schitophenia or down syndrome are less valuable human beings. I do however want to draw attention to the way the media treat older mothers compared to older fathers.

      I see relatives who have broken partnerships and know waiting is the right decision for me. I've known some teen mothers who were fantastic but they usually end up in new relationships, and it is generally a much harder path to take.

      I am also sick to death with how I can be ostracized within my own family from children's birthday parties and the like just because I don't have kids yet.

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      R Oberoi 

      9 years ago from India

      Well said. I am 31 n just have a baby. You are absolutely right then after certain age you have more patience to understand the things and viewpoint of other. Your professional as well as personal front becomes stable. But this certainly depends upon the life partner.

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      9 years ago

      I don't like children. I admire people who want them and who are good parents. It takes an extremely selfless, patient, kind individual to be a good parent. The biggest travesty in our world today is that so many people have children who shouldn't. Birth control should be top of teens, people in their 20's, 30's, 40's and so on. I can't stand irresponsible men who don't use condoms, or irresponsible and selfish women who get pregnant by accident or worse--- for some personal gain, like to keep a man or to have something to keep them busy. Can't stand it.

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      9 years ago

      Being younger grandparent or parent doesn't mean you will see the kids grow up. I saw this in my own family. That is a misconception. I remind myself since my parents are over 65 and face the possibilty of a child and no grandparents. However, people can live well into their 90's. The situation I see with young grandparents like my inlaws is the parents are single and have to depend heavily on them. You can look young at 40 or old at 20. It dpends on how you take care of yourself. Nope, grandchildren at 40 or 60 doesn't guarentee anything.

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      9 years ago

      kids don't have as much time with their parents as other kids may have who parents had them at a reasonable age so i don't like it i'm one of those kids

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      Luna Fae 

      9 years ago from UK

      Thanks for the comment G-Ma, sounds like you have a wonderful family there.

      Dolores - I agree, I certainly couldn't imagine having a child at a younger age.

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      Dolores Monet 

      9 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Having children in your 30's is great. You are in the prime of health and energy and have lost the selfishness of youth. You've waited long enough to learn about child raising and seen enough problems you can hopefully avoid. You are better off financially than an younger person and have really grown up.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 

      9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      wELL I HAD MINE YOUNG BECAUSE THAT'S THE WAY IT WENT FOR ME...WE KINDA GREW UP TOGETHER (caps sorry) and I became an early grandmother and totally enjoy my grandchildren...I then have taken care of children for like 40 yrs...and have seen all kinds of ages that people have had their children...

      A lot depends on the one family tried and tried and about the time they were deciding to adopt they became pregnant...and also very set in their ways and work habits, she had her only child at 47...she went to dying her hair cause she was and still is embarrased when she goes to the doctors and they ask if she is the grandma....this child has mostly older people to deal with, although they try very hard to have play days and is not the same as having a sibling...

      His grandparents are no longer around and he is just 7 so he misses out on all that...

      Being a younger grandparent I had enough energy left to do many things with mine,but now at 69 I have slowed down and just cannot imagine being a mom at this age of a youngster...or a teenager...

      I do think if possible have your children earlier rather then later...I am now a great grandma and have had the pleasure of watching the children grow and wed and become parents...But I also believe what will be will be...G-Ma :O) Hugs & Peace

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      Luna Fae 

      9 years ago from UK

      Lgali - Thanks for reading and commenting

      Amanda - I totally get you. Having kids later does pose the problem of grandparents possibly not being around, it's so sad. Sorry to hear of your losses.

      Congratulations on your gorgeous kids :)

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      Amanda Severn 

      9 years ago from UK

      Hi Moonbun,

      My mum had me at 34 (though admittedly I'm the fifth child in a family of six), and I waited until I was 35 to have my daughter, and 38 to have my son. Sadly I lost both my parents within 14 months of my son's birth, so leaving it later meant that my children don't have any maternal grandparents. I've missed not having my Mum and Dad around. I would have loved them to have seen my gorgeous kids growing up, but it just wasn't to be.

      Lots of women are leaving motherhood until later, so don't worry yourself on that score. As long as you are fit and healthy, and in a secure relationship, being in your thirties, or early forties should be no barrier.

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      9 years ago

      this is good

      You've built a stable home to bring a child up in

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      Luna Fae 

      9 years ago from UK

      roddma - Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. I hope that things work out for you the way you want them to.

      Lisa - Thank you for reading and for the very kind words. When I saw this request I knew that I had to answer it despite never having done so before!

      Sorry to hear about your parents, it's sure something to dread.

      Congratulations on your brood! :)

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      Lisa HW 

      9 years ago from Massachusetts

      moonbun, thank you for such a well thought out Hub.

      I agree about women in their fifties having IVF to have babies. I'm in that age range; and I probably have more energy now than I ever did. I have one adopted son and two children I had myself. For a while I considered trying to adopt another infant once my daughter had grown some, but that "window" closed. I just don't think it would be fair to a child. One thing I, personally, am happy about is that I'm at my age now without grandchildren. :) That's one advantage of having children on the later side. :)

      That quote about being an "orphan" is very accurate. My father died (younger than is usual) when I was 21, and I had my mother until I was in 41; and still, there was that.

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      9 years ago

      As a friend of mine puts it, Babies aren't something you can put in a closet. Im almost 39 with no kids. Im appalled by being called selfish for waiting so long. I never intended for that to happen but some things you cant control. I might not have have been a good parent in my early adult years. Selfish is bringing children you arent' ready for in the world. Single people in their late teens and early twenties have babies and leave them to be raised by grandparents. They never thoguht about consequences of actions.Most people my age are starting to become grandparents. My mother was almost 34 when she had me herself. I often felt like I had the oldest mother. Talk about embarrased. Kids are gonna always be embarrased by their parents somehow. Now I wouldn't trade it for some of the other kids who grew up in troubeled homes and no daddy. I agree with one article I read. For every kid embarrased by their older parents, another is embarrased by the younger parents.


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