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Bullying And It's Effect On Our Kids

Updated on February 25, 2015

Bullying Can Cause Permanent Self-esteem Problems

As a kid, I was bullied and I will never forget it. Not the kind of bullying where they steal your lunch money, but the type where your self-esteem and self worth gets destroyed. Other kids can make our children feel hurt and worthless. Even to this day, I have self-esteem problems from it. Some kids may even lose their lives because of the problems with bullying we have today. Learning to stick up for ourselves in the number one thing we can do for our children and to teach them how is the first step.

Bullying is just as serious as it was ten years ago.

Bullying is a huge issue in this day and age. It has existed for quite some time without any consequences for students. Not only has bullying caused many suicides, and homicides but also it leaves a permanent scar on the child abused by it. I was bullied as a kid, and I still feel the hurt and embarrassment it caused me to this day. People always say that bullies do that to other kids because they had it done to them. If you knew how mean something was and hated it, why would you do it to someone else?

Bullying is mostly being watched in high schools, but even in elementary school bullying can be traumatizing and happen on a daily basis. The suicide stories you hear usually come from junior to high school students, but what about young kids that are being mentally abused? Many of these students are too afraid to tell their parents and even when some of them do, their parents do not do very much about it. Protect your kids from emotional harm that will stay with them forever. Bullying shouldn’t only be an issue when it causes suicide. It should be important far before that, because no child should have to feel left out and beat on.

What would you do if your child told you they were being bullied, made fun of or beat up at school? Would you complain, or would you just let them deal with it themselves? We have to be our kid’s advocates. What happens when your child is the one being the bully? Words are deadly, and can embarrass anyone very easily. Once outgoing kids can turn to keep to themselves. Education should be fun for kids, not cause fear. Being good parents can help stop this big problem in schools.

What Our Kids Need

Our Kids need to feel safe at school, and anywhere else they may be vulnerable to being bullied. Physical bullying is not as damaging long term as emotional or verbal bullying. It can be even worse than verbal abuse. Our children's self-esteem is very important at a young age because it determines how they will feel about themselves as they grow. Child development creates who our kids turn out to be. As studies show, bullies are usually bullied themselves. We need to stop the cycle so all our children will feel safe and love themselves.


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    • JessicaSmetz profile imageAUTHOR

      Just Ask Jess 

      7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      I feel ya on that one. I think it is sad when parents don't care. I was traumatized from being bullied, its something that sticks with you emotionally and damages your self-esteem. We just have to help the kids of today and try to stop it from happening to them.

    • cherylone profile image

      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 years ago from Connecticut

      Jessica, great hub, I was bullied in school and I know how it feels. My parents said I should stick up for myself and quit being a baby about it. Great help, huh? I don't know if I will ever get over the issue completely.

    • JessicaSmetz profile imageAUTHOR

      Just Ask Jess 

      7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      Thank you. It is a really important issue, and It is really sad that it wasn't considered a big issue until suicides occurred. It happens to really young kids, and not just teens. If parents put in as much as they could, bullying could be helped a lot.

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      7 years ago

      Voted up! My son was bullied at school but it was a long time before he told me which was after I noticed a change in him at home. I went to his school but they only paid lip servce to our concerns, even tried to blame him! That was a long time ago - I just hope that schools' approaches to bullying are better now.

    • Ask Queenmother profile image

      Ask Queenmother 

      7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Bullying behaviors begins in the home for too many children learn bullying from parents, from TV, from each other, from the American pop culture and from law enforcement modeling the use of bullying tactics. Children will always be affected by bullying behavior as long as the effects of bullying is ignored or worst rewarded. Parents have to begin from the cradle teaching children to choose peaceful conflict resolutions. Children have both gentle and aggressive tendencies adults have to teach children to use their gentle skills to solve problem and taught to modify their aggressiveness to become assertive and passionate about their meaningful purpose on Mother Earth.

    • MsLofton profile image


      7 years ago from IL

      I voted this up! This is so true! Bullying is something that needs to be addressed and stopped. It really does start at home. I am an advocate for causes such as this, great hub!


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